So you are dating a man and things have been going well, but you haven't really gotten him to the point where he has fallen head over heels in love with you like you have for him?
You want to move to the next step of commitment, be exclusive, and stop playing these games of cat and mouse, where one minute he is doing all the right things and the next it's like he can care less whether you are with him or not.
I'm going to share with you 7 effective strategies to get your man to fall in love with you. If you are looking for quick tips to manipulate him into loving you, this is NOT the right place for you. But if you want to build sustaining love that stands the test of time, you have come to the right place. Be sure to read ALL 7 strategies as they work best together and you will be amazed at the wonderful results you get by using them.
How to Make Him Fall In Love
Getting a man to fall in love with you on his own accord is kind of like having a successful job interview. There are a lot of ingredients that can help you stand out from all the other candidates (other women).
Here's the thing, a lot of women do things that cause a man to pull away instead of wanting to move towards commitment with her (I'll discuss a few of them here), so when a man encounters a woman like you who knows the things that make him fall in love, he will be more than willing to make you his, exclusively. When it comes to attraction and making a man fall for you, it's not all that difficult to do, if you are doing the right things.
You May Have To Unlearn Some Things
But I have to warn you, although these strategies are extremely effective and simple, you have to unlearn some things that you have thought to be effective in the past.
Once you start putting these strategies into use the correct way, you will find that not only the man who you want to fall in love with you react in a different way, but you will find you are building better relationships with other men too.
Making Him Fall in Love - Strategy One
This is actually the backbone of ALL the strategies, it's like a prerequisite. If you don't have it, you can't use the other strategies effectively.
In fact, if you don't possess this quality, you WILL NOT want to make him fall in love with you at all. This is because, you have probably attracted the WRONG man for you.
The first strategy is all about loving yourself. In order to use the following strategies you have to LOVE YOURSELF first. I'm not talking about the superficial type of love you see on Social Media, where people are posting a zillion selfies of themselves in different types of mirrors.
This is not what I call self love. Self love comes from a more authentic and organic place within you. It's being ok with yourself and all your imperfections.
It's really looking in the mirror and appreciating the person you were in the past, because you have learned so much, loving the person you are now, and being excited about your daily growth that is going to create an even better you each and everyday.
Part of loving yourself is taking care of yourself physically and mentally. You should have goals for your future that are beyond getting married and having millions of children with him. What do you want out of your life? What steps are you taking to move yourself towards that?
Are your goals authentic and truly yours? When creating these goals for yourself make sure that they are YOUR goals and not what someone else has projected upon you. What do YOU really want out of life? If you are stuck as to what you want, don't get stressed or frustrated, you are in a great place. You should start by experimenting with different activities that catch your eye.
One way to give yourself a great mental boost is to write down your goals and write down just ONE activity you can do to move you toward that goal and start doing it now. It doesn't take an entire month for you to get that mental boost, sometimes it just takes a day of loving yourself enough to work towards what you want.
Once you truly appreciate and love yourself, you are in the perfect position to use Strategy #2 which is highly effective in getting him to see you the same way you see yourself.
Making Him Fall In Love - Powerful Strategy Two
This will not only move the right man closer to you, but it will weed out all the men that only want one thing. You will be surprised how effective this strategy is.
This strategy simply involves being able to say "no". What do I mean?
When dating one of the things that moves men closer to you and makes them want to fall in love is a principal called "exclusivity". It means that you aren't available all the time at his "beck and call".
This is a very powerful strategy and even if you have previously been "over-available", you can use this strategy to pull back a little yourself and it will be very effective at him wanting to spend more time with you.
So the first step to making this strategy work is valuing your time enough to set a daily schedule and setting up your weekends a week or so in advance. Call friends to make dates, attend church events, go to a local event, plan to visit a new shopping mall or grocery store, take yourself on a mini road trip, whatever suits your fancy.
Once you have your plans, set them in stone by writing them down. If said man or anyone else wants to do something during those times, let them know that you appreciate the invite, but you won't be able to make it.
I know sometimes this can be very scary because you want to spend as much time with him as possible, I know, I've been there. But I can assure you, the more flexible your schedule is when you talk to him, the less he will value your time.
You will be amazed at how well this strategy works.
Some of the benefits includes him wanting to spend even more time with you, him planning things way ahead of time to ensure that you will have time to spend with him, and him feeling that itch to make things exclusive so he can have more time to spend with you.
One of the things that turns men off is a woman who is too available and changes her plans to be with him. You had a girlfriends night all set, but he wants to hang out, so you cancel it. Big turnoff! Even if he acts happy initially that you are spending time together, when you do this often, you cause him to not value your time or you for that matter.
You may be thinking that by telling him that you aren't available, that he won't call again, but believe me, if he is really interested, this will just increase his interest and he'll be wondering how he can contact you earlier so he can spend more time with you.
This doesn't mean packing your schedule to FULL capacity so it is impossible for him to get a date, but it does mean not letting him interfere with a mani/pedi you have scheduled for yourself.
When you value your time, you will find yourself saying things like, "ooh, I can't do Saturday, I'm booked all day", the only time I have is Sunday before 5." You will find him asking what you have planned for next week.
Making Him Mine - Effective Strategy Three
This is probably the simplest but most underused strategy of them all. Not many women know how to properly appreciate what a man does in order for him to fall even more for you.
There are certain ways you can appreciate and compliment a man so it makes him smile from ear to ear instead of being uncomfortable around you.
Some women make the mistake of appreciating a man by talking about how great he is and talking about his inner qualities. This actually puts a man in a very uncomfortable position because he may feel uncomfortable showing his appreciation for you in the same way.
What works better is actually complimenting him on what he does.
So here's how it works, if he takes you to the movies or to a concert, talk about how much you loved the movie or the act. You can go really overboard here. You can say it was the best scary movie you've seen or talk about how you haven't been to a better concert.
You can give these type of compliments all day and it won't seem weird to him, because it isn't focused directly on him, it's focusing on what he has provided and when he hears that you enjoys what he has provided, he will be even more into you because he knows he has the ability to make you happy!
Men love when they can make a woman happy and actually get frustrated when a woman they are dating is overly depressed or talks bad about what he has provided, be it a meal, a movie, or whatever.
You don't have to be disingenuous here, just focus on those things that you liked and that will be enough.
If you talk negatively about a movie he has selected or a meal he has purchased, it's just like you talking negatively about him, and he will actually ask you out less, since he will deem you as a woman he cannot please.