In Love With A Player

Dear Robyn,

I have been in love with a player for 4 years. I have begged, pleaded,  gotten mad, tried to date other guys…nothing works. I am to the point of believing I am never to find happiness and I am to be alone.

Destined to Be Alone

If you are in love with a player and you know it, you are definitely barking up the wrong tree. You say that you have done several things to change this like begging, pleading, getting man, dating other men, but have you cut your connection with him? If he can still have you in love with him and he is with other women, why should he change? Nothing has changed on your part.

I know the toughest thing to do when you are in love with someone is to let them go. But if you want to be in a healthy and happy relationship you have to love yourself more. You have to love yourself enough to go after what you really want.

How silly is it for someone to want Mexican food, but go to an Italian restaurant? That’s the same thing you are doing here, you want commitment but you are in love with a man who is unwilling to give it!

When you think about what you want out of a relationship, you have to get those things from someone who has the ability to give it and if you want commitment, a man that is unwilling to commit is not the right place to get it.

My advice to you, move on, although it may be tough. Once you meet a man who is willing to commit to you and only you, you will look back and thank yourself for making the right move.