Even If He Has Lost All Interest In You
There is a lot of anger and sadness when a break up first occurs. It can even linger for months or years. When your ex boyfriend has seemingly lost interest in you and is able to move on with his life without an interruption it even hurts more. Maybe it seems like the break up hasn’t affected him at all or even worse he seems happier that you are not together. If this is the case, there are still things you can do to make him want you back and even want you more.
I’m going to share with you three things you can do to get your ex boyfriend to want you back and also some valuable information on why break ups happen in the first place.
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Before I share with you how to make your ex boyfriend want you back, you will need to understand the reason break ups happen. Most often a man will break up with a woman because he senses that the grass is greener on the other side, meaning he feels that he can do better without you. He may also break up with you because he needs a break. Or, he may have interest in someone else. Whatever the reason may be for him leaving, it only takes a little skill to get him back interested in you and want you back.
I’m going to be honest with you, it will be difficult to make your boyfriend want you back but simple. Let me explain.
Here’s the most important part in getting him back:
Firstly, you will need to exercise some self control. Often times just as a break up occurs or even months after, you may feel the need to “stalk” your ex lover. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are driving by his home at 1:00 in the morning or that you happen to pop up at his job because you were “in the neighborhood”. Stalking most often happens by phone and text, because it’s easy to make a phone call and hang up and even easier to shoot off text messages out of anger and sadness.
The hardest part in making your boyfriend want you back is going to be exercising self control. If you can control your actions, you are more likely to make your boyfriend want you back.
If you are calling and texting him continously, he has you right where he wants you. Because he knows that he was a big part of your life and that he can have you back at anytime he wants you, so there is really no rush.
But if you discontinue calls, texts, and communication, he has no idea what you are up to. Could you be ok with the break up? Was this something you wanted all along too? Could you be dating someone else? Could you have already had someone else throughout the relationship? He has no freakin’ clue, so automatically he is going to shift from having fun and moving on to trying to figure out why you aren’t trying to get him back, especially if you had wanted to get back together with him so much before.
How to move on to get back together…
Next, you will want to keep your mind off the break up. You will need to fill your time with things that you like to do. Get in contact with some friends that you might have lost touch with because you were “too busy” with your relationship. But be careful not to use them to talk about how horrible you feel about the breakup.
Your focus should be figuring out what life is like without your man. This is a great skill because you will be able to define yourself without him.
Are you the gift or are you the giver?
Lastly, since you have stopped contacting him and have started your own life you will need to have a different mindset. Your new mindset involves knowing that you are the prize to be pursued. You will also need to entertain the possibility that your ex boyfriend may be the guy for you or he may not.
I know if you really love your ex, you really don’t want to entertain the possibility that he may not be “the one”, but adopting this new mindset puts you in a much better position in actually getting him to want you back.
You won’t be “easy” anymore and he will see that you know that you are valuable and he will have to really do some work and pursuing to get you back. He will want you even more because he sees that you now have options, you could be with him or you could move on a date other men.
BEWARE: Not contacting your ex boyfriend may cause him to quickly pursue you and want to be back in your life. He may start chasing you again and want to be intimate again. But you should never be intimate with your ex boyfriend without a commitment. Just let him know that “you aren’t into casual intimacy anymore”. You need more. You will only get hurt worse if your boyfriend comes back to fulfill his needs only to leave again.
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