3 Ways Women Flirt That Actually Turn Men Off
6 Steps To Doing It Right!
There is a lot of inaccurate information about flirting circulating around and you don’t want to get caught up in the “quick fixes” of flirting. Quick fixes involve being confident and just asking the guy out (I’ll get to why this doesn’t work), wearing seductive clothing (you’ll get him but for a short time only), and playing hard to get (if you really aren’t hard to get, he’ll figure it out).
I’m not here to teach you any black hat techniques that use trickery or seduction to get a guy to ask you out. These techniques only work for a short time. But if you are looking for some solid, organic (real:) methods to flirt that flat out work and last long term, you’ll want to read on.
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6 Steps To Flirting the Right Way
Tip #1: Do you have this?
Alright, I have to be very honest with you on this point. It will be very hard to complete this flirting technique if you don’t feel good about yourself. It will be necessary to have confidence when flirting because through your smile a man can sense nervousness and how you feel about yourself. You want to give off the vibe that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you are a “prize” to be won.
Another reason why you will have to have confidence is because every man you smile at will not smile at you back. Maybe he is married, maybe he is in a serious relationship, maybe he is just not that interested, maybe he’s gay, maybe you didn’t notice his girlfriend walking directly behind him. The possibilities are endless.
And that is ok, when you have confidence you understand that you are still a bombshell and obviously him not smiling back is a problem of his and not yours.
Tip #2: At your best
It’s just a fact, the better you look the better you will feel about yourself. The more comfortable you are the more relaxed you will be. When you are walking around in clothes you don’t feel good in, it will be difficult to flirt. Have you ever noticed that your attitude changes depending on what you are wearing. That is why schools make kids wear uniforms, because putting them in that dress says it is time to work. That is why people where business suits, when you are dressed in that way you know it’s time to work.
So when you are flirting you want to feel sexy and feminine while still being completely comfortable. This doesn’t mean going out and buying new clothes it just means looking the best you can.
Mega Tip: Men love women who wear dresses and skirts. Because not a lot of women wear these outfits nowadays. Men like women because they are women. They love to see curves and legs. That’s what makes you different from them. This doesn’t mean dressing with all your assets out. It just means looking nice and feminine.
Tip #3: What’s your decision?
The first part of this flirting technique is deciding who you want to flirt with. If you want you can go ahead and choose the easy target at first. But eventually you will have to choose the man you really want. You don’t want to make it a habit of flirting with guys you have not interest in. You run the risk of confusing the man since you clearly gave him the “green light” and go ahead.
Tip #4: Catch him
When you decide which guy you want to flirt with, you will need to catch his eye. Give him some eye contact while giving him a warm smile. The smile should say “welcome”. Be careful not to grin or cheese. You want him to know that this smile is specifically for him. Hold eye contact with your warm smile for a good 3-5 seconds. I know this may seem like a long time, but you want it to be obvious that this smile is for him.
Tip #5: Look Away
Next you will have to look away slightly. Either tilt your head down a bit or look at something else briefly, not your watch. This should be done for a couple of
seconds and then look up again and give him another smile. If he is really interested he is probably already interested in you.
Tip #6: Let him lead
The final part is probably the hardest. When he approaches you, let him lead the conversation. Let him do the talking. Let him ask you for your contact information. Trust that he will know the right things to say.
This technique works time and time again for women.
Note: Flirting is not all that difficult to do if your ONLY goal is to get the guy to come over and talk to you. Just flash him a warm smile and if he’s into you he’ll come over and talk to you, period. But what really hurts is attracting him and not knowing how to talk to him when he approaches you, not knowing how to have an effective teasing conversation on the phone so that he automatically asks you out, and not knowing what to do and say on dates when you go out to make him want to call you back. You can visit Kara Oh’s website, From Flirting to Forever, to get advanced tips on how to flirt effectively.
The Flirting Technique That Has Worked Time & Time Again
I’ve always been interested in how people meet and it’s not uncommon for me to ask someone how they met their mate.
I remember a time when I asked my granddad how he met my grandmother. His answer was really straight-forward and simple. He told me that a lot of women smiled at him but when my grandmother smiled at him, he smiled back.
And when he told me this, I really have to admit I thought he was kind of crazy, it couldn’t be that simple to meet someone. I had tried for years to attract the type of man I wanted without avail.
As I began delving deeper into relationships and actually helping thousands of women with their relationship issues I found very early on why this technique worked for grandma.
You see, my grandmother wasn’t the type of woman to turn heads, she wasn’t super skinny or super attractive. She didn’t wear the latest trends nor was she super sociable. She was just an average woman who knew an extraordinary secret. Maybe by accident or maybe she knew what she was doing.
My grandfather on the other hand was actually a very handsome man. He was very fit and and unlike my grandmother, he did turn a lot of heads. A lot of women most likely threw themselves at him to no avail because at the end my grandmother got the ring.
But what is amazing is how my grandmother’s simple flirting technique actually works as well as it did back then as it does today. See, I’m kind of like my grandmother, not super attractive, not really sociable either, although some might disagree. And the thing about it is I like a lot of men who are “out of my league”. I like men with muscles and an attractive face although you could probably search for hours on me and not find one trace of a muscle. I also like men that dress nice although I could probably count the number of “nice” outfits I have in my wardrobe on one hand.
So one day I just decided to mess around and flirt. The first time was in a coffee shop. I said if I’m going to put myself out there I’m going big. Go big or go home, right? So I saw this attractive man in a suit come into the coffee shop. I looked him in his eyes and gave him the warmest smile. He looked at me and gave a flirtatious smile back. I didn’t implement the second part of the flirting technique that causes a man to approach you because I was in a relationship but it amazed me at how great it worked. A simple smile and this tough man in a business suit who walked into the coffee shop was rendered defenseless with my smile.
Why is this?
Well, you have more power than you think as a woman. With a simple smile, done the right way, you melt a man’s heart. He becomes sort of defenseless and you get into the heart of a man. Really it seems kind of unfair because once you effectively catch his eye he really can’t help the actions that follow. He will want to approach you and see you again. He won’t want to miss the opportunity.
You see, a lot of women go through the day not making eye contact with men, let alone smiling because of low self confidence or they feel they need to do more to flirt. But flirting is simple. You can modify this technique for whatever situation you are in. You can use it at work, while at a nightclub, or even at a library.
Allowing the man to approach you starts a relationship the right way because he is doing the pursuing. A lot of relationships fail because the woman is trying to pull the relationship along by trying to “convince” a man why she is right for him. It just doesn’t work. Men will always want to be the one who pursues and most likely be turned off by women who throw themselves at them.
Advanced Flirting Techniques
Advanced flirting techniques involve not only being able to get a man to approach you but to also be able to communicate effectively with him over the phone and while dating. You want to be skilled at the right things to do and say during the first crucial 3 months so he becomes more attracted to you. Check out From Flirting to Forever to see how you can do this effectively.