I am not a huge fan of the friend zone, and I bet you aren’t either. Another thing I can guess that you dislike just as much is being kept in the dark or endlessly wondering if a guy likes you or not. It’s really frustrating not being on the same page with someone you care for. However, there might be subtle signs he likes you as more than a friend, but you just haven’t noticed.
Let me let you in on a little secret: Despite what you might think, men are straightforward and easy to read.
Your guy friend may have suppressed his feelings and emotions, but eventually they will come out in other ways, mostly in your conversations, interactions, and their behavior. But you really have to be keen to detect the subtle cues that he’s romantically interested in you.
Well, you have come to the right place for help in figuring this out. In a few minutes, you will have the tools you need to know if your guy friend wants to be more than just friends—or not. Look out for the following signs:
Conversation
How a guy talks to you can tell you a lot about what he feels about you. Here are positive signs you should be on the lookout for.
He Starts The Conversations
If a guy likes you, he will find every reason to start a conversation with you. In a casual friendship, the flow of conversation is usually balanced. A guy who has no romantic feelings toward you will keep the conversation brief and get straight to the point. Also, unless there’s something concrete to discuss, a casual guy friend will rarely reach out to you.
Sudden changes in your conversation dynamics is a subtle sign that he likes you more than as a friend. He will initiate conversations to get your opinion. He will call more often, mostly with random excuses just so he can hear your voice.
Don’t panic when he makes time to visit you. This shows that he likes being around you and that he wants to take your friendship to the next level.
You Are Always The Main Topic
No matter how suave and complicated your guy friend seems, like most men, he has a one-track mind. Men can only focus on what interests them. Everything else is just white noise.
You will notice this instantly when a guy friend develops feelings for you. Suddenly, you are the only topic in all his conversations.
I know! This change can be unsettling at first, but it shows that a guy wants to know all he can about you. From your middle name to what you ate for lunch, the questions won’t stop coming.
And do you want to know what the best part is?
A guy who is into you will remember everything you tell him. You become his focal point. For example, let’s say you are having a conversation and then his phone rings. What’s his reaction like? If he seems not to notice it ring, then he is definitely into you.
On the other hand, he might not be interested if he goes for his phone immediately or is easily distracted while talking to you.
He Makes You Laugh
Men learn from a young age that humor attracts women. So keep track of your guy friend’s conversation. Is he always trying to make you laugh?
Don’t mind his horrible jokes; it’s one of the subtle signs a guy likes you as more than a friend. What’s more, he becomes more confident around you every time you laugh at his antics.
The kicker? As he gets to know you better, you will find yourself laughing at everything he says. Over time, thinking about him will put a smile on your face.
A guy who likes you will only want to see you happy and having a good time. It’s why almost all successful romantic relationships start out as friendships.
Behavior
How someone behaves around you says a lot about how they feel. Obviously, a guy who is interested in you will rarely act normal around you. Some will flirt with eye contact, and maybe touch you lightly on the arm, but that’s not all. Here is what you should be on the lookout for if you suspect he is into you.
He Treats You Differently
A guy that likes you will go out of his way to make you comfortable. The funny thing is that he might not be conscious of his actions. No kidding! There is a theory that protecting and providing for the women they care for comes naturally to all men.
Now, I know what you are thinking: It’s the 21st century and women do need protection from men. Which is true. But a guy who likes you can’t help himself.
He will want to make you feel safe and comfortable at all times. From opening doors for you to holding your hand while crossing the road, it’s the little things that give it away.
On that note, pay attention to a guy friend who is always there for you. Yes, I know your friends should be there for you. But if a guy friend makes the effort to be there for you when you need him, then it’s a subtle sign he likes you as more than a friend. This shows that he is willing to take your relationship to the next level.
He Wants To Be Alone With You
This is not really a subtle sign. If your guy friend does that, then he definitely wants to know more about you. He won’t mind making lame excuses just to spend time alone with you. And there’s a reason for this.
Since it’s hard getting to know you better while in a crowd, he will try and find ways to separate you from your friends. And here’s the fun part: Observe his reaction when someone interrupts the two of you. If he gets frustrated every time that happens, then it’s a sure sign he likes you.
He will also invite you to events with the intention of spending time with you alone. The frustrating but cute thing is that all you are doing is ‘hanging out.’ But don’t fre—go with the flow and he will come around.
You Are The Only Girl He Notices
How does your guy friend react in the presence of other girls? His behavior and how he treats them say a lot about how he feels about you.
Let’s say your guy friend likes to playfully tease and taunt you. This is a great sign since it shows he wants you to be more comfortable around him. However, if he is playful with other girls as well, then take it as a red flag.
If you notice this, take it slow. He could be flirting with you for fun. You are better off rebuffing his advances and keeping your distance. There is a good chance he is either a player or he doesn’t know what he wants. Whatever the case, such a person will likely only serve to waste your time.
A guy who likes you will not flirt with other girls at all. As I said, men have a one-track mind. If he considers you a potential partner, he will take himself off the dating market. What’s more, he won’t want to spend time with other women if you are not present.
He Is Jealous Of Your Male Friends
Isn’t this one of the most obvious signs he likes you as more than a friend? Interestingly, lots of us tend to dismiss it and tie it to character problems.
Don’t be alarmed when this happens. Men are territorial, especially when it comes to women. It’s a sign that he wants you all for himself. The more time he gets to spend with you, the better. Men are selfish like this.
How does he react when you mention another guy? If your comments make him react impulsively, then he definitely likes you. It’s either that he will become cold and unresponsive or he will find negative things to say about the other guy.
The funny thing is, even if your friend is quiet and reasonable, he will immediately roast any guy you bring up. This behavior might seem alarming at first, but it is a strong sign that your friend is into you. Like all other men, I doubt your guy friend is fine with losing his cool around you. This only shows that he feels strongly about how you view other men.
I know it sounds selfish, but a guy that’s into you will want to hoard all your attention. In reality, he wants to know that he is your favorite.
He Acts Different Around You
A casual guy friend who isn’t into you will find it easy talking to you. However, all this changes when he develops feelings for you. And there’s a reasonable explanation behind this.
A guy who likes you will want you to notice him. This makes him more self-conscious than usual. Watch his body language; it’s a dead giveaway as well.
Reactions vary depending on your friend’s personality. He might be nervous in your presence or he might try to show off.
The setting plays a part as well. In a professional environment, a man who likes you will constantly seek your expert opinion on different matters. Does he care about his appearance when he is around you? If he corrects his posture or tries to straighten his clothes, then he wants you to notice him.
A guy will only try to impress you if he sees you as a potential partner. Which brings us back to the point I mentioned earlier: that a guy who wants you to be more than a friend will rarely act normal around you.
Interaction
Where a guy chooses to take you when you hang out says a lot about how he feels about you. But it is not just the location that matters. Since you want to learn the signs that a guy likes you as more than a friend, here’s what you should be on the lookout for.
You Meet Up More Often
A casual friend will only meet up with you when it’s necessary, even if he lives close by. This changes when a guy likes you. He will do everything to ‘run into you’ on a daily basis.
Don’t worry, this is all part of the process. He is simply working up the courage to ask you out and get you alone. This brings me to my next point.
It’s great that your guy friend wants to spend more time with you. However, pay attention to what goes on when you two hang out. It will help you better gauge his intentions. If he likes you as more than a friend, then he will barely notice time fly by.
Does your coffee grow cold as you both exchange ideas? Does he keep his phone on silent for the duration of the meeting? Does he seem sad when your time together ends? If he does, then he is definitely into you.
He Wants To Get Close To You
Does your friend keep his distance when you are out together? It could mean two things if he does: It’s either he is shy around you, or he doesn’t have any romantic intentions toward you. Quite the pickle, right?
Thankfully, figuring out where your guy friend stands is easy. Watch his reaction whenever you enter his personal space. If he likes you, he’ll be encouraged to get closer to you.
Like all men, your guy friend could be shy or afraid of rejection. However, once you show him that he has nothing to fear, he will quickly become comfortable in your company.
Now, where will this all lead?
Over time, he will mirror your body language. Now, this is perfectly normal so you shouldn’t freak out when it happens. Men do it subconsciously, and it’s a strong sign that a guy likes you as more than a friend.
For example, if a guy adopts certain words only you use, it’s probably because he’s trying to form a unique connection with you.
But wait, there’s more.
Eye contact can tell you a lot about what a guy feels. If your friend maintains eye contact with you during conversations, it’s a positive sign that he wants to take your friendship to the next step. You’ll notice his gaze constantly drifting to your mouth during conversations.
Guess what? A guy will only act that way around a girl he has a crush on.
Activities
In case your friend starts to frequently ask you out, keep track of the activities he picks. This will help you figure out his intentions.
For starters, what’s his preferred setting when meeting you? If he only invites you out when he’s with the boys, then he probably only thinks of you as a friend. But, if he insists on meeting just the two of you, then he definitely has feelings for you.
Now to the fun part. What does your friend like doing when you’re together? Intimate activities are a strong indicator that a guy wants more out of your friendship. He might invite you to his place for popcorn and scary movies. Or, he might ask you to help him beat a level in a game he likes.
In short, if a guy likes you, he will choose activities you can both enjoy. On that note, you should pay attention to the kind of places he takes you. For example, let’s say he takes you out to eat. Does he take you to a classy restaurant that other couples frequent?
If he does, then it’s a strong indicator that he sees you as more than a friend.
Also, watch how he acts around you when you are alone together. Does he lean in when he speaks to you? If so, there is a high chance that he wants to get closer to you. Men are very particular about sharing personal space. The fact that he is okay with being in your personal space means that he has let his guard down.
Here is a pro-tip in case you feel your guy friend is shy when around you: Tease him. Teasing works like a charm when drawing a shy guy out of his shell. My advice? Keep it light. Show him that you have a playful side. He will be eager to explore more of it.
You have made it to the end of the guide. Congratulations! Do you now agree with what I said earlier that men are straightforward and simple to read? I bet you do. All these subtle signs that he likes you as more than a friend are all around you. Maybe he even wants to marry you. You only need to look closer. If the signs are absent, that simply means the feeling is not mutual or there isn’t much to your friendship beyond what you see.
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