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7 Strategies You Can Use To Make Him Fall In Love…Even If He Has Started To Pull Away!

So you are dating a man and things have been going well, but you haven’t really gotten him to the point where he has fallen head over heels in love with you like you have for him?

You want to move to the next step of commitment, be exclusive, and stop playing these games of cat and mouse, where one minute he is doing all the right things and the next it’s like he can care less whether you are with him or not.

I’m going to share with you 7 effective strategies to get your man to fall in love with you. If you are looking for quick tips to manipulate him into loving you, this is NOT the right place for you. But if you want to build sustaining love that stands the test of time, you have come to the right place. Be sure to read ALL 7 strategies as they work best together and you will be amazed at the wonderful results you get by using them.

How To Make Him Fall In Love

Getting a man to fall in love with you on his own accord is kind of like having a successful job interview. There are a lot of ingredients that can help you stand out from all the other candidates (other women).

Here’s the thing, a lot of women do things that cause a man to pull away instead of wanting to move towards commitment with her (I’ll discuss a few of them here), so when a man encounters a woman like you who knows the things that make him fall in love, he will be more than willing to make you his, exclusively. When it comes to attraction and making a man fall for you, it’s not all that difficult to do, if you are doing the right things.

You May Have To Unlearn Some Things

But I have to warn you, although these strategies are extremely effective and simple, you have to unlearn some things that you have thought to be effective in the past.

Once you start putting these strategies into use the correct way, you will find that not only the man who you want to fall in love with you react in a different way, but you will find you are building better relationships with other men too.

Strategy #1

This is actually the backbone of ALL the strategies, it’s like a prerequisite. If you don’t have it, you can’t use the other strategies effectively.

In fact, if you don’t possess this quality, you WILL NOT want to make him fall in love with you at all. This is because, you have probably attracted the WRONG man for you.

The first strategy is all about loving yourself. In order to use the following strategies you have to LOVE YOURSELF first. I’m not talking about the superficial type of love you see on Social Media, where people are posting a zillion selfies of themselves in different types of mirrors.

This is not what I call self love. Self love comes from a more authentic and organic place within you. It’s been ok with yourself and all your imperfections.

It’s really looking in the mirror and appreciating the person you were in the past, because you have learned so much, loving the person you are now, and being excited about your daily growth that is going to create an even better you each and everyday.

Part of loving yourself is taking care of yourself physically and mentally. You should have goals for your future that are beyond getting married and having millions of children with him. What do you want out of your life? What steps are you taking to move yourself towards that?

Are your goals authentic and truly yours? When creating these goals for yourself make sure that they are YOUR goals and not what someone else has projected upon you. What do YOU really want out of life? If you are stuck as to what you want, don’t get stressed or frustrated, you are in a great place. You should start by experimenting with different activities that catch your eye.

One way to give yourself a great mental boost is to write down your goals and write down just ONE activity you can do to move you toward that goal and start doing it now. It doesn’t take an entire month for you to get that mental boost, sometimes it just takes a day of loving yourself enough to work towards what you want.

When Is It Right To Get Back With An Ex? (And When It’s Not)

How do you know if it is a good idea to get your ex back?

Let me be honest with you. Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise that he left or that you dumped him. He just wasn’t good for you but you were too scared to break it off fearing that you would be alone or that you wouldn’t find someone else. Fooling yourself into thinking he was “the one” even though he mistreated you, constantly cheated on you or just wasn’t a good team member (supporter of you).

If you are having trouble determining whether you actually want him back, join my 5 lesson mini course on how to get your ex back at the bottom of this page, the first lesson, “Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?” speaks volumes.

Here’s 3 questions to ask yourself to see if it’s really right to get back with your ex:

Were you and your ex really good together?

Don’t fool yourself now! If you know that your relationship was NEVER easy and it was like work everyday, you might not want to invest in getting him back.

Did your ex support your goals in life?

This means that he was a good team member and wanted you to succeed. Be wary of relationships when your ex “hates” on you and “mean mugs” (giving you an angry look) you when you achieve something. You want him to be just as happy or more happy for you than you are.

Did your ex treat you well?

This kind of goes hand in had with questions 1 and 2 but I want to dwelve a little bit deeper now. How did your ex make you feel? Was he physically abusive? Did he tear you down with his words? Has he called you out of your name? Has he talked about you behind your back? Did he treat you differently in private than in public? (meaning was he really sweet to you when you were alone together, but when you were in public he acted like he barely knew you OR was he really nice to you in front of your family and friends and then treated you bad when the two of you were alone?)

These are all things you have to think about when deciding whether to get back with your ex.

1. Calling, Texting, Emailing (Nope, can’t do it)

This is a huge mistake that many women make. We are sometimes guilty of working from our emotions and not thinking logically. Let me explain. When you break up you may want to call, text, or email him to let him know what a big mistake he made or even to let him have it and let him know you’ve already moved on. HUGE MISTAKE.

Here is something that is not only going to help you with your ex, but for the rest of your life:

Just because your emotions say to do it doesn’t mean that it should be done.

Read that again, because a lot of times even during dating, we can do some crazy things. “I just felt he was “the one” and I had to tell him how I felt even though we’ve only talked twice.” This gets women in more trouble than anything else.

So hold back your emotions and put on your “game heels” – never heard that before in my life – just made it up. But you know what I’m talking about, let’s think about this thing.

There is one caveat with contacting your ex. If you understand how to do it the right way, it can actually help to contact your ex. Here are two programs I recommend that help you learn the right ways to do it to be most effective.

Don’t Be THAT Girl

2. Are you OK with the breakup?

Of course you’re not, then otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. But does he have to know that? Nope.

Think about it, if you aren’t constantly calling him, texting him or emailing him, he has NO CLUE what you are doing.

This is a good thing. Have you already moved on? Are you out with the girls on the prowl? Did you already have a back up boo ready? He has no freakin’ clue and this works to your advantage.

BUT if you are constantly contacting him, he knows exactly what you are doing: Sitting at home on your butt, thinking about him and contacting him. You’ve showed all your cards:(

3. Think Differently

When dealing with a breakup, you may feel that he is “the only one” for you. But you have to get yourself thinking that maybe there are other people out there that you would be compatible with. You aren’t throwing the idea of getting back together with him away you are just opening your mind up to the possibility that you could get along with another person.

Why the heck would I do that Robyn?

This is so you don’t operate from fear, which is the worst thing. If you feel you have other options, you aren’t hounding on the door of the one option. You can relax a bit. Think about if you are only applying for one job vs. applying for several. You know that you might work one place or you may work another. It’s just puts your mind more at ease and helps you get ready to get your ex back.

So what if I’ve already made all these mistakes?

It’s ok if you’ve made these mistakes, you just need to do things differently now. You can learn the right way to get back with your ex in my 5 lesson mini course on getting back with your ex.

Welcome Back!

Thanks for renewing your subscription to Relationship Blackbook’s relationship tips and strategies. You will continue to receive great information about relationships from me. Please look out in your inbox this month for new relationship mini course titles including:

Road To Commitment E Course: This course is for women who find themselves not moving towards commitment with their partners. The goal of this course is to show you tested strategies to cause your man to want to move to the next level of commitment.

Save My Relationship E Course: This course is for women who are in relationships and find that their partner has lost interest or is not willing to move forward. The goal of this course is to use techniques and strategies that bring his heart back to you, so you can start the conversation of moving to the next step, whatever that may be for your particular relationship.

Get Your Ex Back E Course: This course is for women who have recently or not so recently broken up with their ex but want to repair the relationship and resolve previous issues that caused the break up. The goal of this course is to determine first if it is a good idea to get back with your ex and then use time tested strategies and techniques to cause him to bring his heart back to you.

Also, I’ve put together a new article about how a man falls in love (these are the 3 things that I did unknowingly to make it easy for my husband to fall in love with me).

I also share an embarrassing story of how I tried to make a guy fall in love with me. You may even squeal when you read it because if you knew me back then, you would have surely stopped me!

The post includes:

3 Crucial Steps That Cause Men To Fall In Love With You
How to Get Him To Notice You, Even If He Doesn’t Know Your Name
3 Things That Cause Men to Lose Interest EVEN If He Was Interested At First

I can honestly say that if you miss any of these three steps in causing a man to fall in love, you are building your relationship or marriage on shaky ground.

But if you do use these three steps, you can almost ensure that you have built a solid relationship/marriage – and even if he begins to pull away, it will be temporary and you will ALWAYS be able to bring him back.

==> 3 Crucial Steps To Cause A Man To Fall In Love

We’ll talk soon,

Robyn Lee

Long Relationship Issues:How Do I Keep Him Interested In Me?

“I have no problem attracting men that I want BUT after the first few dates they tend to pull away. I’m currently dating a guy and he replys everytime I text him BUT he doesn’t initiate communication any more and doesn’t ask me out. What can I do to make him want to be with me?”

By James Taylor

Regarding the specific situation with this guy, you say that you are currently dating him, but he doesn’t initiate communication with you now and doesn’t ask you out.

Are you actually still doing anything with him at the moment, or do you consider yourself to be “currently dating” him because you have gone out with him a few times and have not officially broken up?

If you haven’t gone out with him for a few weeks or you’re having to push him into doing stuff with you by continually inviting him out, it is a pretty clear-cut situation.

This is that the guy has decided that you’re not the one for him and he’s probably just trying to give you “the hint” by not calling you any more.

As a guy I can assure you that when we find a woman we are excited about and things are going well, we won’t stop calling or trying to get together with her – unless there is a VERY, VERY good reason not to. [Of course though, we might try to play things cool by only contacting her every two or three days.]

Even if something like a family tragedy occurs, we would probably still contact the woman and tell her that we are not going to be able to see her for a while.

So the bottom line is that there is probably nothing now that you can do to make him
want to be with you, as he no longer appears to be interested.

Your only slight hope is that if you stop texting him, he may begin missing you and start contacting you again. However, if you keep initiating contact with him it is only going to make you look desperate and seem like a pest.

It is actually very important at the beginning of a relationship that the guy is the one to initiate most of the contact, as this keeps the masculine-feminine dynamic in the right balance (men are naturally hunters and do not normally respond so well when they become the hunted).

But now, let’s look at the bigger picture – the trend of your recent dating life:

The Bigger Picture

You have no problem attracting the kind of men you want, but they tend to back away from you after the first few dates.

Obviously, you are doing a lot of stuff right. These men have initial interest in you and they are motivated to act on it.

This is great because many women have trouble even getting this far. [For those women in this position, please have a read of my article, “How to Get a Guy to Like You”, as it provides some important information on gaining a man’s interest and attention.]

My advice is that since you are not having any trouble getting new dates, you should try to let go of the outcome of finding “the one” and instead focus on just having fun – then let the chips fall where they may.

Don’t get so emotionally attached to any one guy after only a few dates. You don’t know him well enough to determine whether he would be a good long-term fit for you in such a short time. Furthermore, you could easily meet someone even better the following week.

Remove the pressure from every interaction and take the longer view of it being a numbers game in which you have to sort through a lot of guys to find your “perfect match”. That way, you will also appear a lot more attractive as it helps to eliminate the perceptions of neediness and of having an agenda which we will discuss in the second part of this article.

https://relationshipblackbook.com/two-behaviors-that-cause-men-to-pull-away/

About our Guest Poster:

James is a dating and relationships author and coach who specializes in teaching women how to attract the man of their dreams, make him fall madly in love, and then keep him interested over the long haul. He runs a website Attract Men Easily which provides cutting-edge information on these topics.

How Do I Tell Him I Like Him When He’s Leaving?

I like a man and he has been giving me signs that he likes me for the past couple of months. But he hasn’t asked me out yet.

He is leaving soon for a few months and I think the reason he hasn’t asked me out is that he doesn’t want me to wait for him.

So how do I let him know that I am for sure interested and wouldn’t mind waiting on him?

Guest Poster: Marvin Barrett

Marvin helps single women identify and avoid dating non-committal men and find their Mr. Right. He coaches women to identify the best places to meet the right men for them, read the signals men display when uncommitted and how to attract the right guy to approach them. Learn how to meet and find the right man for you.

Looking at your question I get the impression that you’re playing a dangerous of “assumption n seek” You’re making assuming conclusions but are still seeking assurances.

There are 2 reasons why I say this is:

1. You give no real indicator of the actual signs he’s giving you, which leads me to question what are those signs exactly.

2. Despite you picking up on his signs, you haven’t let him know that you’re interested.

The big question here is, if you know that the signs he’s been giving you suggest that he does likes you, why haven’t you made him know that you’re also interested in him and will wait for him?

Equally, if the signs you say he’s giving you are ones of interest, then your lack of response in letting him know is probably telling him that you’re not interested.

How he will see it is, if he’s showing you signs and you’re picking up on them but not giving anything back that says “Yeah, I like you too”, then he won’t make any further moves. He will take your lack of action as a sign of disinterest and won’t risk possible rejection by asking you out.

It’s difficult to say whether or not he likes you because I have no information on the signs you’re receiving from him which make it virtually impossible to look any further into it.

But if I were to work on your assumption that he does like you and the signs you’ve been getting are ones of genuine interest then I would suggest that you do the following:

1. Arrange a time to both meet up as soon as possible and just hang out like you normally would.

2. Talk to him about his trip away.

3. At some point during the two of you talking about his trip away, pose him a hypothetical question. Ask him “If he met a woman whilst away that he really liked and they got along really well and believed things could work out, would he consider a relationship with her?”

What you’re looking for here is where his mind is at in terms of women and relationships. Keep the conversation general and avoid putting the spotlight on the two of you for a little while.

You need to know where his mind is at. A man who’s jetting off somewhere for a few months is not likely to be thinking about women and relationships of a serious nature, so try and gauge where he’s at mentally and then make your own call based on what he tells you but avoid telling him about you and how you’d wait for him, it looks desperate.

If you gauge his levels of readiness and it seems relatively open, then pursue the conversation further.

If he says he would start a relationship with her all things being well, you now have a good insight into what and how he’s thinking. He’s open to the idea of a relationship.

You now know he’s thinking on the levels you like, so you can now direct your conversations about the two of you but I would recommend you still remain hypothetical in your conversation and make light humour out of it because you want to see his response without any of you feeling pressured or awkward.

Say something like: “I can’t believe you’re really going away and allowing these other men to whisk me away.”

Remember, you’re not being serious here but you want a response and this would be after you’ve gauged his levels of readiness.

The idea here is, make him think about you whilst away so when he comes back you’re the first person on his mind.

Avoid making assumptions about some of the signs he may show you. Get into his mind. Figure out where he is at mentally in regards to women and relationships and then the next steps for you should be clearer.

I Want My Man Back! (Short & Simple)

So you and your man broke up? And now you want him back. Maybe he left you for another woman, maybe he decided that you just weren’t the right woman for him, or maybe you even had a huge argument and both of you are too stubborn to make up. You might have even initiated the break up yourself.

Whichever is the case, I am going to help you to get him back.

The 1st Thing That Needs To Be Done:

During this time you may be tempted to give more of yourself. Maybe you want to call him to apologize, maybe you want to text him and tell him how stupid he is for breaking up with you, or maybe you are just so sad and you want to share this information with him through your voicemails.

All of these things will only push him farther away. He will start to think that you are CRAZY and even feel more firm about his decision to break up with you.

Note: You may have done some crazy things after your break up and that’s ok, you just need to make a commitment to yourself that you will stop doing them. Break ups bring out a lot of emotions you might not have known you had for him.

The best thing to do following a break up is give him the space he has asked for or that he needs.

Once you stop contacting him he will begin to wonder what is up with you. Are you dating someone else? Have you moved on already? What are you doing to fill up your days? — The less contact you make with him, the more he will curious about what you are up to.

The next technique that should be used to get your man back may be difficult for you to stomach, but it works more with your mindset than anything else.

Within a couple of weeks after the break up, you should consider dating other men. This does not mean having intimate relationships with other men it just means seeing what else is out there.

Well doesn’t that defeat the whole purpose? No, actually it helps, because it keeps your mind off your ex, which you will need to do to get him back – This will serve to boost your confidence and let you know that you are desired by other men besides your ex.

What If He Is Dating Other Women?

If you ex is dating other women, you shouldn’t worry too much about it. The same as it would be difficult for another man to come in your life and swoop you off your feet immediately after a breakup, it will also be difficult for another woman to take your place. This is because the two of you have a history together so you have the advantage.

Lastly, if you are seeing your ex on different occasions or if you work or go to school with him, keep your conversations to the bare minimum. His curiosity will get the best of him if you are not contacting him and he will want to know what is going on with you. Resist the urge to tell him every single thing that is going on in your life. Keep it short and simple.

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