Is He Too Popular For You?

Are Men Similar To Real Estate? Does He Have Too Much Curb Appeal?

In dating as in real estate there are varying degrees of value. For instance, you may have a man who is handsome, has money, and has a charming personality that all the ladies love as well as a house with curb appeal and a kitchen and bathroom that will make you get in an emotional bidding war with several other buyers.

And often times, these bidding wars end up with someone paying a lot more for the property than they should have!

On the other end you can have a guy that just does not cut it for a lot of women, his haircut is off, his social skills are a bit lacking, and on top of that he looks like he is stuck in the 90’s! This is the similar to houses where the owner has not taken time to remodel their kitchen and bathroom (the rooms that sell real estate) or even mow the lawn or plant any flowers on the outside. This house stays on the market for a very long time.

So which one should you choose?

Well, that truly depends on you. How much work are you willing to do? And what type of work are you willing to do?

Well as human beings often times we are most likely in the first situation and we want that house with everything perfected! We don’t want to have to do any work. The problem is that everyone else wants that same house.

This is the same with the man that seemingly has it all. Everyone wants to be with that man! And sometimes what happens in situations like this is that the man is actually overvalued. With so many females giving him attention and singing his praises, you run the risk of getting in a bidding war you might never win.

And if you do win, you might find out that you paid way more for it emotionally than you should have.

Alternatively, you can have a house that has no curb appeal and needs a little work on the inside and some sprucing up on the outside. Seasoned real estate investors know that this type of property is GOLD. They can buy the house for a really low price, put in a little work and spruce it up, and the houses is appraised for double and sometimes triple what they paid for it.

This is the guy that not a lot of females pay attention to. He is mostly ignored during social gatherings and no one really tries to get to know him beyond his outward appearance. This type of guy could be a golden opportunity. One of the best men you have ever dated. He has not been SPOILED with all the attention and he knows that you are a gem to be chased. In addition he has not dated around a lot so he won’t be constantly comparing you to other women. He is going to do a lot more things for you and be grateful that you are in his life.

And just because his curb appeal is not appealing now, doesn’t mean it can’t change in the future. With a little work and patience, you will become the envy of all your friends. They will wonder how you found such a seemingly perfect mate. They will be jealous that you get to answer his phone when it rings and that his eyes don’t wonder when he is around you.

I’m a big fan of these types of men, the ones that have not been spoiled yet; the type of man that will open doors for you and not be afraid or too worried about getting his outfit dirty to change a tire. The man that you can feel comfortable enough to go to the bathroom at a restaurant without worrying that he will allow a woman at another table to give him her number. The man that seems clueless to all the attention he is getting from women. The type of man who appreciates you and calls you after he gets off work to check in with you and see if you have any plans before he makes his.

There are men out there like that, but sometimes you have to put in a little work. Apply some polish to them, dust them off. You will find so much more value in them if you just give them a chance.

Note: I am not talking about men with huge character flaws like being abusive, insecure, thugs/bad boys, lazy men who will not work, men with several baby mamas. (That is not a curb appeal issue; those are plumbing and electrical problems.) And in real estate, that costs you a butt load of money! Run very fast and don’t look back.

With that being said, maybe you feel you are up to the challenge, and you want what you want NOW. You want the French doors, remodeled bathroom and kitchen, mowed lawn, bay windows, recessed lighting, solar windows, the whole package. You want a house that is move in ready and you are willing to pay a bit more for the package.

I’m not mad at you girl! Sometimes you just want what you want. You want the guy who has it all, good looks, charming & handsome. In this case you have to set yourself up as someone that he wants. He has to feel that he would give up all the women that are chasing him, just to spend time with you. You have to be confident in yourself and know that you are the bomb and that he is lucky to have you.

He has to know that if he doesn’t act right that you are ready to take your show on the road and he will loose you. You don’t have to say it, just knowing and feeling it is enough. He will feel that energy when he is around you, that this one is not like the rest, she respects herself and she has a waiting list herself of men who would cut off a right leg to be with her. Otherwise, you set yourself up for tearful nights.

He has to value you more than he values the attention from the other women. And when this happens other women won’t be able to get into your relationship because they know that they don’t have a chance in hell of him keeping his eyes off of you. They will give up and move on to someone else that leaves them those little crumbs that keep them going.