Mini Blog Post Series – Are You Giving Too Much??
Occasionally, I will answer relationship questions for readers of my 10 Lesson Mini Course on Men (it’s free, btw).
And as I was answering a question for one of my readers, I realized that a lot of women may have issues with the same thing and decided to post a mini blog post on giving too much in a relationship.
About My Reader
My reader was telling me about how she has been dating a guy for 7 months and how the relationship is great but….he does not want to commit because he doesn’t believe in love.
Hmmm….doesn’t believe in love.
What We Tend To Do
Oftentimes when dating you may respect a guys decision to only want to see you on certain days or the fact that he has been hurt in the past and wants to take the relationship slow. You may be very accommodating because you don’t want to scare him off.
But what about you? What do you want? Is he accommodating you? What are your standards?
If you are not getting the things you want in a relationship, you shouldn’t be giving like you are. If you are giving him everything he wants, there is actually little desire for him to give you what you want. Why? He’s getting everything he desires, why should he change anything.
What You Should Do
1) Firstly, you have to decide what you want in a relationship. If you want a committed relationship full of love and someone who believes in love, you should not be settling for anything less.
2) Once you figure out what you want in a relationship, I would suggest not giving a man everything he wants (for example: sex, cooking for him, cleaning for him, living together) if you are not getting the things you require or need.
You should save these things for a committed relationship. And if he is not ready for that, you should not be ready to give to him like you are already receiving everything you want.
I would also recommend taking a look at this site, What’s He Really Thinking? You will start to understand which men are most likely to commit before getting into a relationship.