He Has A Girlfriend…But I Want Him

Dear Robyn,

So there’s this guy named Cory who I have liked for 6 months now.

We know each other through our families. And I know for a fact he had/has feelings for me.

Right now he has a girl friend, but she’s in college in San Francisco and we’re on the East Coast so I don’t believe it will last with his girlfriend, but I don’t know what to do!

My friends say I should go and talk to him, but I feel like hitting on a taken guy is wrong, but I want to initiate something!

What should I do? Thanks for helping and ask if you need more info.

Angel

Dear Angel,

Thank you so much for your email.

Angel, you might not like what I have to say but I believe it is for the best, and I think you know too:)

Do not hit on this guy if he has a girlfriend. If he has a girlfriend it is a “no fly” zone.

You have to allow him to figure out himself that the relationship isn’t optimal for him. You only want to flirt with men that you can have “free and clear”.

You don’t want to put yourself in an awkward situation where he is still dating his girlfriend and you at the same time. You can end up getting really hurt by him.

You also have to think about if you were dating him. Would you just want him to leave and be with someone else without ending the relationship first?

I would actually suggest leaving the situation alone until you know for sure he is not with his girlfriend anymore and even then you should be careful not to get into anything right away.

I would also suggest dating other men if you are not already, this will keep your mind off the situation. If and when it is the right time to get together, believe me, it will not pass you by.

Thank you for contacting me.

Robyn Lee