Welcome Back!
In our last lesson we discussed the importance of education when wanting to create a happy and healthy relationship.
In this lesson I am going to share with you a very powerful tip that will put you way ahead of the game.
If you watched Kara Oh’s video from last lesson, you already have a heads up on what I am going to talk about today.
We are going to discuss a man’s NUMBER ONE need.
Whether you are dating someone, you have a huge crush (never too old for those), or if you are in a relationship, the following information will mean a huge shift in your relationships with men.
The most important thing to a man
A lot of women get this wrong, they believe that men want a pretty woman by their side or a new game console or a lot of money.
Although most men if you ask will agree that those things are very nice, if you know the reason or the root to why they are interested in these things it will put you way ahead of the game.
Men NEED to feel successful
Every man’s primary goal is to be successful. When a woman does a good job at this, a man will LOVE being around her.
So the pretty woman or having a lot of money for men is a way to meet their primary goal, the need to feel successful.
You don’t have to look like Halle Barry or Cindy Crawford to give him the feeling of being successful, which is very good for me, because I’m not a gym bunny (not knocking you if you are).
I’ve actually discovered an easy way to make him feel successful. I’m going to share it with you in this lesson so you can add it to your pocketbook.
If You Are Dating or Even If You Aren’t:
I love love love this technique. It has always worked for me and it is really easy to implement and fun.
This technique actually will work with someone you are dating or have been with for a while. You can also use it on crushes, when applicable.
You can even use this technique if you want to draw him closer to you. Make sure you are genuine when using this technique because it’s really easy to tell if you are faking it.
One way you can draw him closer to you is by giving him a compliment. I know this seems very simple and not even worth calling it a secret but the way you give your compliment will make the difference between drawing him closer to you or pushing him further away.
A compliment like “I really really had a good time with you” might sound great to you and you would probably love hearing this from a man but I’m going to challenge you to change the way you give compliments.
This is important because of two reasons.
1. If you’re focusing on what he has provided, you are making him feel more successful automatically. Why? Because he has PROVIDED it.
2. If you go with the compliment “I really really like spending time with you”, you’re putting the focus on HIM. And this causes a lot of men to get scared and feel like you’re pressuring him to be with you.
Here’s a much better compliment:
Say that he has taken you to the movies and the movie was great. After the movie, talk about how great the movie was.
Say “I really loved that movie”, “It was so funny”. “That was the best movie I’ve seen in a while”.
This is an easier way for you to make a compliment because you don’t have to worry about waiting for him to say something nice back to you.
And he will be smiling on the inside and most likely on the outside too, because HE has provided you with that experience and he has become SUCCESSFUL in making you happy.
Next Action:
This week, whether you are dating or you have a crush or you are in a long term relationship, try this technique out. You can actually use it on any man to make them feel really good.
If your dad buys you lunch, focus on how great the meal is. If you go out to a concert with a guy, talk about how great the band was. If you are working on a project with him, talk about how well written his portion was.
For example if you’re working on a project with him, instead of “You are the best writer and researcher” say “Wow, this section is really good. It’s so well put.”
Also, if you haven’t already, I want you to check out Kara Oh’s Men Made Easy website, I fully endorse her program and it has been extremely helpful to women in this course.
Why some women in the course just don’t get it:
But some women just don’t get it, why?
Because you haven’t safe listed me in your spam folder! Make sure you get the next message and whitelist me (robyn@relationshipblackbook.com) or whatever you need to do to get the next lesson, because you won’t want to miss it:)
Until the next lesson,
Robyn Lee
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