Settling For Less In A Relationship

Never thought I could learn from MiMi. You see, MiMi is actually my sister’s 2 year old (human years) cocker spaniel.

Mimi kept whining and whining to the point that I just had to ask my sister what was wrong with her dog. She told me MiMi was hungry.

Well that was pretty weird, seeing that MiMi’s food bowl was completely full.

Probably from my weird facial expressions my sister added, “She doesn’t like the dog food, she likes real food, so she just doesn’t eat”

And I started to think about how many women, I’ve been guilty also, accept the dog food instead of the real meal.

I continued to watch MiMi and how every time someone came with a plate of food she would look as to let the person know that they should think about her too because real food is just what she ate.

I watched MiMi and started to feel sorry for her because I didn’t think she was going to get any “real food” that day when something miraculous happened. My dad reached into the fridge and threw MiMi a hot dog.

Then MiMi finally ate.

Here’s the thing: How many women instead of being single or like MiMi expecting that something better is going to come along just take what they are given?
How do you expect to be treated?

When a guy approaches you in the wrong way or doesn’t treat you the way you should be treated, do you just accept it thinking that “dog food” is all you are going to get OR do you hold out until you get something REAL?

How you expect to be treated is usually how people are going to treat you. Because when you don’t get that type of treatment, you start to act like MiMi. You refuse to have it!

There is someone out there that is willing to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. There is someone out there that will provide what you want. You just can’t settle for what is in front of you.

Neither should you be afraid that if you don’t accept the treatment, that is all you are going to get.

Sometimes in relationships you might think that you should be happy for the little that you are getting. Besides, who else is going to put up with you? That is completely the wrong mindset and instead you should be thinking about the many men who would love to be around you.

If you are single, are you passing over opportunities that are obviously not what you want? I’m not talking about disrespecting a man who approaches you or not giving a guy a chance because you saw him laugh at a commercial you didn’t think was funny.

I’m talking about serious things that you just can’t put up with. You should refuse them just like MiMi did the dog food because that is so far from what you expect you couldn’t phantom having anything else.

You don’t have to be rude about it either because when you truly know that you deserve better. It just shows. By the way you walk, the way you talk, and most importantly the energy you are giving out. Those people that can’t provide the “real meal” will feel so uncomfortable around you, they will leave.

So, what are you expecting today?

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