Hey there, I’m Robyn—Editor-in-Chief and lead writer here at Relationship Blackbook. I started this blog back in 2009 as a place to share real-world strategies for women who struggled to attract the kind of man they truly wanted. As my own relationship grew, so did the topics I covered—expanding from dating advice into marriage, communication, and beyond.
Then life got busier. In 2014, I got married. Soon after, I had children and built a thriving content development business—creating high-impact digital campaigns for major brands and fast-growing websites. Churning out content was straightforward when it came to products and markets. But when it came to something as personal as relationships, that same high-volume formula just didn’t feel right. Between raising a young family and juggling big client projects, I simply didn’t have the bandwidth to nurture Relationship Blackbook.
So throughout the years, I brought in several relationship writers for fresh perspectives—yet whenever it was time to hit “publish,” I hesitated. Their voices were insightful, but they never felt like mine.
Meanwhile, my husband and I began facing serious marital struggles. We’d let years of resentment and bitterness build to the point where we couldn’t even hear each other.
It was too much to handle on our own, so we sought professional help—and therapy was transformative. I realized I had a lot to learn, and even more to share, about what truly makes relationships work.
And over time, I recognized that the most authentic—and most helpful—content came directly from my own real-life experiences.
I’m no marriage counselor or therapist—just someone who’s learned a lot through lived experience, personal research, and a ton of reading. In fact, when I sit down to write a new post now, it’s not unusual for me to spend five hours—or more—on research, drafting, and fine-tuning the content. I want every article to be clear, digestible, and genuinely helpful—because if I’m sharing my own journey, I want you to get the most out of it.
Trust me, I’ve made my fair share of mistakes—like assuming that what seemed obvious or intuitive to me (and my girlfriends) would automatically make sense to my husband. Spoiler alert: it didn’t. Once I realized men can see things completely differently, I understood that how I communicated was just as important as what I was saying.
Through therapy, I discovered new ways to share my thoughts in a language my husband could understand. And the more I let go of trying to be “right,” the more we built a healthier, safer, and more supportive relationship.
Today, Relationship Blackbook is where I share these insights—along with the ups and downs I’ve personally faced—so you can (hopefully) shortcut some of the pain. My goal isn’t to hand down absolute truths; it’s to offer stories, reflections, and research-based ideas you can test in your own life. Take what works and leave the rest.
I’m still learning, and I still make plenty of mistakes. But I’ve found that sharing the real, messy side of marriage helps us realize we’re not alone—and that’s exactly what I aim to do here. Together, we can find the tools to build happier, healthier relationships.
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