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Are you into a guy whose ego is so big it cannot fit into one relationship? You are aware that he is a player but you still want to be with him. If so, proceed with caution. You are most probably dealing with a player, an apex predator of the dating game. Even so, I’ll still show you how to get a player to fall for you.

I know this is a flaw for us women – when we love, we do so unconditionally. This makes dealing with a player tricky. One wrong step will leave you nursing a broken heart and becoming one of his ‘trophies.’ 

So, how can you turn a player into a devoted sweetheart? Is such a thing even possible? Well, it is, and if you stick, you’ll learn  how you can get him to fall for you. 

Defining A Player

So, what’s the deal with modern-day Casanovas? Figuring this out is how you get him to lose interest in other women. 

Players are like dogs chasing cars when it comes to women. At his default state, one woman is simply not enough for him. In fact, there is a big chance he believes he is supposed to be a womanizer. 

Yes, that sounds absurd, but players are a different breed of men. Common strategies won’t work. You have to step up your dating game.

Of course, there are reasons for his behavior. Maybe all of his macho friends are players as well or he just didn’t find the right girl to settle down with. Don’t worry, I will cover this in detail as well. 

How To Get A Player To Commit & Fall For You?

It’s simple – when with a player, you play a game. If you play it right, you are set for a touchdown. You will win his heart. Keep reading and you will discover efficient tactics on how to get a player to fall for you.

Flirt, But Play Hard To Get

A player will only fall head over heels for you if you avoid getting too involved in the process of his seduction. As I said, players are apex predators. Being eager to please is the fastest way to lose his attention. 

Let him question whether you are truly interested. For example, you don’t have to answer his booty call or put an emoji at the end of every text. You are not just another star in his hall of fame. He will realize you are a whole galaxy of stars.

Let me let you in on a secret. Strong relationships are a game of give and take. Dating a player is not any different. For you to flirt your way into a player’s heart, you need to stay aloof. Keep him interested but don’t go all in. 

Wear Your Clothes; Don’t Let The Clothes Wear You

Every dress is your self-portrait. Wear something that will make him believe the word she starts with shhh for a reason (because God created a woman with a sensual whisper). Be sexy, but not slutty, as showing off too much leads to getting too little.

Go for clothes that complement your figure. Showing a little skin won’t hurt; just don’t overdo it. It is no secret that players are infatuated with attractive women. Take advantage of this using your fashion sense. 

Don’t be timid. Be bold with your clothes and I guarantee that you will rock his world. Men are visual creatures; the player you are into is no different. If you play your cards right, your fashion sense will have him making excuses just to meet up and hang out with you.

Lastly, if a player likes your style, then he will want to be seen more in public with you. This means you will get to spend time together having fun and getting to know each other. 

Stay Mysterious

Most players are addicted to mystery. Think about it. It’s probably the reason they find settling down so hard. For them, it’s all about the chase. A player will lose interest if he thinks you are an open book. 

So how can you cultivate an aura of mystery around you? How do you keep him guessing and coming back for more?   

First, you don’t have to answer all of his questions right away. Not knowing what you think and how you feel is a great aphrodisiac. Make him think – Maybe she is born with it and maybe it’s her enigma. This is how to make a player fall in love with you. 

It’s also a pretty good idea to put him on the lower end of your priorities. I know, this sounds hard and counterproductive. But the truth is, a player won’t fall for you if you are always available. Make sure that the priorities come first. Don’t drop everything at a whim just to be with him. 

Once he understands you are different from his previous flings, he will respect you more. 

Here’s the cherry on your cake: Most players are challenged by driven women.

Constantly keeping him on his toes will only make him cherish your company even more. The best part?  Not only are you safe from being used, but you will also keep him interested in you.

Be Independent

Being available round the clock will kill your chances of winning his heart. Going on the offensive is the only way to beat a player at their own game. You have your own life to live so focus on your job, your hobbies, and your friends.

Here’s something you should know: The only relationships men find valuable are those that they have to put the effort in. Look at it this way. As long as you keep improving yourself, you will remain valuable in his eyes. 

Players cannot stand monotonous routines. You’ve lost him the moment he finds you predictable. 

So, how can you realize your own unique version of independence? In my experience, you can’t go wrong with self-improvement. 

For starters, take care of your appearance by regularly exercising and eating healthy.  Next, set ambitious goals for yourself. Not only will achieving them do wonders for your self-esteem; you will also set yourself apart from other women he’s pursuing. 

Let him be impressed by the diversity of your interests and personality traits. Rock his world!

Control Your Emotions And Desires

All players are like astronauts – they need their space (this includes emotional space). Do not make jealous scenes as those are going to push him away. 

Another thing to avoid is being clingy. A player is used to his freedom and independence. 

Do not set ultimatums and make demands as well. It is not a pretty good idea. He will quickly become distant once he suspects that you are out to control him. You are not the first confident woman to try and change him, so this approach won’t work. 

Change for a player mostly comes from within and giving him his space will do the trick. Once he realizes that you don’t have time for his antics, he will be forced to take stock of his actions. 

It is also important to keep in mind that knowing to hold off on sex is knowing how to make a womanizer fall for you. Sleeping with a player on a first date would show him you are just another easy target.

Generally, letting your emotions get the best of you is not a good idea. That’s not how to win a players heart.

When The Time Comes, Step Up Your Sex Game

The bed is the only place where you should not control your emotions. Take all those affectations you have been hiding in public and turn them into fireworks in the bedroom. Be uninhibited. Otherwise, he will be bored in no time. 

Keep in mind that a player has a wealth of sexual experience. This means he will have expectations. Don’t panic! Confidence in the bedroom will go a long way. 

Show him that you are willing to take the initiative. Pay attention to what he likes and be daring. This will keep him coming back for more. That’s precisely how to make a player fall in love after sleeping with him

Respect His Freedom And Privacy

You need to let a player breathe like letters in this sentence. If he wants to go out with his friends, let him be. If he leaves his phone on the table while taking a shower, don’t check his Facebook messages. Possessive behavior is never how you get a player to commit.

In fact, being clingy will kill any prospects of getting him to fall for you. Also, it’s not good for your health. Keeping tabs on a womanizer will only stress you out in the long term. This is the reason you shouldn’t consider dating a player if you are the jealous type. 

Give him his space. In case things don’t work out, letting go will be easier on your part. 

Avoid Excessive Flattering, But Validate His Ego

If he sees you as an independent girl, one who is capable of thinking on her own, one who is not a cliché, he will believe when you tell him he is smart or that he has a nice body. 

It’s ok to cherish his self-esteem. On the other hand, don’t let his ego take over your relationship. This means you shouldn’t be afraid to correct him when he is wrong. He will respect you more for this. Only insecure men hate criticism.

Be Cool With His Friends

Socialize with his entourage, even if they are guys you don’t like that much. Be natural and let your personality glow. You can’t be a pearl if you’re hiding in your shell. Once his friends see you as girlfriend material, it will be easier to build a friendship with your player.

However, you should be careful when socializing with his friends. Not just in real life but on social media too. Avoid getting too familiar. You might be unintentionally sending mixed signals. Make sure that his friends know you have eyes only for him.  

Be There For Him

When a player has a problem, he doesn’t just need a safety net. He needs a trampoline where he can freely jump from happiness and fall into anger. Even the biggest Casanova has insecurities, so he will highly appreciate it if you let him express his emotions, meaning, he won’t feel the need to look for support and validation elsewhere.

How to make a player fall in love with you and like you even more? Let him believe he is a bad boy.

The truth is – you have fallen for a player because of his bad-boy attitude. As becoming a boring monogamist is his biggest fear, you should not prevent him from having fun without you. Spoiler alert: If you build a friendship with a player, you will have to define the boundaries of ”having fun”.

Dating A Player FAQs

What Are The Signs Of A Player?

What you have to keep in mind is, a player is a master manipulator. Not in an evil way. He is just really good at getting you to do what he wants.

The kicker? You might never figure out that he’s pulling your strings. 

Read through this section to find out if you are dealing with a player: 

Too Many Female Friends

Now don’t get me wrong; it’s perfectly fine for a guy to have female friends. But, watch how he interacts with them. Does he insist on regularly keeping in touch with them? Does he get defensive when you bring his female friends up? Finally, does he have a password on his phone that he won’t tell you about? 

This only means one thing; he is playing for the other team. There is a high chance that he is having an affair with at least one of his ‘platonic friends.’

He Possesses A Silver Tongue

You know what I am talking about. As I have said, a player is essentially a puppet master. I am not kidding. If you let him get under your guard, then it’s over. 

So how does he do it?

It’s simple. Mind games. Once a player understands you, he will do everything in his power to get you entangled in his spell. Think about it, how did he pick you up so easily? Unlike the average man, players have experience dealing with different kinds of women. He will know exactly what to do and say to ‘click’ with you. 

Why? Because it’s a challenge for him. But don’t fret, I will show you how you can turn the tables on him in a bit and also how to win a player’s heart.

He Keeps You Away From His Friends

Does he separate his personal life from your relationship? It’s a sure sign that he’s a player. Any personal questions you ask him are expertly evaded. If you are not careful, he will convince you to drop the matter altogether. 

How? He’ll tell you that it’s a more ‘spontaneous’ relationship if you don’t know much about him. 

Look, whatever he gives, just know that you are being taken for a ride. A guy that’s into you should be excited at the prospect of introducing you to his loved ones. A player will never introduce you to his friends, let alone his family. He wouldn’t risk anyone letting it slip that you are just one more trophy in his collection. 

It’s Always About Sex

What kind of connection do you have with him? Does he challenge you intellectually? Do you share conversations that never seem to end? These are the hallmarks of a great relationship. However, if all your guy wants is sex, then he is most definitely a player. Don’t get me wrong, I know that men have sexual needs. But, if a guy likes you, he will focus on your needs as well. 

How Do You Make A Player Jealous?

Now that you know what to look for, it’s time you learn how to resist his advances. This section will show you how to beat a player at his own game by making him jealous. Consider this the ultimate brief guide on how to make a womanizer fall for you.

Self-Care

It all starts with you. How do you feel about yourself? Take steps to make yourself as beautiful as you need to be. The best part is, there is no set standard for beauty. It’s all about confidence. 

For example, you can make a statement with your dress code, it will make you stand out. And guess what? 

Once a player realizes you are getting attention from other men, he will get jealous. Make yourself look good, no matter the occasion. Make him think, “Does she wake up like that?” 

When he asks about your other guy friends, use his tactics against him. Remain vague. He will come to the realization that you have other prospects and a life that doesn’t involve him. 

Have A Good Time

Nothing will make a player more jealous than the thought of you having fun without him. Here’s why. Players are very competitive in nature. He won’t sit well with the idea that other people can show you a good time as well. 

You can go the extra mile and post pictures of you having a ball on your social media.  You can be sure that once he sees them he will be green with envy. As a result, he will want to spend more time alone with you. 

Play The Game

The truth is, dating is a game. And the only way to win is if you play it well. Don’t fall easily for a player. I mean, I know he is smooth, but you can’t let him get under your guard. 

Hold your cards close to your chest. Revealing them makes you easy prey. The harder you are to get, the more confused he will become. 

How Do You Tell If A Player Is Falling For You?

Is a player falling for you? Is he serious about changing his ways? Here is how you find out. 

He Starts Calling More

A player will only call you when he wants to hook up. It’s sad but true. But this will change when he starts falling for you. He will call you more often just to find out how you are doing. Also, he will be the first to text you. Finally, he will respond to your messages faster instead of leaving you hanging. 

He Focuses On You

If he starts ignoring other women and focusing more on you, then he is catching feelings. He will slowly cut off old flings to spend more time with you. Your birthday date will no longer be a mystery to him. He will remember everything you tell him. 

He Can’t Stop Staring At You

Has he gone from a smooth operator to a smiling wreck when he is around you? Do you catch him staring at you a lot? Then he is falling hard for you. I am not kidding. A guy that is into you won’t notice the most beautiful woman if she served him coffee. His eyes will be on you, smiling the whole time. 

Final Thoughts

Following all the strategies and tips we have looked at so far is like casting a spell that will make a player fall head over heels with you. After all, it is ok to play a love game if both sides are winning. 

Once he perceives you as mysterious, authentic, tolerant, and independent, his heart will grow bigger than his ego. The ego of a player might still be huge but remember: size doesn’t matter unless we are talking about hearts. 

Good luck!

This topic dominated all of our conversations at middle school slumber parties (and maybe even high school ones). It served as the top-secret content for our notes passed covertly during class. You remember, the “check yes or no” format, right? When technology finally came into the picture, the art of crafting the perfect text message to pose this question without sounding too excited or “needy” became a project that required the minds of four different friends. 

Before that, navigating the tricky web of AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) to reveal your feelings to someone was a process in itself. Telling a guy you like him, if you have experienced this before, has most likely been an emotionally and mentally draining, anxiety-inducing process. This is true especially if you really care about this guy. Or, to quote and embarrassing but iconic pre-teen phrase, “if you “like like him”. 

It should not have to be this way! Women should be empowered and excited to express their innermost feelings without fearing rejection or judgement. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world, and most people do feel this way. So, don’t worry, you are not alone and it’s okay if even just reading about this situation is making you nervous.

Telling a guy you like him can certainly be nerve wracking, to say the least, and how to tell him you like him can be even more daunting of a decision and take a long time to figure out. Odds are, if he hasn’t already told you that he likes you, you are really choosing to put yourself out there and are being vulnerable with no promise of reward. 

But hey, good for you! I’ll say it again; it isn’t easy to do this and if you’re taking the time to think about telling a guy you like him, that shows that you care and are confident in yourself, and that is certainly a “win” no matter what the guy’s response is. 

So, let’s address the real question here: how do you tell a guy you like him? There are many ways and this will depend on many different factors. Did you just meet? Have you been friends forever? Are you very close friends and wondering, “should I tell him I like him at the risk of ruining our friendship?” 

I hate to burst your bubble, but there is no perfect way as to how to tell a guy you like him, and, of course, no foolproof formula for success since every person is so drastically different. However, I have come up with some basic, but effective ideas to get you started as you prepare for this momentous event in your life. 

Wait – we should back up here. Let’s first explore this scenario to make sure that you are set up to be successful once you do this. We need to gauge if there is any romantic chemistry between you two. 

Find out whether or not he may like you by asking around. I wouldn’t suggest running to his best friend to confess your love, but try getting the opinions of some of your girlfriends. Odds are, since they are more objective, they can give you a realistic answer. 

Look for some hints that he may drop casually in conversation. Does he compliment you out of the blue? Does he mention hanging out with you? If you start to pick up on these things, most likely it is not a coincidence and he is trying to tell you something. 

Start simple conversations with him. Small talk can be very telling. If you two can carry on a conversation, it shows that you have the most basic chemistry. Similarly, if he is willing to talk with you about more mundane things like the weather, the big test next period, or the latest drama with your coworkers, he is interested in spending time talking to you which is a great sign. 

If you’re still wondering, check out these articles for more tips as to how to determine whether or not a guy likes you: 

Now that we’ve established that there is some potential here, let’s talk about some strategies for actually telling this guy that you like him. Like, like like him. 

Be Blunt

Believe it or not, as confident and intimidating as some of them may seem, guys like it when girls take initiative. More often than not, rather than viewing it as pushy or annoying, they’ll find it admirable, and even sexy, that you didn’t wait around for him to say something. This shows that you are confident in yourself, which is an extremely important quality in a relationship. 

Getting straight to the point also eliminates the typical “gameplay” and skirting around the issue that causes anxiety, stress, and confusion. In reality, you are both probably wondering the same thing and don’t want to be the first to say it. If you’re ready to make this move, be the one to say something first. 

Compliment Him 

You don’t need to go over the top on this one, but guys love being complimented, especially if it is on something they are good at or passionate about like sports, performing arts, academics, or their appearance, style, etc. 

When you compliment a guy, it shows you are paying attention and that you notice things about him that you like. This can be an alternative way to tell a guy you like him without coming right out and saying it. 

Ask Him About Himself

This tip builds off the last. Guys will get the hint that you’re interested in them if you show genuine interest in the things that they like. This is also a good indicator as to how you will function as a potential couple. 

Even if you aren’t necessarily passionate about what he is passionate about, showing that you care speaks volumes and shows that you are not all about yourself. If you are genuinely interested and curious, he will definitely notice that you’re trying to get to know him more, be affected by that, and hopefully take it as a sign that you’re interested.

Use Body Language

Let’s try eliminating words and showing him you’re interested with some subtle, or maybe not-so-subtle, body movements. Contrary to how insecure we as women can be sometimes in terms of our appearance, men generally take notice of indicative body language. Sometimes, men are even more in tune with body movements and language than words. 

Here are some body language tips to show that you are interested:

1. Flip your hair
2. Give him a coy smile
3. Put your cell phone away/don’t scroll through social media or texts when you are around him 
4. Smile genuinely when he says something interesting or funny
5. Make and keep eye contact during conversation 
6. Lightly touch him on the arm, shoulder, etc.
7. Flutter your eyelashes 
8. Laugh 
9. Lean in closely during conversations to make it more intimate 
10. Walk closely next to him so your bodies are almost touching
11. If you’re feeling especially courageous and the moment is right, reach for his hand 

Be Persistent

There is a fine line here between being a stalker and making a concerted effort to establish a day and time for a date. Guys, especially if they are shy or don’t have a lot of experience with girls, may appreciate this and take it as a sign of interest. It also may make them more confident in continuing the relationship and taking the initiative themselves in the future. 

Ask Him Out On A Date With A Specific Date And Time

Again, this is a bold option, but a guy may be more willing to show interest right away if you make the first move and attempt to schedule a date with them without playing any games. Here are some great first date ideas for you to suggest: 

Be Honest

Most people appreciate honesty. This is true before and during a relationship. If you approach the guy, and this situation, as honestly as possible without trying to play games or lead him on, he will be more open to listening to what you have to say. 

I think most people who have been in long-term relationships can agree that honesty is certainly the glue that holds a relationship together. There are going to be many times in a relationship when you will have to be brutally honest, so why not start doing so with this mindset now? 

All this being said, it is important to remember that this is just one person’s advice. Sometimes, especially if you are lacking in experience in this area, it is valuable to hear what others who have been in your situation have to say.

We totally get it. Telling a guy you like him is incredibly intimidating, especially when you really are not sure what is going to happen next. Depending on the outcome of this situation, the result could be embarrassing and heartbreaking, or it could be the best thing that has ever happened to you. 

The most important thing to remember is that the worst thing you can do is not tell him and always wonder what his response would’ve been. If you feel strongly enough, you should take the initiative to do so. Otherwise, you will always wonder what would have happened. The worst that can possibly happen is that the guy does not feel the same way you do, you have an awkward moment or period of time and eventually move on to bigger and better things. 

Life is full of these difficult, emotional situations. If you are really invested in the potential of this relationship, you may find yourself at a real crossroads as to whether or not to risk being hurt. However, if you take the tips from above, as well as use your own judgement to evaluate the situation, I have no doubt that you will be able to determine the best course of action. 

Though it may not be perfect or as romantic as a movie, it will undoubtedly still be a learning moment and something valuable for you to experience in life, regardless of the outcome. I hope it is a positive one, and I wish you nothing but confidence and luck as you go after what you want!