So there’s this guy I have liked for the past 6 months now. His family and mine are really good friends and I have heard from his relatives that he has feelings for me.
Right now he has a girlfriend, but she’s in college in San Diego and we’re in Seattle so I don’t believe their relationship will last.
I don’t know what to do!
My friends say I should go and talk to him, but I feel like hitting on a taken guy is wrong…but I do want to initiate something!
What should I do?
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If you’re at the stage now where you would like to meet a guy with the view of dating and starting a relationship together, start getting out there and meeting eligible men but leave this guy alone regardless of your level of attraction for him.
BECAUSE HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! Need I say more.
Trying to get with a guy who already has a girlfriend is asking for trouble, if not now, then certainly later in the future.
You may end up being in shoes of the girlfriend he is currently with. He could always turn around and throw this back in your face should another woman pop up in the future.
I wouldn’t pay too much attention to what his relatives say, you never know what their motives are for telling you and are likely to be a bit biased which could also mislead you into a false sense of security.
If he breaks up with his current girlfriend (without your interference) then that’s fine.
If the time comes for you two to take your current level of rapport to another level by dating each other then that’s fine too but for now I think you should put your attention elsewhere as this situation has the makings of a problematic situation if you involve yourself in waters that you don’t belong in.
I can understand your desire to initiate something with this guy after all you feel his relationship with his current girlfriend won’t last and you feel a level of attraction for him but you must exercise some self control, self-respect, morals and respect for him also.
He could end up resenting you one day if he leaves his current girlfriend for you, things don’t work out between you and then feels that you’re the reason behind it all, it will be one big drama. Not worth it I’d say.
The advice your friends seem to be giving you don’t sound too clever, your gut is telling you the right thing…..hitting on a taken guy IS wrong….period!
Don’t entertain it, you’re worth more than being the “replacement girl” in this guys life or even worse a rebound which is likely what you’ll be if you pursue this at this moment in time.
What do you think? Does him having a girlfriend mean he’s off limits or is he still game?
Are there any circumstances where you would consider dating a guy with a girlfriend?