Is there a way to tell in the initial stages of dating whether a man will treat you well?
There are certainly questions you can ask to tell whether he has the ability to be a good mate. You never want to begin falling for a man that won’t treat you well.
It’s important that these questions are asked early on because the more you fall for him the more the answers can be skewed in a direction that allows you to stay with him.
These questions are vitally important because they are questions you should ask yourself through observation. This means you are really taking an honest look at your potential mate.
And if you want to know if how he is going to treat you, here are a few of questions you should be asking yourself.
Coworker Talk
Observe how he speaks about coworkers that are female. Does he respect them? If he doesn’t respect his coworkers that are female and regularly talks negative about them, not because of their work ethic, but just because they are female, then be cautious. Does he call them dumb? You really want to observe how he feels about the females at his job, if he respects them and talks positively about them, this is a sign that he will do the same for you.
Early Family Life
When you are dating someone, you want to determine how the adults communicated in their household. The past is a great predictor of the future. How did his dad communicate with his mom? How did his dad treat his mom? You have to tread lightly here because some men will have trouble opening up about their early life, they won’t want you to be their “therapist”. You will want to listen when he starts to open up about this part of his life and ask light-hearted questions to get the conversation going.
If the adults in his household were abusive to each other, physically or emotionally, it will be difficult for him to veer away from this path, since this is the model he saw when growing up. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but it is difficult. You will want to ask him additional questions to determine if he has recovered.
Alternatively, a man who had a good example on how to communicate with women early on will most likely carry that over to his relationships.
Mother and Sisters
How does he treat his mother and sisters? Does he ignore his mom’s phone calls? Does he talk negatively about his sisters? Does he help them when they are in need? One thing that I observed about my husband was his attentiveness to the women in his life. When his mom needed help cleaning out the basement, he was there. When his female cousin was moving to a different state, he was there to offer assistance with her packing. When his great aunt needed someone to go grocery shopping with her, he was there.
What I found that in our relationship, he did the same things, even helping my mom with projects. He even calls when he is out to see if I need anything before he comes home.
The basic thing here is that you want to take time to observe his words and actions. What he has done in the past or even what he is doing now is a great predictor as to what he will do in the future.
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