When we originally wrote this article, we gave you 15 ways to make a man crazy about you, and even obsess over you.
Be confident. Be mysterious. Be a challenge. Have your own life. Share your passions. Flirt. Don’t reveal too much. Keep him wanting more.
Looking back, I think we made something fairly simple sound much more complicated than it needed to be.
Because hidden among all those tips was probably the most important one:
Be yourself.
What If Trying to Attract Him Is Hiding You?
It’s funny how difficult “be yourself” can become when you meet someone you really like.
Suddenly you’re thinking about what he likes and finds attractive. Maybe you’re wondering if you’re texting too much or making yourself too available. You start questioning whether you should tell him something or remain a little mysterious.
Before long, you’re not really getting to know each other. You’re trying to create a particular response from him.
And that’s the problem with a lot of advice about how to make a man crazy about you.
The more you try to manufacture his attraction, the more likely you are to hide the very person he might become attracted to.
One line from the original article still says it best:
“Make sure he falls for you and not someone he thinks you are.”
You don’t want to attract someone by becoming a version of yourself you’ll have to keep performing once you have his attention.
What Happens to Your Life When You Really Like Him?
There was another idea in the original article that I still think matters: have your own life.
But not because independence will make him chase you harder.
Your life matters because it’s your life.
The interests you had, the friends you spent time with, the opinions you expressed, the goals you were pursuing, and the things you genuinely enjoyed before you met him shouldn’t suddenly become less important because you’re excited about someone new.
Your passions are part of who you are, and so are your opinions. Keep doing the things you love because you actually love doing them, not because having a full life is another strategy for making yourself more attractive.
The parts of you that existed before you met him shouldn’t disappear because you really like him.
Ironically, those may be some of the things he likes most about you.
So if you’re wondering how to make him crazy about you, maybe there aren’t 15 things you need to remember.
Let him meet you.
Then you get to find out whether the two of you actually like each other.
That’s much more interesting than getting really good at making him like you.