Dating & Commitment

This topic dominated all of our conversations at middle school slumber parties (and maybe even high school ones). It served as the top-secret content for our notes passed covertly during class. You remember, the “check yes or no” format, right? When technology finally came into the picture, the art of crafting the perfect text message to pose this question without sounding too excited or “needy” became a project that required the minds of four different friends. 

Before that, navigating the tricky web of AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) to reveal your feelings to someone was a process in itself. Telling a guy you like him, if you have experienced this before, has most likely been an emotionally and mentally draining, anxiety-inducing process. This is true especially if you really care about this guy. Or, to quote and embarrassing but iconic pre-teen phrase, “if you “like like him”. 

It should not have to be this way! Women should be empowered and excited to express their innermost feelings without fearing rejection or judgement. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world, and most people do feel this way. So, don’t worry, you are not alone and it’s okay if even just reading about this situation is making you nervous.

Telling a guy you like him can certainly be nerve wracking, to say the least, and how to tell him you like him can be even more daunting of a decision and take a long time to figure out. Odds are, if he hasn’t already told you that he likes you, you are really choosing to put yourself out there and are being vulnerable with no promise of reward. 

But hey, good for you! I’ll say it again; it isn’t easy to do this and if you’re taking the time to think about telling a guy you like him, that shows that you care and are confident in yourself, and that is certainly a “win” no matter what the guy’s response is. 

So, let’s address the real question here: how do you tell a guy you like him? There are many ways and this will depend on many different factors. Did you just meet? Have you been friends forever? Are you very close friends and wondering, “should I tell him I like him at the risk of ruining our friendship?” 

I hate to burst your bubble, but there is no perfect way as to how to tell a guy you like him, and, of course, no foolproof formula for success since every person is so drastically different. However, I have come up with some basic, but effective ideas to get you started as you prepare for this momentous event in your life. 

Wait – we should back up here. Let’s first explore this scenario to make sure that you are set up to be successful once you do this. We need to gauge if there is any romantic chemistry between you two. 

Find out whether or not he may like you by asking around. I wouldn’t suggest running to his best friend to confess your love, but try getting the opinions of some of your girlfriends. Odds are, since they are more objective, they can give you a realistic answer. 

Look for some hints that he may drop casually in conversation. Does he compliment you out of the blue? Does he mention hanging out with you? If you start to pick up on these things, most likely it is not a coincidence and he is trying to tell you something. 

Start simple conversations with him. Small talk can be very telling. If you two can carry on a conversation, it shows that you have the most basic chemistry. Similarly, if he is willing to talk with you about more mundane things like the weather, the big test next period, or the latest drama with your coworkers, he is interested in spending time talking to you which is a great sign. 

If you’re still wondering, check out these articles for more tips as to how to determine whether or not a guy likes you: 

Now that we’ve established that there is some potential here, let’s talk about some strategies for actually telling this guy that you like him. Like, like like him. 

Be Blunt

Believe it or not, as confident and intimidating as some of them may seem, guys like it when girls take initiative. More often than not, rather than viewing it as pushy or annoying, they’ll find it admirable, and even sexy, that you didn’t wait around for him to say something. This shows that you are confident in yourself, which is an extremely important quality in a relationship. 

Getting straight to the point also eliminates the typical “gameplay” and skirting around the issue that causes anxiety, stress, and confusion. In reality, you are both probably wondering the same thing and don’t want to be the first to say it. If you’re ready to make this move, be the one to say something first. 

Compliment Him 

You don’t need to go over the top on this one, but guys love being complimented, especially if it is on something they are good at or passionate about like sports, performing arts, academics, or their appearance, style, etc. 

When you compliment a guy, it shows you are paying attention and that you notice things about him that you like. This can be an alternative way to tell a guy you like him without coming right out and saying it. 

Ask Him About Himself

This tip builds off the last. Guys will get the hint that you’re interested in them if you show genuine interest in the things that they like. This is also a good indicator as to how you will function as a potential couple. 

Even if you aren’t necessarily passionate about what he is passionate about, showing that you care speaks volumes and shows that you are not all about yourself. If you are genuinely interested and curious, he will definitely notice that you’re trying to get to know him more, be affected by that, and hopefully take it as a sign that you’re interested.

Use Body Language

Let’s try eliminating words and showing him you’re interested with some subtle, or maybe not-so-subtle, body movements. Contrary to how insecure we as women can be sometimes in terms of our appearance, men generally take notice of indicative body language. Sometimes, men are even more in tune with body movements and language than words. 

Here are some body language tips to show that you are interested:

1. Flip your hair
2. Give him a coy smile
3. Put your cell phone away/don’t scroll through social media or texts when you are around him 
4. Smile genuinely when he says something interesting or funny
5. Make and keep eye contact during conversation 
6. Lightly touch him on the arm, shoulder, etc.
7. Flutter your eyelashes 
8. Laugh 
9. Lean in closely during conversations to make it more intimate 
10. Walk closely next to him so your bodies are almost touching
11. If you’re feeling especially courageous and the moment is right, reach for his hand 

Be Persistent

There is a fine line here between being a stalker and making a concerted effort to establish a day and time for a date. Guys, especially if they are shy or don’t have a lot of experience with girls, may appreciate this and take it as a sign of interest. It also may make them more confident in continuing the relationship and taking the initiative themselves in the future. 

Ask Him Out On A Date With A Specific Date And Time

Again, this is a bold option, but a guy may be more willing to show interest right away if you make the first move and attempt to schedule a date with them without playing any games. Here are some great first date ideas for you to suggest: 

Be Honest

Most people appreciate honesty. This is true before and during a relationship. If you approach the guy, and this situation, as honestly as possible without trying to play games or lead him on, he will be more open to listening to what you have to say. 

I think most people who have been in long-term relationships can agree that honesty is certainly the glue that holds a relationship together. There are going to be many times in a relationship when you will have to be brutally honest, so why not start doing so with this mindset now? 

All this being said, it is important to remember that this is just one person’s advice. Sometimes, especially if you are lacking in experience in this area, it is valuable to hear what others who have been in your situation have to say.

We totally get it. Telling a guy you like him is incredibly intimidating, especially when you really are not sure what is going to happen next. Depending on the outcome of this situation, the result could be embarrassing and heartbreaking, or it could be the best thing that has ever happened to you. 

The most important thing to remember is that the worst thing you can do is not tell him and always wonder what his response would’ve been. If you feel strongly enough, you should take the initiative to do so. Otherwise, you will always wonder what would have happened. The worst that can possibly happen is that the guy does not feel the same way you do, you have an awkward moment or period of time and eventually move on to bigger and better things. 

Life is full of these difficult, emotional situations. If you are really invested in the potential of this relationship, you may find yourself at a real crossroads as to whether or not to risk being hurt. However, if you take the tips from above, as well as use your own judgement to evaluate the situation, I have no doubt that you will be able to determine the best course of action. 

Though it may not be perfect or as romantic as a movie, it will undoubtedly still be a learning moment and something valuable for you to experience in life, regardless of the outcome. I hope it is a positive one, and I wish you nothing but confidence and luck as you go after what you want!

Ever meet a man, and for some reason, you just cannot keep him wanting more? You want him to get goo-goo ga-ga over you, but you keep missing a few steps in the process? We have all been there! 

Relationships with the opposite sex are supposed to just fall into place naturally, but we all know it just is not that easy. You met this hot, awesome new guy and now you want to make him crazy about you, or even better yet, you want him to obsess over you. I can totally relate! 

The hardest part is remembering all the little things you should do to keep him going crazy or obsessing over you.

It doesn’t have to be difficult with these surefire ways on how to make him crazy about you. Let’s go over some simple ways that come naturally to you, because at the end of the day, you are simply awesome! 

How To Make A Man Crazy About You – 10 Surefire Ways

I know you really like this guy, so I want to make sure you are doing all the right things to grab his attention and keep it! It is easy to forget how to use what you have when you are too smitten with a guy to even think straight. 

So, here are 10 surefire ways on how to make him crazy about you that are easy to remember:

1. Be Yourself. I am aware that this sounds a bit obvious. But have you ever tried to be someone you are not to impress a guy? I am guessing that, at some point, we have all done that. It is not necessary. 

Being yourself is attractive. Make sure he falls for you and not someone he thinks you are. This is one of the most surefire ways of how to make a man crazy about you!

2. Be Confident. That’s right, a confident woman is an attractive woman. Don’t be afraid! Men love women who know what they want, know who they are and do not need constant reassurance. Show yourself, and be proud.

Order whatever you want on the menu, be confident in your choices. You do not have to hide who you are or what you really want to eat. He will go crazy over you because you have confidence in yourself. 

3. Be Open And Honest. No, don’t spill all your beans and skeletons in your closet on your first date, but be open and honest. Being open and honest makes you trustworthy. Men like women who can tell the truth and share their secrets without any games or motives.

4. Have Your Own Life. It’s totally okay to have a life after you meet a great guy. Don’t bend plans you already had or lose track of your own goals. Men are attracted to women who have their own thing going on! 

5. Share Your Passions. Do you love to dance, volunteer, or do abstract paintings on your porch? Don’t be afraid to share that and show him you are passionate about something. This reflects personality and men love women who have passion. 

6. Be Spontaneous. Spontaneity is the spice of life. Keep things interesting, and keep him on his toes at the same time. No need to keep dates mundane; throw in a surprise dance class date or shooting range date. Men love to be surprised and challenged at the same time. 

7. Be A Challenge. The old-school mentality of playing hard to get is out the door. No need to play games. Simply challenge him a little by keeping with your day-to-day life responsibilities that make you not available whenever he wants. 

8. Have Opinions. The days of women agreeing with a guy just for the sake of agreeing are over. Today’s confident woman has her own opinions. It is okay if they do not line up with his opinions, that just adds to the challenge men like so much. 

Please note, conversation topics such as politics can get heavy. No need to be pushy, but do state your opinions in a confident manner. This relates to any subject-matter. If you know how you feel about something, be sure to express yourself. 

9. Be Positive. No one likes a Debbie Downer, including today’s modern man. Being positive is essential to growth and good experiences. Show him you have a positive outlook and your aura will shine into an irresistible light.

If he has a bad day, try to help him look on the bright side because that is just the kind of person you are. It is easy to go crazy over someone when they open up your eyes to the light and happy side of life.

10. Be Flirty. Men love women who flirt. Be sure to touch him here and there while chatting to create that physical connection. Smile often while looking at him, and you will open the door to attraction. The small tokens of touch and smiles will make him want more.

Those don’t sound too complicated, right? Really, you just need to be yourself! And now that you have reviewed these 10 surefire ways on how to make him crazy about you, it is time to move onto the next step in the “relationship”. 

Why settle for a guy to be just crazy over you, why not get this awesome guy to obsess over you? Afterall, if he keeps coming back for more, then you are in the door, and who knows what it could all lead to. Maybe that white dress, long aisle, and those special words that come right after! 

Let’s make him really crazy, ladies! That is what you want, right? 

How To Get A Guy To Obsess Over You – Next Level Please!

It’s great when you have a man crazy over you. But, let’s be honest here, we all know you have asked yourself how to get a guy to obsess over you? What do I need to do? Don’t be shy, follow these simple five rules, and he will obsess over you:

5 Surefire Ways To Get Him To Obsess Over You

1. Take Care Of Yourself. Work out, eat healthy, and it will show. Put on that special red dress that shows all your hard work off. Take time for self-care; it will drive him wild!
2. Be Mysterious. Don’t share all of your details right away. Leave an air of mystery about yourself. Don’t be predictable; sometimes doing the opposite of what he expects is the exact key to unlocking his obsession over you. 
3. Reflect Independence. Be sure he knows you do not need a man. You want him, but do not need him. You have your own life, you can make your own decisions, and you can pay your own way. This will make him want to be all over you, around you, and obsess over you! 
4. Smell Fantastic. Keep it fresh and light to bring a desire right out of him. Do not overdo the perfumes, body washes, or shampoos. Stick with natural scents that create an airy aura around you. He will remember your scent! 
5. Don’t Give Yourself Away. Remember to keep some things to his imagination and take things slow. Keep him wanting more and more as each day goes by. Don’t throw it all out there on the first couple of dates; he will be back for more!

So, ladies, when is your next date? Be sure to use these surefire ways to make him crazy over you, and then make him obsess over you. 

If you remember these simple rules when you are out and about, you will attract a man naturally. Then when you exchange numbers and start texting, use these simple guidelines and your first date will come in no time at all. 

Relationships have a progression and so do these surefire ways on how to make him crazy about you. Use them all, but take them in stride as to not overwhelm yourself trying to remember too many rules or steps along the way. 

The most important thing to remember is to be yourself with a little added flare to boost your confidence levels. Keep the rest in the back of your head as natural behaviors and you will be well on your way!

“How am I supposed to get a guy’s attention without talking to him?” It’s a good question and it’s not easy to answer by any means. However, I want you to think of getting a guy’s attention without talking to him as an initial step towards getting what you want in this situation. Before you talk to any guy, you will have to get his attention somehow to get him interested in talking to you as well. 

Don’t panic. This process is way easier than it sounds. Gone are the days when your only form of communicating with someone is walking up to them and talking to them. In the age of technology, social media, and 1001 dating apps, the options you have as to how to attract a guy without talking to him are bountiful. Do you have to put yourself out there in ways you may never have before? Of course. But it could be fun and even a little exciting. But that’s up to you decide, so read on, and see what you think. 

Dress Up 

Have you ever heard the saying, “when you feel good, when you look good?”. It is so true! Whether you go out to the mall and buy a new outfit for yourself, or put together a new outfit using some “vintage” items from your closet, wearing something different can make you feel brand new and super confident! 

Apply some fancy makeup (it doesn’t have to be a lot), throw some curls in your hair, and spray some perfume. By no means should you change your entire appearance, because you are absolutely gorgeous as you are, but if you put in a little extra effort he will definitely take notice. More than that, you will feel good about yourself, which is always the priority. If this guy sees you are feeling yourself, that is automatically an attractive quality. 

This will only work for you if you don’t have your sights set on a specific guy. But, dating apps can open up your mind to a whole new world of possibilities. Not only that, but you can easily get a guy’s attention without saying a word (well, maybe a text, but that doesn’t count!). 

Sign Up For A Dating App (Or Two) 

A dating app can be easy way as to how to get a guy’s attention without talking to him, and this can be fun for you in the process. Here are some popular dating apps for you to check out if you’re interested in taking this route: 

• Bumble
• Tinder
• The League 
• Hinge

Be Active On Social Media 

Does he follow you on Instagram? Snapchat? Facebook? All of the above? 

It’s time to find some good lighting and do a “just because” photoshoot with friends and maybe throw some very flattering selfies in there. In other words: FEEL YOURSELF.  

Don’t be overactive and post every second on every social media account you have, because then he won’t look forward to your pictures. Instead, try posting once every couple of days to keep it interesting and keep a lookout for the likes from him. 

If you’re friends on Snapchat, let’s take a second to applaud you: 

*applause, applause, applause*

In case you’re wondering why I’m so excited about this, it is a known fact that Snapchat is a step above Instagram in terms of “follower” status.

Nowadays, Snapchat shows a much more realistic picture of your everyday life, and it’s easier to get to know people through their “Snap Stories”. Most people will put on anything on their Snap stories, whereas on Instagram, it is much more thought out and calculated. You also have the opportunity to “text” through Snapchat and comment on each other’s stories. This kind of interaction provides great conversation starters for the future. You may not want to mention that you remember the type of shirt he was wearing in his snap from last Thursday at 3:43 p.m., but bringing up the hilarious video of his dog that he shared might be a good idea!  

Don’t be afraid to slide into those DMs if you see he is liking your pictures, or “snaps you often. Odds are, if he’s doing this, he probably wants you to anyway! 

For more advice on getting a guy’s attention by using social media:

Recruit A Reliable Friend To Talk To Him 

This is the oldest trick in the book. While it may seem a little immature to have your friend talk to a guy for you, sometimes it is the easiest way to break the ice, especially if you are all in the same friend group or your friend happens to know this person as well. 

Who knows? This guy you are interested in may be unsure of your feelings and whether or not you like him, and therefore doesn’t want to put himself out there. Yes, you read right; he might be just as nervous and intimidated as you are.  

This could also be true in the reverse situation and can save you from any potential embarrassment or awkward encounter. Having a reliable middleman in this situation relieves that worry and you can sit back and relax, as much as possible, in the process. 

The most important keyword in this situation is reliable. Make sure your the friend you choose to go talk to this guy on your behalf doesn’t say anything super embarrassing and make sure she has your back. 

Show Off Your Fun Side 

Yes, that’s right. I don’t even know you, and I know that you have a fun side, because everyone does if they relax and let themselves enjoy life. 

Are you hanging out in a big group? Playing a game? Out dancing? Show him that you can have fun and that you can be the life of the party. Guys will love it when you show that you can liven up any room and can have fun no matter what. Why? 

It shows them that they can do their own thing and not have to worry about you doing yours. It is also a great indication of how fun you would bring to the relationship, should it come to that.  

Use Body Language To Your Advantage

Body language, such as a quick wink, smile, or wave is an effective way to get a guy’s attention without talking to him. It is not as meaningful as a conversation, but it is definitely a way to capture initial interest. 

This guy will see that you noticed him, and that you are taking the initiative to “say” that you are attracted to him and might want to learn more about him. It will also give him incentive to approach you, in case he wasn’t sure of your interest  beforehand. Here are some key body language signals to send to the guy from whom you want this attention: 

• Purposeful eye contact
• Wink 
• Smile
• Flirty/little wave 
• Bite your lip 
• Look away flirtatiously 
• Play with your hair 
• Keep a tall, confident posture
• Walk closely so your bodies/hands brush against each other 
• Avoid crossing your arms
• Raise your eyebrows flirtatiously 

Check out this hilarious yet helpful YouTube video with some additional tips as to how to tell a guy you like him without talking to him. 

What it comes down to is confidence – having it and showing it. You may choose to try one or all of the suggested tips above, but in all honesty, none of them will work in your favor if you don’t gather up all of the courage you have and have some confidence in yourself as you are doing them. Not only will guys notice this about you, but you will feel extremely empowered in the process.

Another important thing to remember in these situations is that, if you have to try too hard to get a guy’s attention without talking to him, the best thing to do may be to strike up a genuine conversation. Every guy is different and some don’t pick up on non-verbal cues like those listed. There is nothing necessarily wrong with this, it just means that you’re going to have to put in some extra effort.

How do you do that? Check out this article to get some inspiration for a great start.

Similarly, if you have to try too hard to get a guy’s attention, it may not be worth it. If you’re doing the best you can applying the tips above, and he still isn’t showing interest, it is time to move on to the next guy. 

Bottom line: you can do this. As uncomfortable as it may seem to put yourself out there in this way, sometimes non-verbal communication can be more effective than walking right up to someone to start a conversation. It shows initial interest and is super flirty and sexy at the same time. So get out there, girl! Show (not tell) him what you’ve got!

The dating game is a tough. First, you have to meet the guy. Cue the girls night out. The dating apps. The dreaded blind date with your co-worker’s brother’s best friend. Then, you’ll likely have to endure many awkward first dates before you meet someone you’re remotely interested in. Finally, the wooing begins. When you finally do make that connection, you want to know it’s for real. 

You feel butterflies and can imagine yourself someday walking down an aisle with your man. But when, and how, do you know when it’s official? And, how do you know how to get him to commit? Keep reading for tried-and-true tips on how to make a guy want a relationship with you. 

Keep It Fun And Interesting

If you are wondering how to make him want a serious relationship, show him how fun life with you can, and will, be. Try different date ideas, even if it means cooking at home or working out together. Test out what “real life” together as a couple would be like. This is the best indicator of what a relationship would be like, for you and for him. 

Especially when you are in the early stages of dating, make an effort to keep things interesting. Try a unique restaurant across town, and sample everything. Go to a funky art museum that pushes your limits of creativity. Wear the slinky dress. 

Be Honest

If a commitment is what you’re after, honesty is the best policy. If you really see a future with your partner, tell him. It will feel good to get it off your shoulders, and the sooner you do, the sooner you’ll know if you have a shot. 

You already know, deep down, how to make a guy want a relationship. Be honest about who you are and your past experiences. As bleak as it seems sometimes, there is someone out there who loves you for exactly who you are, flaws and all. If you want someone to truly commit to you, you want them to commit to the real you, not some too-perfect image that is hard to maintain once you cohabitate. 

Compliment Him

While you are being honest, compliment him! Just like us, men love to hear that they look good. They love to hear that they smell good. They love to hear that their bachelor pad looks like it could be featured in Architectural Digest. Be genuine when you give him compliments (which should be easy if you’re really into him).

Use some investigative work to find out what makes him feel excited. Find out what his favorite food is, or something his grandma used to make when he was little, and try out the recipe. Actions speak louder than words, and you’ll likely get a fun date night and some good laughs out of it. 

Laugh Together

The way to a man’s heart is through humor. Don’t take everything so seriously. Laugh together! Find a show or movie you both love and have a good belly-laugh together. Laugh at yourself if you do something embarrassing. Laughter brings people closer and releases endorphins. It also makes for good memories and stories to tell your grandkids. 

On that note, show your full range of emotions together. Cry together. Express anger. Showing emotion is one of the most important parts of creating a healthy relationship. I can promise that you will be thankful later.

If you’re wondering how to get him to make it official, the best (and almost too-logical) answer is to be yourself – the you that has many thoughts, feelings, and emotions – for better or for worse. 

Write Love Letters To Each Other

You’ll discover how to make a guy want a relationship when you can find little ways to make him think about you during the day. This secret is as old as time. As archaic as it seems, express yourself in the way that lasts forever, through your writing. 

I’m sorry, but there’s nothing more romantic than a love letter, or even a note on his kitchen counter in the morning. As much as men try to hide their sensitive sides from us, they also love to feel admired. Try sneaking a postcard of a city you’ve visited into his work bag. It’ll make him smile mid-stressful-workday and (better yet) think of you.

Talk About The Small Things

When you’re talking about a forever together with someone, the little things are the big things. Talk about, and observe, things like – are you a cat or a dog person? What is your sleeping pattern; are you an early bird or a night owl? Are you a healthy eater? As silly as this seems, making connections about trivial, routine parts of your day can show true compatibility. 

Prioritize His Friends And Family

As long as he is comfortable with it, forge a relationship with his friends and family. Make nice with the girlfriends of his best friends (even if they aren’t your favorite people on Earth). It will make his life with you seem more natural and will encourage him to include you in his plans. 

Remember his parents’ birthdays and send thank-you notes if they have you over for dinner. These little gestures go a long way with Mom and Dad. 

Invite him along to your family gatherings, too. See how he interacts with your most important people. Does he seem natural and comfortable, or is the interaction forced? If he intends on having a future with you, he will likely make a great effort with the people you love most.

Go Away On Vacation Together

Getting out of your routine and experiencing new things together can form a closer bond. Traveling together tells you a lot about a person and can help you both discern if the partnership is permanent.

Get him outside of his comfort zone. Share an experience you will never forget, like zip-lining through the jungle or skiing a challenging slope together. You can also learn a lot about each other when there is nothing to do. Try a relaxing beach vacation together. Do your vacation “styles” jive? Do you enjoy spending down time with only each other’s company?

Confide In Him

Tell him what’s going on in your life, how you feel, and your likes and dislikes. Tell him about your hard day at work. Better yet, ask him for advice. It will make him feel valued and useful. Engage in conversation with him about his hopes and goals for the future. Ask and answer hard questions. 

Sharing your deeper feelings with your partner can be valuable to him in forming a more serious connection. For some people (like me, the oversharer), this is easy. For other, it takes a bit of tact and thought. 

On that same note, general, open, two-way communication is never a bad thing. It will set the stage for a healthy relationship. Communicate, and be honest. Tell him that you’d like to be in a relationship. Tell him that he is important to you, and that you only want to date him. Tell him why you like him so much! 

Don’t Pressure Him

After all is said and done, you’ve done your best to get him to commit. Don’t pressure him. Maybe there is a reason he isn’t ready. He could be nursing wounds from a past relationship, or maybe his parents were recently divorced, leaving him hesitant to believe in love. Give him time to digest the idea of dating you exclusively. 

That being said, decide how long you will wait. There is a fine line between a casual, fun dating and avoidance. Make sure you are getting what you want and need form the partnership, and if you are unhappy without a solid commitment, it might be time to say goodbye. 

Consider His Past Patterns

How much do you know about your guy’s past relationships? Of course, people change. But, does he have a reputation of being perpetually single? A womanizer? A commitment-phobe?

While you can hope for the best, you don’t want to spend effort wondering how to get a guy to commit when the answer is that he will never commit. Some men (and women) are just not interested in serious or committed relationships. Especially with the rise in popularity of dating apps, the new age of romance allows young adults to “play the field” for much longer than back in the days of yore. 

Give him a fair shot, be honest about your feelings, and if he isn’t interested, don’t push it. 

You took the leap and joined Tinder! Good for you! 

Now you are asking yourself, how do I write a good bio and get those swipes from the right men? No worries, I have you covered. 

There are a ton of articles out there with instructions on how to write a bio for Tinder. But, let’s face it, men and women are different, and their bios should be too. What you need is a a good Tinder bio for a female. 

When you follow these great tips on how to write a Tinder bio for a woman, you will find it easy to write your bio and get to those dates right away. 

Top 10 Do’s For Your Tinder Profile

Common sense comes into play when creating a great Tinder profile. However, there are some secret tips to creating a standout profile for a woman. Tinder is all about those first impressions so you can get that right swipe! 

Follow these great do’s for a good Tinder bio for a female profile, and I guarantee, dates are on the way:

1. Clear Profile Picture. Stand out of the crowd by using a clear, crisp profile photo. It’s easy to get fancy today with all the photo filters out there, but be mindful to keep your photo up close, personal, and clear. Ideally, someone else should be taking your profile photo for you. 

2. No Bathroom Photos. We all know we have done it, those famous mirror photos on all the social media platforms. But, honestly, who wants to see your bathroom? Certainly not a man looking for a great date.

3. Include A Full Body Photo. If we are being honest with ourselves, we know when we look at male Tinder bios, we check out the bods. We want to know what we are seeing is what we get.

4. Include An Activity Photo. The photos you include in your bio should show you in your natural environment. If you love to work while sipping a cup of java at your local café, then by all means, have your friend photograph you in that element.

5. No Selfies. Oh, the selfie! We all love them, we all do them, and although they can be fun and capture your best angle, a Tinder bio is not the place for them. Show all of yourself by having a friend catch your best angle instead. It is easy to differentiate a selfie from a photo taken by someone else. Plus, it shows you took the time out and care into showing you off. This will help display your natural self on your bio.

6. Be Honest. No need to make details up about yourself. You won’t actually be meeting all the men viewing your profile. You will end up meeting the ones that are your match if you are honest. Our time is precious, and when we waste it on men that have a preconceived notion of who we are because we embellished our profile, we can open up the door for rejection and disappointment. Be you tell the truth. If you love your job, it’s okay to share that, if you don’t love your job, it’s okay to share that as well. No worries, if you are yourself it will show and men are attracted to genuine women.

7. Be Brief. Spare your male viewers of too many details. Men scan through, and they need to see details quickly. When sharing your hobbies, share them as a list, not as a story. This will make your bio easy and quick reading. 

8. Be Flirty. There are numerous ways to flirt on a Tinder bio. Being mysterious or adding a couple questions to your details can peak interest. Smile with flirty eyes in a couple of your photos.

9. Be Humorous. Men love a sense of humor in a woman. Throw in a couple funny lines here and there, like you have a superpower when it comes to making your friends laugh or your dream job is to be a rockstar, even though you cannot sing.

10. Let Him Know What You Want. Men want to know what you are looking for. Otherwise, they do not know which direction to swipe. Be brief with what you are looking for, but include details like you are looking for a man who likes to be spontaneous or you love a man who works out.Be sure to keep the list brief, so think about the main points you are looking for in a man. If your list is too long and too specific, then you may come off as picky, and the swiping will go in the wrong direction.

These top 10 musts on your Tinder profile will get those swipes, and you will get swipes from men that are a match! No need to waste your time, right? 

Now that you know what you should do, let’s talk about what you should not do. The next five points are definite don’ts on your Tinder profile. 

Top 5 Don’ts For Your Tinder Profile

1. Previous Relationship. Do not talk about previous relationships. No need to explore with your potential swipers as to why other relationships have not worked out for you. This topic is a turn-off. 

2. Too Much Information. Your potential suitors do not need to know that you take an hour and a half to get ready everyday before work. Keep information brief and you will leave a mystery to be solved.

3. Just Ask. Writing about yourself, what you want, and what you are looking for can be intimidating. But, don’t take the easy way out and include the “Just Ask Me” line. That is not mysterious, it shows a lack of confidence and sureness instead.

4. Too-Sexy Photos. Keep your photos clean and classy. Sex appeal can be mysterious; there is not need to be outright scandalous, unless you are trying to attract the wrong man. Keep the bikini pics out of your bio.

5. Not Including A Bio. Sounds ironic to have this on your list of don’ts in an article about creating a great bio, right? But, there are a lot of women that leave the bio part blank. Do not do that! You have come here to this article for a reason, so make sure you create a bio. 

In the end, the best bios are those that reflect you the best. Be yourself. I know you hear that all the time, but it’s the truth. A good bio comes from the heart and good self-exploration. Honesty shows. Embellishments stand out, and in the end, they can put you in an awkward situation.

Stay true to yourself, and be honest. With these great tips, you are now on the right path. 

Happy swiping and dating ladies!