Getting Him To Pursue You Again
If you are already dating your man, it can be tough when his attraction is starting to decrease.
You are not alone. This happens with most relationships. This is crunch time. This is when he figures out if he wants a long term relationship with you or if he’s really not all that interested.
It is crucial that you do the right things during this period in order to move things from a period of uncertainty to a full blown relationship.
I understand, at first he was all into you and all of a sudden he’s stopped doing the things he was once doing and you are wondering – Does he really like me?
This is all natural, the nature of a man is to have really strong feeling for a woman at first and then those feeling slowly die down. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but a lot of women mess up at this point and ruin chances for a long term relationship.
One of the infamous arguments you may have with your guy is “You did all these things to get me and now you just don’t do anything anymore…” Warning: Avoid having this discussion with him because it just pushes him farther away.
Also avoid making the #1 mistake most women make when guys start to pull back.
The worst thing you can do during this time is start pursuing him. You may feel that he’s been doing all the work, now he wants you to show him that you are interested also. This is completely false. And will get you in trouble every time.
You can do things for your man, but they have to be in lesser quantities than what he is doing for you. Because men want to be the man in the relationship…go figure! And the more things you do for him, the farther you are pushing him away.
But what if I already had the discussion and made the #1 biggest mistake?
It’s ok. Your chances for a long term relationship with him are not over. You just have to do things differently to build his attraction again. Even if you haven’t done these two things your goal is to build his attraction during this time so he ultimately continues to date you.
One way to do this is to give him a little space. I know it sounds counterintuitive, you may think you should be around him during this vital time of indecision so he can see how great you are. Nope. The best thing to do is to spend time with friends or family and avoid pursuing him.
If you must give him a call, don’t call to ask him out. Your phone calls should be for informational purposes only. - To tell him you had a good time on your last date or To ask his opinion about a topic in which he expertise. Avoid giving him any advice or offering your help for anything.
I know, it seems like you should be doing more. If you can’t wait and want to know more effective strategies to move him towards a long term relationship with you, I highly recommend the Men Made Easy Website, it offers an easy step by step guide on how to avoid mistakes that most women make that cause a man to lose interest when he otherwise would be into you.
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