This post will explain why most good men cheat, some men will cheat regardless given the opportunity and does not apply to them.
We got it wrong ladies. For years, we’ve been dressing up, wearing makeup, putting on our high heels and making sure we show enough cleavage to get his attention when he strays.
And all too often when celebs break up we always ask “How could she get cheated on? She’s beautiful.” Or “If Halle Berry or Christie Brinkley was cheated on, there’s just no hope.”
Many times women wrongly assume that the reason why men cheat is because of something physical. And I’m here to challenge your views on why men cheat and tell you a simple way you can prevent it in your own relationship.
I’m not saying that you can put your makeup and high heels away, men do appreciate when you look good. But what I’m saying is there is something more important that is CRUCIAL that you add to your daily routine. In fact if you don’t add this into your daily routine, there is a good chance he will stray.
As much as I hate to admit it, I at once was attracted to someone else’s man.I was very surprised that I was able to get in so close with him especially since he had a girlfriend for over 7 years.
But once I understood the #1 reason why men cheat, it all made perfect sense. He was missing something very important in his relationship that if he had there would be no way I would have been able to get in.
Luckily, as far as our “heated” relationship went were a few very long personal emails. She was a very smart woman and was able to catch it before it went too far. And hopefully what she did was give him more of what he obviously needed.
And that thing that he obviously needed was…appreciation. If you have been keeping up with What Men Want or if you are part of my mini course 10 Lessons On Men, you would know that a man’s number one need is to feel successful.
The woman that is able to achieve making a man feel more successful will always win….that is how you attracted him in the first place.
Think about it…when you first get with someone, most of the time the world revolves around him, you pick out his good attributes and you run with it. And even his bad attributes you kind of sweep under the rug.
At the beginning of the relationship is when a man is most happy because he is being successful at making you happy. And that is his chief aim, to feel successful.
Fast forward to a few months or years later, the appreciation starts to diminish and you might start to suggest things that he could do better or ridicule him for not going after a promotion at his job. Or complain about him not doing things around the house. Not saying these issues should not be addressed but there is a correct way to address them.
Your man begins to feel that he can’t make you happy anymore. Thus making him feel unsuccessful.
This doesn’t mean that he is going to hurry and go and cheat on you but it does mean that his defenses are weakened.
So when otherwise, he would be able to ward off the women who say, “You look nice today” or “You did such a great job on that project” – His defenses are weakened and if a woman really wants a piece of your man, this is her prime opportunity. Because all she has to do is compliment him and make him feel good by acknowledging his accomplishments and make him feel that he can be successful at making her happy.
Don’t get me wrong…this is not the ONLY reason why men cheat. But such a large amount of men cheat because of it, a little less than 60% that it bears passing along the information.
So the #1 thing you can do to keep your man’s attention on you has nothing to do with how you look, the first thing that should be done is to fill his appreciation tank (I know, it’s quite dorky – I’m a daughter of two teachers).
But that is what you will need to do, speak life into your man. Let him know that he is successful at making you happy. Be amazed by some of the things he does. In the next lesson in this series we will discuss some warning signals that he is straying.