Robyn Lee

So you and your man broke up? And now you want him back. Maybe he left you for another woman, maybe he decided that you just weren’t the right woman for him, or maybe you even had a huge argument and both of you are too stubborn to make up. You might have even initiated the break up yourself.

Whichever is the case, I am going to help you to get him back.

The 1st Thing That Needs To Be Done:

During this time you may be tempted to give more of yourself. Maybe you want to call him to apologize, maybe you want to text him and tell him how stupid he is for breaking up with you, or maybe you are just so sad and you want to share this information with him through your voicemails.

All of these things will only push him farther away. He will start to think that you are CRAZY and even feel more firm about his decision to break up with you.

Note: You may have done some crazy things after your break up and that’s ok, you just need to make a commitment to yourself that you will stop doing them. Break ups bring out a lot of emotions you might not have known you had for him.

The best thing to do following a break up is give him the space he has asked for or that he needs.

Once you stop contacting him he will begin to wonder what is up with you. Are you dating someone else? Have you moved on already? What are you doing to fill up your days? — The less contact you make with him, the more he will curious about what you are up to.

The next technique that should be used to get your man back may be difficult for you to stomach, but it works more with your mindset than anything else.

Within a couple of weeks after the break up, you should consider dating other men. This does not mean having intimate relationships with other men it just means seeing what else is out there.

Well doesn’t that defeat the whole purpose? No, actually it helps, because it keeps your mind off your ex, which you will need to do to get him back – This will serve to boost your confidence and let you know that you are desired by other men besides your ex.

What If He Is Dating Other Women?

If you ex is dating other women, you shouldn’t worry too much about it. The same as it would be difficult for another man to come in your life and swoop you off your feet immediately after a breakup, it will also be difficult for another woman to take your place. This is because the two of you have a history together so you have the advantage.

Lastly, if you are seeing your ex on different occasions or if you work or go to school with him, keep your conversations to the bare minimum. His curiosity will get the best of him if you are not contacting him and he will want to know what is going on with you. Resist the urge to tell him every single thing that is going on in your life. Keep it short and simple.

Even If He Has Lost All Interest In You

There is a lot of anger and sadness when a break up first occurs. It can even linger for months or years. When your ex boyfriend has seemingly lost interest in you and is able to move on with his life without an interruption it even hurts more.

Maybe it seems like the break up hasn’t affected him at all or even worse he seems happier that you are not together. If this is the case, there are still things you can do to make him want you back and even want you more.

I’m going to share with you three things you can do to get your ex boyfriend to want you back and also some valuable information on why break ups happen in the first place.

Before I share with you how to make your ex boyfriend want you back, you will need to understand the reason break ups happen. Most often a man will break up with a woman because he senses that the grass is greener on the other side, meaning he feels that he can do better without you.

He may also break up with you because he needs a break. Or, he may have interest in someone else. Whatever the reason may be for him leaving, it only takes a little skill to get him back interested in you and want you back.

I’m going to be honest with you, it will be difficult to make your boyfriend want you back but simple. Let me explain.

Here’s the most important part in getting him back:

Firstly, you will need to exercise some self control. Often times just as a break up occurs or even months after, you may feel the need to “stalk” your ex lover. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are driving by his home at 1:00 in the morning or that you happen to pop up at his job because you were “in the neighborhood”. Stalking most often happens by phone and text, because it’s easy to make a phone call and hang up and even easier to shoot off text messages out of anger and sadness.

The hardest part in making your boyfriend want you back is going to be exercising self control. If you can control your actions, you are more likely to make your boyfriend want you back.

If you are calling and texting him continuously, he has you right where he wants you. Because he knows that he was a big part of your life and that he can have you back at anytime he wants you, so there is really no rush.

But if you discontinue calls, texts, and communication, he has no idea what you are up to. Could you be ok with the break up? Was this something you wanted all along too? Could you be dating someone else? Could you have already had someone else throughout the relationship? He has no freakin’ clue, so automatically he is going to shift from having fun and moving on to trying to figure out why you aren’t trying to get him back, especially if you had wanted to get back together with him so much before.

How to move on to get back together…

Next, you will want to keep your mind off the break up. You will need to fill your time with things that you like to do. Get in contact with some friends that you might have lost touch with because you were “too busy” with your relationship. But be careful not to use them to talk about how horrible you feel about the breakup.

Your focus should be figuring out what life is like without your man. This is a great skill because you will be able to define yourself without him.

Are you the gift or are you the giver?

Lastly, since you have stopped contacting him and have started your own life you will need to have a different mindset. Your new mindset involves knowing that you are the prize to be pursued. You will also need to entertain the possibility that your ex boyfriend may be the guy for you or he may not.

I know if you really love your ex, you really don’t want to entertain the possibility that he may not be “the one”, but adopting this new mindset puts you in a much better position in actually getting him to want you back.

You won’t be “easy” anymore and he will see that you know that you are valuable and he will have to really do some work and pursuing to get you back. He will want you even more because he sees that you now have options, you could be with him or you could move on a date other men.

BEWARE: Not contacting your ex boyfriend may cause him to quickly pursue you and want to be back in your life. He may start chasing you again and want to be intimate again. But you should never be intimate with your ex boyfriend without a commitment. Just let him know that “you aren’t into casual intimacy anymore”. You need more. You will only get hurt worse if your boyfriend comes back to fulfill his needs only to leave again.

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Even If He Broke Up With You

When a boyfriend breaks up with you it is one of the most hurtful feelings you may experience. Especially if he has left you for another woman or seems to have lost all interest in you. You may feel that it is difficult to go on or you may even experience some physical pain from the break up.

Firstly, as tough as it may be, you will need to relax. It will be impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if you are overly emotional or have anger in your heart. It will just push him farther away.

I’m going to share with you exactly what needs to be done not only to get your boyfriend back but also to get him to pursue you. I am also going to share with you the number one mistake that you may be making that causes him to hold firm to his decision of not wanting a relationship with you.

Now before we start getting your ex boyfriend back I want to think back in the relationship and see if there were some warning signals that the break up was going to happen. Were there any concerns that your boyfriend expressed to you over and over again that you might have ignored or deemed unimportant? If you remember some concerns your ex boyfriend had, keep them in mind.

Now I want you to think about whether these were valid concerns or things you would be willing to change or do differently? If so, you may want to work towards getting your ex boyfriend back, but if you think the issues you were having in your relationship were serious and you are not willing to make the changes, it’s really not worth it getting him back. You may just feel hurt that he dropped the ball before you, in this case you will have to move on from the break up.

If you feel that you and your boyfriend were a great match and you want to get him back, here are three things that are necessary to warm his heart towards you again.

Let him breath

If he has broken up with you, give him a chance to breath. He likely feels that he had a good reason to break up with you. Give him a chance to see what life is like without you. A lot of times just giving him a week off or so will cause him to call you or contact you and want to go out with you again. Sometimes a break up is a way to get a break from the relationship for a while. It may not be that he is cheating or doesn’t want you, he just might want some breathing room, give it to him.

Use this time to focus on yourself and re-access your goals. Don’t continuously text or call him and let him know he made a big mistake or try to make him jealous by taking pictures of yourself with other men and posting it to your Facebook page. Let’s be civil about this. If you love him, you will give him the space he needs.

Fill it up

Along with giving him his breathing room, I want you to fill up your schedule with some things that you like to do. Hang out with friends, but be careful not to spend the whole time complaining about your break up, this will cause friends to want to create distance between you also. Create a full schedule so you have little time to think about the break up. Thinking about the break up will only cause you to want to contact him and pressure him into changing his mind or even contacting him to express your anger which both makes him move farther away from you.

Change your mindset

Now this is going to be the most difficult. You may feel that your ex is the only man for you. But you will have to move out of that mindset. You will have to start thinking, “He could be the man for me or God could have someone better for me”. You have to be open to the fact that you may not get back together. You have to trust that everything will work out for the best whether you get back together or not.

You can love your ex boyfriend and still entertain the possibility there might be a better person for you in your future. When you start thinking in this way you are helping the situation because you are not dependent on him. You start working from a different perspective and your ex boyfriend will notice that you are calm and not “needing” him in order to be happy in life. This actually makes him want you more.

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