I feel like I’ve been chasing a guy, at first he seemed flattered but now he’s pulling away. How do I get a guy to be interested in me again?
This is a great question! I talk about chasing and pursuing in my 10 lesson mini course. This is because I feel that it is vital in attraction and continued attraction.
It may be hard to do this, but the best thing you can do is take some time and focus on yourself. It may seem by not continuing to pursue him that he won’t know that “you like him”. This is not true. One of the mistakes that women make in dating and relationships is believing if they aren’t continuously showing a man that they “like him” or that they are “into him” than he will lose interest. This is what is effective with women, not men.
As women, we like for a man to continuously chase and show his affection for us. Men are different in that respect, if you continuously do these things for men, HE WILL LOSE INTEREST, no matter how interested he was at first.
Another thing that gets in our way of bringing the attraction back is the idea that “I don’t want to play games”. It’s not playing games, it’s doing what is effective. If you want to lose weight, it’s a known fact that you have to exercise. Because you really DON’T want to exercise or you don’t “feel” like doing it, are you playing games to lose weight? Heck no, you’re doing what’s effective. So here is what’s effective at bringing his attraction back IF he liked you in the beginning.
Focus more on yourself and the things you like to do. Don’t change your schedule for him and don’t interrupt what you are doing to accommodate him. I personally have a TV show that I love to watch and anyone short of the President or the actual people in the show coming into my living room to meet me would get completely ignored.
Allow him to be the one to pursue. Don’t call him or “accidentally” run into him. It may take a couple of weeks, but when he contacts you again his attraction will be stronger and you would have cooled down a bit because you have been too involved in your own life to think about him. This works amazingly.