Robyn Lee

Men lose interest all the time. It’s a fact. One day they are completely into you and the next day you’re wondering what you did wrong to make him become so distant. It’s natural for men to pull away a little, whether you are first dating or even if you have been in a relationship for a while.

You want to avoid taking this and micro analyzing your relationship, which can cause even further distance between you. Instead, use these 3 targeted strategies to bring him back where he should be, with you.

Used effectively, these strategies will serve the purpose of not only getting him to become interested again, but will have him wanting you even more, because you will be operating differently than most women he has ever dated.

Before I get into 3 things you can do to keep your man interested, I want to share with you one of the biggest mistakes women make when their man starts to lose interest and become more distant.

When he starts calling, texting, and contacting you less, one of the biggest mistakes you can make is to start a campaign proving to him that you are still interested in him. This means calling him more, sending sweet texts about how much you miss him, or any other number of things you may do to show him that you are still interested.

Don’t do this, this will most definitely cause him to pull away even further and maybe even stop all contact with you all together.

One strategy to move him towards stronger interest is the complete opposite of this method.

1. Give Him Some Space

The best thing to do when he starts to pull back a little is to allow him his space. Trust me, I know this is tough but it this strategy works so well and I still use it with my husband to direct his attention back to me.

Allowing a man his space actually helps him to draw closer to you.

If you can’t seem to get him off your mind during this time, plan time with your family and friends or do something you enjoy doing to keep your mind off him.
Implemented correctly, this strategy is extremely effective.

The next strategy is more of a warning flag of what not to do. If you are doing this, eliminating this type of talk about yourself will help draw him closer to you.

2. Eliminate the Negative Self Talk

Sometimes you may get in the habit of putting yourself down. For instance, you might share with your boyfriend that you think that your thighs are huge or that you can’t believe that you said something so stupid. Putting yourself down does not benefit anyone, it makes you look less self confident and your boyfriend feel really uncomfortable.

If you need to vent, call up one of your girlfriends for a quick pick me up. Excessively talking about your perceived defects makes him start to believe you.

One of the things that attracts us to other human beings is their confidence in themselves. No one wants to be on a losing team or a team that doesn’t believe they can win.

The last strategy involves diversifying your life, so he maintains his strong level of interest.

3. Diversify Your Life

This is most important, if you want to keep your man interested, be sure not to depend on him solely for your happiness. This can be difficult if you find that you enjoy spending time with him.

You don’t want to become needy, depending on him for all your enjoyment. So you have to work hard at developing other areas of your life to maintain some balance.

When you are needy you put a lot of unwanted pressure on him. So have fun with your friends, go out with your family. Don’t make it a habit of canceling dates with friends or family because your man wants to see you. Make him work around your schedule, he will be happy that you have more on your plate than just him.

3 Things He Will Always Do…If He Really Likes You

You’re probably not a detective. But it seems like it takes detective skills to figure out if a guy likes you nowadays. If you are dating someone and you are confused about his feelings for you, it can be really frustrating. Should you continue spending time thinking about him or should you just move on?

There are also specific instances where he likes you but will not approach you. This could be because of several reasons, but the most common is that he isn’t sure if you like him. Men hate rejection just as much as women and if you aren’t giving him those clear signs that you like him, he is less likely to approach you.

And sometimes it just seems like he is playing games, that he is intentionally making you hot and cold for some reason beyond your understanding. You were clear about what you wanted, so why is he playing childish games?

Take a look at my advanced attraction techniques, I share the secret to captivating a man, making him fall in love and keeping him around…and that’s what’s important, right?

We’ve all been there, trying to determine if it he likes us enough to start a relationship or if it is just a little crush.

Here are some sure-fire ways to tell if he likes you

Actually, figuring out men isn’t all that difficult, you just have to know their language. And it’s completely different from the female language. If you are willing to get out of your comfort zone I am going to show you three fool-proof methods to determine if he likes you.

1. This is What He Should Be Assuming…

Does he make dates with you in advance? Men who are interested in a woman assume that other men are interested as well. If he’s interested he won’t chance calling you the same day of an event or the day he wants to take you out to ask you to accompany him.

If he does, he will acknowledge that it is last minute and understand that you might not be able to accompany him.

Rarely if Ever Do This, You Will Regret It!

Even if you are really into him and like him a lot, rarely should you accept an offer on the same day. Make your schedule for the week ahead of time and if you planned to curl up and watch a movie on the sofa or go out with a few friends, honor your plans to yourself and let him know you have already made plans. Otherwise you risk being too easy.

A lot of women mistakenly think by denying a man what he wants that he will lose interest. The opposite is actually true. His interest grows when he has to continue pursuing you.

But be careful not to play games with him. He will see right through them and you will be the one ultimately hurt in the end.

2. Have You Met This Person?

Has he introduced you to his family or friends? I’m not talking about his buddies that he chases women with; I’m talking about people who are really special to him.

If he’s bad mouthed his mom or tells you how he can’t stand his dad, him introducing you to them doesn’t say much.

Side Note: if he is doing this you don’t want a long term relationship with him anyway. – – > Usually, Men who don’t respect their families will have a tough time respecting you also.

You will want to meet the people who are special in his life. If he has a little sister that he talks about like she is a little princess and he introduces you to her, chances are that he is into you.

If he tells you how much he loves his grandmother and then he introduces you to her, this is a good sign that he likes you as well.

Want to learn how to do the right things to make a guy fall in love with you? Watch the Guy Magnet Video for tips on how to navigate a relationship correctly that leads to commitment.

3. Will he wait for you?

Some women will get offended if a guy waits too long to be intimate with them. They feel that he isn’t attracted to them or he doesn’t want a relationship with them. Understand that if you are feeling this way, it comes from your own insecurities and not the actual truth.

The truth is SOME men will wait to be intimate with a woman they deem as special.

On the other hand if he is making sexual advances on the first date, you can pretty much be sure that IS his FINAL goal. And once he gets it he will move to the next.

This is different from a man wanting to be intimate a few dates after. If you are uncomfortable with his advances, let him know you aren’t ready to take that step yet. A man who has feelings for you beyond getting you into bed will RESPECT your wishes to wait.

You should not get offended if a man wants to become intimate after dating for a while, he is just saying that his body is attracted to yours. If you are not ready, or you don’t have a commitment (imperative before becoming intimate), you should let him know that you aren’t ready for that step.

A man who is thinking more long term will respect your decision.

The Calling Test

When you are dating someone and unsure on whether they are truly interested in you or not, it can be tempting to continue calling to try to gauge their feelings, resist the urge.

Men run on a different clock then women. If you are dating it will be EASY for him to go a couple of weeks without calling. He can usually fill up his time with work, hanging out with friends, etc.

If after a couple of weeks, you don’t hear from him, don’t take too much offense.

If you want to call and ask his opinion on a subject or to just talk about how much fun you guys had the last time you went out, that’s permitted.

But under no circumstances should a call be made to scold him on why he didn’t call or to ask him his feelings for you, if you do this you are pretty much saying it’s ok if I don’t see you again.

The Biggest Mistake

One of the biggest mistakes you can make with calling men is calling him to ask him out. There was a guy I once dated and I always called him to ask him to go places with me.

It was very confusing for me because he ALWAYS said yes, but he never called me to ask me out. This is one of the most frustrating feelings is trying to determine if someone is going out with you because they can’t say no or if they are really interested in you.

So, if you want to avoid that awful feeling, it is best to allow him to call you and ask you out again. Then you can be sure that he is interested in going out with you. And his attraction will grow because he is doing the chasing.

If he goes 8 weeks without calling you, you can pretty much throw in the towel and continue or start dating other men. Guys usually WILL NOT call to tell you they are not interested. So you will have to take this as your final clue.

3 Ways Women Flirt That Actually Turn Men Off | 6 Steps To Doing It Right!

Flirting with men is really simple, but only if you know how to do it effectively.

There is a lot of inaccurate information about flirting circulating around and you don’t want to get caught up in the “quick fixes” of flirting.  Quick fixes involve being confident and just asking the guy out (I’ll get to why this doesn’t work), wearing seductive clothing (you’ll get him but for a short time only), and playing hard to get (if you really aren’t hard to get, he’ll figure it out).

I’m not here to teach you any black hat techniques that use trickery or seduction to get a guy to ask you out.  These techniques only work for a short time.  But if you are looking for some solid, organic (real:) methods to flirt that flat out work and last long term, you’ll want to read on.

6 Steps To Flirting the Right Way

Tip #1: Do you have this?

Alright, I have to be very honest with you on this point. It will be very hard to complete this flirting technique if you don’t feel good about yourself. It will be necessary to have confidence when flirting because through your smile a man can sense nervousness and how you feel about yourself. You want to give off the vibe that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you are a “prize” to be won.

Another reason why you will have to have confidence is because every man you smile at will not smile at you back. Maybe he is married, maybe he is in a serious relationship, maybe he is just not that interested, maybe he’s gay, maybe you didn’t notice his girlfriend walking directly behind him. The possibilities are endless.

And that is ok, when you have confidence you understand that you are still a bombshell and obviously him not smiling back is a problem of his and not yours.

Tip #2: At your best

It’s just a fact, the better you look the better you will feel about yourself. The more comfortable you are the more relaxed you will be. When you are walking around in clothes you don’t feel good in, it will be difficult to flirt. Have you ever noticed that your attitude changes depending on what you are wearing. That is why schools make kids wear uniforms, because putting them in that dress says it is time to work. That is why people where business suits, when you are dressed in that way you know it’s time to work.

So when you are flirting you want to feel sexy and feminine while still being completely comfortable. This doesn’t mean going out and buying new clothes it just means looking the best you can.

Mega Tip: Men love women who wear dresses and skirts. Because not a lot of women wear these outfits nowadays. Men like women because they are women. They love to see curves and legs. That’s what makes you different from them. This doesn’t mean dressing with all your assets out. It just means looking nice and feminine.

Tip #3: What’s your decision?

The first part of this flirting technique is deciding who you want to flirt with. If you want you can go ahead and choose the easy target at first. But eventually you will have to choose the man you really want. You don’t want to make it a habit of flirting with guys you have not interest in. You run the risk of confusing the man since you clearly gave him the “green light” and go ahead.

Tip #4: Catch him

When you decide which guy you want to flirt with, you will need to catch his eye. Give him some eye contact while giving him a warm smile. The smile should say “welcome”. Be careful not to grin or cheese. You want him to know that this smile is specifically for him. Hold eye contact with your warm smile for a good 3-5 seconds. I know this may seem like a long time, but you want it to be obvious that this smile is for him.

Tip #5: Look Away

Next you will have to look away slightly. Either tilt your head down a bit or look at something else briefly, not your watch. This should be done for a couple of

seconds and then look up again and give him another smile. If he is really interested he is probably already interested in you.

Tip #6: Let him lead

The final part is probably the hardest. When he approaches you, let him lead the conversation. Let him do the talking. Let him ask you for your contact information. Trust that he will know the right things to say.

This technique works time and time again for women.

Flirting Really Isn’t Difficult

Flirting is not all that difficult to do if your ONLY goal is to get the guy to come over and talk to you. Just flash him a warm smile and if he’s into you he’ll come over and talk to you, period. But what really hurts is attracting him and not knowing how to talk to him when he approaches you, not knowing how to have an effective teasing conversation on the phone so that he automatically asks you out, and not knowing what to do and say on dates when you go out to make him want to call you back.

The Flirting Technique That Has Worked Time & Time Again

I’ve always been interested in how people meet and it’s not uncommon for me to ask someone how they met their mate.

I remember a time when I asked my granddad how he met my grandmother. His answer was really straight-forward and simple. He told me that a lot of women smiled at him but when my grandmother smiled at him, he smiled back.

And when he told me this, I really have to admit I thought he was kind of crazy, it couldn’t be that simple to meet someone. I had tried for years to attract the type of man I wanted without avail.

As I began delving deeper into relationships and actually helping thousands of women with their relationship issues I found very early on why this technique worked for grandma.

You see, my grandmother wasn’t the type of woman to turn heads, she wasn’t super skinny or super attractive. She didn’t wear the latest trends nor was she super sociable. She was just an average woman who knew an extraordinary secret. Maybe by accident or maybe she knew what she was doing.

My grandfather on the other hand was actually a very handsome man. He was very fit and and unlike my grandmother, he did turn a lot of heads. A lot of women most likely threw themselves at him to no avail because at the end my grandmother got the ring.

But what is amazing is how my grandmother’s simple flirting technique actually works as well as it did back then as it does today. See, I’m kind of like my grandmother, not super attractive, not really sociable either, although some might disagree. And the thing about it is I like a lot of men who are “out of my league”. I like men with muscles and an attractive face although you could probably search for hours on me and not find one trace of a muscle. I also like men that dress nice although I could probably count the number of “nice” outfits I have in my wardrobe on one hand.

So one day I just decided to mess around and flirt. The first time was in a coffee shop. I said if I’m going to put myself out there I’m going big. Go big or go home, right? So I saw this attractive man in a suit come into the coffee shop. I looked him in his eyes and gave him the warmest smile. He looked at me and gave a flirtatious smile back. I didn’t implement the second part of the flirting technique that causes a man to approach you because I was in a relationship but it amazed me at how great it worked. A simple smile and this tough man in a business suit who walked into the coffee shop was rendered defenseless with my smile.

Since then, I’ve done it a couple more times, without the second part of course and found it to work time and time again.

Why is this?

Well, you have more power than you think as a woman. With a simple smile, done the right way, you melt a man’s heart. He becomes sort of defenseless and you get into the heart of a man. Really it seems kind of unfair because once you effectively catch his eye he really can’t help the actions that follow. He will want to approach you and see you again. He won’t want to miss the opportunity.

You see, a lot of women go through the day not making eye contact with men, let alone smiling because of low self confidence or they feel they need to do more to flirt. But flirting is simple. You can modify this technique for whatever situation you are in. You can use it at work, while at a nightclub, or even at a library.

Allowing the man to approach you starts a relationship the right way because he is doing the pursuing. A lot of relationships fail because the woman is trying to pull the relationship along by trying to “convince” a man why she is right for him. It just doesn’t work. Men will always want to be the one who pursues and most likely be turned off by women who throw themselves at them.