Isn’t it strange? It seems like a man will pull away when things are seemingly going great. You’re dating him and you are really starting to think the relationship is going somewhere or you’re in a relationship and the man that you enjoyed doing things with at one time has started to lose interest.
Why Does This Happen? Why Do Men Lose Interest And Pull Away?
Knowing the answer to this question can make some major transformations in your relationship. If you react the wrong way you can lose him forever, but if you can pinpoint the reason why he is doing this, you can bring him closer to you and create an unbreakable bond.
I’m going to share with you 3 common reasons men pull away and one highly effective technique you can use right now to get his attention again and make him want more of you.
Here’s The Mistake Some Women Make:
Some women label men “jerks” or “losers” when men start to pull away. They figure they are better off moving on to the next relationship, but not understanding the reason behind his aloofness just ensures that it will happen in the next relationship as well.
You can only go through so many “jerks” and “losers” before you decide you are going to get to the root of the issue and use techniques to make him fall in love instead of him losing interest.
Yeah, it does really suck when it seems you haven’t done anything wrong with a man and he starts to lose interest when he had so much at first.
Was he playing a game?
Did he even really like you in the first place?
I’m going to go over a few reasons why your man may be pulling away and what you can do to reel him back in.
First, let’s uncover the top reasons why men pull away.
1. You Changed It Up
What does this mean? This means that you became the pursuer instead of the one being pursued. Here’s how the switch happens. He’s doing all these great things for you and now you feel that you should reciprocate so he will know how much you care about him too.
This is one of the most common mistakes women make. It’s the match game. You feel that since he is doing things for you, the only way you can show you interest is to do something equally nice for him.
In a place called woman land this absolutely works. If you want to build your relationships closer to your female friends, this is a great technique. Your female friendships will be even stronger.
But we’re trying to get a man here right? So the technique is a little different. You show your appreciation not by giving, you show your appreciation by appreciating him.
What the heck are you talking about?
I’m talking about focusing on what he has provided. For example, if he has taken you to the movies and you really enjoyed your time, it will be much more effective to tell him how great the movie was instead of trying to figure out where you are going to take him on the next date.
When you take away the pursuit from the man, it’s less exciting for him. He becomes less attracted to you and moves on to a woman that offers a challenge.
2. It’s Natural
Men also pull away because it’s natural. It has nothing to do with you. This can happen when you first start dating. He is still trying to figure out his feelings for you and during this time he may pull away. This may also happen if you are already in a relationship.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make during this time is to ask him questions about the relationship or get angry at him for not contacting you, calling you, or communicating with you.
This is where most women lose it and instead of using this as an opportunity to bring him closer, make all the wrong mistakes to make men say nay instead of yay.
3. He’s Losing Interest In You
He may also be pulling away because he’s losing interest in you. He may have been interested at first, and now he has decided that he doesn’t want to pursue the relationship anymore.
This can be because of a variety of reasons. But the wrong thing to do in this instance is question him about his loyalty or try to “prove” to him that you are the perfect woman.
The Number One Step In Reeling Him Back In
The first step to reeling him back in is to allow him the time to pull away. It may seem counter-intuitive to do this. You may think if you give him the time, he’ll find someone else or he’ll pull away even more.
Allowing men this time may be difficult for you because it requires a lot of patience. But if you are able to give a man his time, it is highly effective. Use this time to refocus on yourself and enjoy your life.
Men pull away for various reasons, that is why it is essential to have the right foundation and understanding of why this happens and what you can do about it. I highly recommend the Connect and Commit website as it ensures there is the right foundation to get the relationship you deserve.
Awesome post.