Best Ways To Attract A Man You’re Probably Not Trying But Should
I’m Robyn Lee, welcome to my relationship website. I created this website so you can learn from my many mistakes and many nights being frustrated because nothing I did seemed to work to attract the man I wanted.
I want to help you attract the man you want so you can have a healthy, happy relationship with your Prince Charming as I have with mine.
I am going to share with you the 4 things that are not only important but necessary to attract a man that you want. Let’s be honest, any woman can attract a man, but it takes a little bit more to actually attract the type of guy you want. I am going to share with you 4 secrets that will greatly help you attract the type of man you want almost effortlessly.
I have not always had it easy with relationships and attracting men. I had a very tough road. I was the girl that always wished and dreamed of being in a healthy relationship with Mr. Right and things just never really worked out for me.
But during my college years, instead of gaining the “freshmen 15” I lost 30 pounds in a very short amount of time. It had to do with having an internship that required selling books door to door in Georgia from 8:00a.m in the morning to 9:00p.m. at night. Yeah, I’ve done some crazy things!
But the important thing here is that even after I lost the weight, I still had trouble attracting men. So I learned my very first lesson about attracting men.
Biggest Lie About Attraction
Appearance doesn’t guarantee he will be into you. Because although I had changed my physical appearance it didn’t make any difference in me finding Mr. Right.
Sure, I had a few more men who approached me, but I never could really close the deal, no one wanted a long term relationship with me.
And you probably know for yourself if you keep up with any celebrities. Some of the most beautiful women in the world have the most awful relationships. And that’s where I learned my second lesson.
Which would you rather have?
It’s Not About How Many Men You Get, It’s About How To Keep The One Who Is Right
What’s the use of having several men approach you and be interested in you only to have them leave you within a few months time? It doesn’t feel very good.
Quality is Better than Quantity
Most women will agree that they would rather have one quality man than several men that don’t have anything going for themselves or who is only interested in being intimate and leaving.
I started to realize that what would make and keep a man interested in me had more to do with how I carried and felt about myself than anything with him.
I have read about everything I possibly can on relationships and use my knowledge to help others avoid the mistakes I made at the beginning.
It took me more than 10 years and many funny stories to realize what I was doing wrong that made men who would have otherwise been interested in creating a healthy relationship with me avoid me like I avoid those sales people in the kiosks in the middle of the mall who want to rub lotion on your hands.
If you want to be effective in attracting men, the first thing I would suggest is that you decide what you want.
Why Women End Up Getting What They DON’T Want
I was actually in the grocery store the other day because I was hungry, probably the worst time to go! I was looking for a few items for lunch but ended up bringing out everything I saw that I could carry in my arms.
I didn’t get a cart because I told myself I would only get a few things…
So needless to say I ended up with a few items I didn’t need. I mean $1 mugs are nice but they didn’t have anything to do with lunch.
So before you do anything to get a man, decide what you want, and write it down.
This is important because if you know that it is important for you to have a man who has a regular job or who likes to work out, you won’t entertain any men who do not have that going for them.
If you are broad and just express “I just need a man”. I guarantee you, you will get a man, but you might not be happy with what type of man you get.
So before you do anything else, write out a list of what you want in a relationship and put it where you can find it often.
This was one of my mistakes, I was so frustrated with not having a boyfriend at one point I actually said out loud, “God, please just give me any man, something”.
The next stop I made was through a drive thru and the guy at the window had about two teeth and he asked for my number and if that wasn’t enough he said he wanted to test call it right then just to make sure I had given him the right number!
If I had known what I know now I would have just told him I was already in a relationship. I mean you don’t have to lie here; you can be in a relationship with yourself, your mom, your son or daughter. Everyone is in a relationship!
Besides writing your list of what you want in a relationship, it is important that you actually believe there are good men out there that would want to create a healthy relationship with you.
Why If You Don’t Believe You Will NEVER Achieve
Do you have friends who say there are no good men out there? Have you ever seen them with a good man?
One of the mistakes I had made early on was since I wasn’t meeting any good men I thought that there were no good men out there and they only wanted one thing.
I think the thing that changed my mind was that I had the pleasure of meeting some very good guys in college that changed my perception of men.
I started saying there are a few good men out there, and you know what? I started to meet more good men.
One thing I know for sure, if you have a negative view of men it will be very tough for you to attract the type of man you want. Almost impossible.
Think of a good guy that you know, maybe it’s your dad or your brother or some nice guy that filled up your gas tank when it was really cold outside. If that guy could be good, there has to be others out there like him,
This is probably the one thing that will make the most difference in you meeting more good men. Your beliefs has a lot to do with what results you get.