The Flirting Technique that My Grandmother Used To Get Her Man that Still Works Today, Click Here to Find Out How to Use It
As much as I hate to admit it, I had a crush on a guy for 7 years.
And if you aren’t able to correctly read signs that he likes you, you could be in the same boat.
Ok, maybe not 7 years, I’m admittedly a slow learner, but you definitely don’t want to waste your time and your precious thoughts on someone who is going through life not thinking about you.
Note: Guys, the good ones anyway, will not approach a woman unless she gives him a clear sign that she is interested. This is because the good guys will want to know that you are available for a relationship. Players usually just approach anyone, like throwing paint at a wall and seeing what sticks. That’s why if you want to attract good guys it is imperative that you understand how to flirt the right way. Because flirting doesn’t stop at him getting your number you have to know how to communicate effectively during the initial phone conversations and on the first few dates to grow his interest instead of turning him off. I recommend you visit Kara Oh’s website, From Flirting To Forever, to discover how to do this effectively.
Well, it wasn’t my entire fault, he did do some things that made me think he liked me…ok maybe just a couple.
When we were in college, we lived on the same dorm floor. One time he came to my room and put both his hands on my shoulders and asked me questions about a class we had together.
I’m sorry, before I go on, I have to mention that this guy had a girlfriend the majority of the time I was crushing, if that wasn’t a signal enough that maybe he wasn’t as into me as I thought if he remained with his girlfriend.
And the next thing he did was…
He asked me out to a company event of his, this was near the end of my crush and he had actually broken up with his girlfriend.
At this point I thought for sure he likes me. Until he wanted me to split parking with him and that was the first time I thought that maybe he wasn’t as into me as I thought he was.
The final straw came when he was telling me about a girl he was crushing on and by then it was the 7th year and I just came out with it, “Are you talking about me?”
He seemed appalled that I would even ask him a question like that. So obviously he wasn’t having the same dreams of having a family and living in the burbs like I had foresaw our future together.
But after he had gotten his composure, In so many words, trying not to hurt my feelings he told me “No Robyn, it’s actually a girl that lives near my house.”
I felt a little hurt but by that time I still had some disgust from him asking me to pay half for parking, so it wasn’t long before I just got over it.
I never want any woman to go through what I did to figure out if he likes you.
First of all, no woman should have that strong of feelings for a man that a crush should last that long.
Here’s the problem:
Chances are that if you are a woman you have done this before.
When we see a guy we are interested in and maybe see him in a few interactions, we start to create our own fantasy of the guy even if we don’t know a lot about them.
We start to imagine in our heads what life would be like in a relationship with him. And we stop looking at facts and creating this perfect man and fantasy.
In my case, I had such a vivid imagination that we had reached age 89 together and still in love. I even imagined how he would look when he was older; we were good friends so I had met his father. His dad wasn’t a looker, so I figured that he wouldn’t be as much when he aged, but I was willing to sacrifice for love:)
I found this short video on YouTube for you that explains it perfectly.
You are more than girlish fantasies, any guy that is actually interested in you should be pursuing you.
You are making a massive mistake if you are creating his personality from your imagination without interacting with him.
If you do this you treat him as if he is already giving what you want, when in reality he isn’t. You start acting as if he is and start giving to him like he is.
This is what happens with a lot of women who become intimate way too early, they fall in love with their own fantasy of a man and not who the man actually is.
Be familiar with the signs that he likes you
As women we need to be familiar with the signs that he is into us. And there are really only two you need to remember.
There is a good chance that he likes you if he approaches you.
Here’s why:
It takes a man a lot of effort to risk rejection and actually get up and talk to you. So if he has risked his self esteem and being rejected, you better believe that he is attracted to you.
And the more nervous he is talking to you the more he is attracted to you.
This doesn’t mean that you start having a celebration or start wedding planning.
It is up to the man to impress you and show you he is someone who could potentially add joy to your life.
So women who get “star struck” usually start getting all giddy about a man and being overly excited.
No matter who a man is, you have to look at it all the same. He could be the right man for you or maybe not. Only time will tell.
Don’t act like you’ve won the lottery when you haven’t even checked your ticket.
Allow him to impress you and pursue you, his attraction will grow.
If you are giving him everything he wants his attraction doesn’t have room to grow and most likely he will become disinterested very soon.
The second sign that he likes you has to do with him trying to make you happy.
There is a good chance that he is interested in you if he offers to help you with something.
Men get their joy from the opportunity to make the woman they are interested in happy and providing for her.
If he is offering to carry your books from one class to another, or offering to shovel the snow off your car it could be a sign that he is into you.
But don’t over analyze it.
Remember your attitude should always be this could be the guy of my dreams, or maybe not. I’m not sure I will see what comes of it.
So, let me get this right, I’m supposed to sit around and wait until he pursues me?
YES, that is the best possible outcome, but if you are a smart woman you learn the art of flirting so if a guy is on the fence of whether he wants to approach you or not he has more confidence with the right flirting technique.
A very easy technique to catch his eye is to gaze for 2-3 seconds and then smile, this will let him know if he wants to come over and talk there is a good chance he won’t be rejected. – Since men fear rejection as much as women.
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