When it seems like you have been dating forever and you are doing everything right to make him want to commit to you, it can be frustrating when he doesn’t make it official and commit. Is he playing games? It may even seem like he goes back and forth and doesn’t know what he really wants. What makes a man want to commit? What makes men fearful about committing to a woman?
There are some very logical reasons why a man will drag his feet when you are ready to have him commit. 99% of the time the reason a man won’t commit is because he does not have a compelling reason to commit. You can create this compelling reason by using “exclusivity” and keeping the relationship “open”. Men commit when they fear that they will lose a woman that they are truly interested in. They don’t want someone else sneaking in and taking what is theirs! So how do you make him see you as “the one”?
I use my guy magnet program often, even though I’m married now, to keep the spice in our relationship. I’m going to share with you two techniques that are in the program that have made a major shift in my relationships and my marriage. It’s really basic psychology, but when you use it in relationships, you’d be surprised at the dramatic shifts that occur.
For instance, he will call more, he will be the one that brings up the commitment conversation, he will want to spend more time with you, and he will defend you if anyone says anything negative about you. When he has fallen for you, he will put up with your little moments of “crazy” (we all have them, lol – and if you don’t, lucky you!) but still be head over heels for you. AND you will find that other men react differently to you too. You will wonder why a man still keeps in contact with you even though you didn’t really feel a “spark” or strong connection with him.
But the most important thing is that you will have valuable tools that can be used that will build your relationship on solid ground and it won’t be able to be shaken by many things. Once you use these strategies, you will even be able to determine if the men you date are even worth your time. This will make it easier to spend more time with the man who is right for you, and let go of all the game players and men that don’t truly know what they want.
You will find that you will attract the right man effortlessly while many of your girlfriends will be clueless as to what they are doing wrong to make a man pull away.
If you already have the guy magnet program, I encourage you to go through it twice or dust it off. The techniques and strategies in the program WORK.
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Powerful Strategy #1
I love this strategy. I did this unknowingly on my husband when we first met and I would always wonder why he kept calling even though I was not giving him any clear indication that I was into him. I always was “too busy” to get together. I actually did have a lot of things going on. And when he asked me out, it was difficult coming up with a time that worked (because my schedule was “full”).
When you think about what makes a person appear to be “desirable”, one indispensable quality is just how valuable it feels spending time with that person. If you know that you can get in touch with someone anytime you call them and that they will pretty much go out with you at anytime, at first that can be exciting, but after a while it gets old. Your subconscious mind starts to think that they have nothing else to do, and you lose a little respect for that person. Maybe you don’t ask them a week ahead of time if they can go out. Maybe they turn into your last resort friend that you text one hour before an event begins.
Exclusivity is when you make a schedule for yourself and you don’t allow things to take you off your schedule. Say for instance you plan to workout at 12:00p.m. If he calls you and wants to do something during that time, it’s better to tell him that you already have plans than to change your plans for him. Believe me, if he is interested he will find something else you can do together.
This is only part of how exclusivity works, there is more information on how to use it with your relationship situation in the program.
Powerful Strategy #2
Standards and Boundaries
This comes into play even before you start dating. There should be some things that are just unacceptable to you or things that you won’t put up with. For instance, one area that I see some women fall short on setting standards for is how many children they want in a relationship.
If a man tells you he has 5 children already, and you only want 2, then there is no reason for you to see him again. You know that you don’t see yourself with a big family and if he already has one, then you are lowering your standards to meet his.
You may know that smoking is a turn off for you, but you begin to rationalize his smoking by saying that you don’t want to be controlling. Controlling would be staying with him and trying to change him and make him stop. Not entering into the relationship, if you know that is a deal breaker for you is having standards.
By using this, you are able to essentially “weed out” men who are not right for you. In the guy magnet program, it outlines how to determine if your standards are too high and if you are looking for the impossible “perfect man”.
Just by using these two strategies you will be able to attract the right man for you and keep him interested. Hope this has been helpful for you today!
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