Robyn Lee

What Attracts Men To Women

Why Sexy Women End Up Getting Their Heart Broken

Few women actually know what attracts men to women.

You may falsely believe that being sexy or attractive is what gets a man to want to be in a relationship with you, but this is not the case. Being attractive plays a part in enticing a man, but men choose which woman they want to spend more time with based on other factors.

Note: Want to also learn how to be irresistible to him? Check out my post on how to be irresistible to men, 5 techniques.

I’m going to share with you 3 qualities that actually attract men to women. You’ll learn the truth about attraction – things you would never knew about men that give you a competitive edge when attracting him. This is because few women understand what men really look for in women.

A lot goes on in a good man’s head before he approaches you. And I’m not including the men that honk their horn at you or the men in the club or bar that grab your arm to get your attention. These men most likely honk and grab at anything that walks. When attracting a good man you’ll want to keep the following attraction truths in mind.

The Truth About Attraction: 3 Things He Wants

1. Are you comfortable in your own skin?

Before you attempt to attract any man you have to make sure you like yourself.

Duh, of course I like myself, what does that mean?

I mean you truly have to love yourself and what’s going on in your life right now, even if you feel your life is stressful, overwhelming, or pretty much just sucks right now. You have to have the attitude that “things might suck right now, but I’m going to get through and I’m still pretty darn awesome!”

You have to surround yourself with people who are motivators and will uplift you instead of people who are draining and bring you down. Feeling good about yourself is underrated; it truly is the magnet that attracts good men. I’m not saying that you can’t attract a man if you aren’t completely comfortable in your own skin, but believe me you won’t want to.

Here’s why:

Attracting a man into your life because you feel he will make you happier, rarely if ever works. Dressing up, flirting, and having men ask you out when you aren’t happy with who you are is like a gazelle fattening up…only for the lion to ravish it.

In case you didn’t know, men do take advantage of those women who have low self esteem because these women tend to be very easy.If you are already feeling pretty good about yourself that is great. But you’ll need more to seal the deal.

2. Are you effective at giving the green light?

You have to be an effective flirter. It scares most men to death to approach a woman they may be interested in….unless he does the task very often, then you really don’t want that type of man anyway. You have to give him a little something to go on, whether it’s a smile or a little eye contact.

A good flirting technique is to catch his eye and give an inviting smile, keep the glance for about 2-3 seconds and then look away. Look back at him and smile again. This way he knows that if he approaches you he most likely won’t risk rejection.

3. Can you do this for him?

Lastly, the woman who is able to attract a man for long term has the ability to make a man feel good about himself. The woman who makes a man feel good about himself will always win. You will want to learn how to effectively make a man feel good about himself.

This is not about giving fake compliments are acting overly into him. It’s about allowing him to do certain things for you. Let him pay for the first date and allow him to open your door.

Let him know by accepting his good deeds that you appreciate what he is doing. A man gets his pleasure in the relationship from making you happy. So if he feels that he will be effective in making you happy he will be more attracted to you because that will be what will make him feel good about himself.

Don’t trust my word for it, go out there are use this stuff, the results are amazing. If you want more amazing results, check out the The Guy Magnet website to learn how to be the woman that a man desires and wants to spend the rest of his life with.

Signs He Likes Me

Top 9 Ways He Will Secretly Let You Know He’s NOT Interested

Are you trying to figure out if he is into you? Is he giving you mixed signals that he likes you? You are not alone. At some point, all women have wondered the extent of a man’s affection and I’m going to share with you the 9 ways you can tell if he is into you.

Please note: This is part 2 of a 2 part post, make sure you read the first part of signs that he likes you.

When trying to get a man to fall for you or in love with you, you need to be strategic about the way you do things once you find out that he is into you.

The most effective thing you can do is avoid giving him too much once you find out he likes you. What you do in the beginning affects the course of your relationship and you don’t want to make mistakes that are hard to undo later on. Check out the Guy Magnet video for some tips on how to start your relationship off right.

9 Clear Signs That He Isn’t All That Into You

The following signals are a pretty good indication that he is probably not as attracted to you (if at all) as you might like them to be:

1. Where does he look?

He averts his eyes when talking to you. This is body language and if he is doing this he probably would rather be somewhere else.

2. Has he done this?

He has asked for your phone number, but then didn’t call. Or, if he gave you his number and expects you to give him a call. Don’t fall into this trap. Often times when men give their number to women, they want the woman to chase them or they want to see just how desperate a woman is. He needs to ask for your number AND call you.

3. Broken Promises?

He says he is going to call and then he doesn’t. Ok, there could be a good excuse for this (and it had better be a good one!), however we all know it only takes two seconds to make a quick call or even send a text message! Or if you call him and he says he will call right back and he never gets around to it.

4. Disrespect?

Does he flirt with other women while he is around you? Not a good sign at all.

5. Is everything one-sided?

You call him 90% of the time. If he rarely, if ever calls you then chances are they aren’t as interested in you as you are in them. The best thing to do in this situation is to take some time off from calling you to see if he starts to pursue. If not, it’s best to move on.

6. Excuses?

He always makes up excuses as to why he can’t meet your friends or family. Why wouldn’t he want to meet your friends and family if he is really attracted to you and wants things to last?

7. Has he said this?

They told you they weren’t attracted to you (ok, that’s pretty obvious!) It’s hard to believe but for some women this isn’t enough. Believe me, if he’s said he’s not attracted or interested he isn’t. Even the most shy guys find a way to let you know of their interest.

8. Important dates?

He forgot your birthday – again. If he forgets important dates or events in your life, then he doesn’t place much importance on these dates in your life. You deserve better.

9. Avoidance?

He only answers his phone when he doesn’t know it is you calling. This person is too scared to tell you they’re not interested, so will avoid talking to you for as long as possible in hope that you will give up and move on.

DATER BEWARE: Sometimes it is difficult to tell if he is attracted to you or not if he is a genuinely nice person and does not want to hurt you. Or you could be confused by a person who is just simply a good conversationalist. Sometimes people just enjoy talking to other people and you should not mistake this as an attraction sign.

MEGA TIP: If he really likes you he will find a way to approach you. Even if he’s shy, he will find an excuse to see you or call you.

Missed the first part of this post? Find it here.

Why Men Cheat: The Ultimate List of Reasons

When They Otherwise Wouldn’t

This post will explain why most good men cheat, some men will cheat regardless given the opportunity and does not apply to them.

We got it wrong ladies. For years, we’ve been dressing up, wearing makeup, putting on our high heels and making sure we show enough cleavage to get his attention when he strays.

And all too often when celebs break up we always ask “How could she get cheated on? She’s beautiful.” Or “If Halle Berry or Christie Brinkley was cheated on, there’s just no hope.”

Many times women wrongly assume that the reason why men cheat is because of something physical. And I’m here to challenge your views on why men cheat and tell you a simple way you can prevent it in your own relationship.

I’m not saying that you can put your makeup and high heels away, men do appreciate when you look good. But what I’m saying is there is something more important that is CRUCIAL that you add to your daily routine. In fact if you don’t add this into your daily routine, there is a good chance he will stray.

As much as I hate to admit it, I at once was attracted to someone else’s man.I was very surprised that I was able to get in so close with him especially since he had a girlfriend for over 7 years.

But once I understood the #1 reason why men cheat, it all made perfect sense. He was missing something very important in his relationship that if he had there would be no way I would have been able to get in.

Luckily, as far as our “heated” relationship went were a few very long personal emails. She was a very smart woman and was able to catch it before it went too far. And hopefully what she did was give him more of what he obviously needed.

And that thing that he obviously needed was…appreciation. If you have been keeping up with What Men Want or if you are part of my mini course 10 Lessons On Men, you would know that a man’s number one need is to feel successful.

The woman that is able to achieve making a man feel more successful will always win….that is how you attracted him in the first place.

Think about it…when you first get with someone, most of the time the world revolves around him, you pick out his good attributes and you run with it. And even his bad attributes you kind of sweep under the rug.

At the beginning of the relationship is when a man is most happy because he is being successful at making you happy. And that is his chief aim, to feel successful.

Fast forward to a few months or years later, the appreciation starts to diminish and you might start to suggest things that he could do better or ridicule him for not going after a promotion at his job. Or complain about him not doing things around the house. Not saying these issues should not be addressed but there is a correct way to address them.

Your man begins to feel that he can’t make you happy anymore. Thus making him feel unsuccessful.

This doesn’t mean that he is going to hurry and go and cheat on you but it does mean that his defenses are weakened.

So when otherwise, he would be able to ward off the women who say, “You look nice today” or “You did such a great job on that project” – His defenses are weakened and if a woman really wants a piece of your man, this is her prime opportunity. Because all she has to do is compliment him and make him feel good by acknowledging his accomplishments and make him feel that he can be successful at making her happy.

Don’t get me wrong…this is not the ONLY reason why men cheat. But such a large amount of men cheat because of it, a little less than 60% that it bears passing along the information.

So the #1 thing you can do to keep your man’s attention on you has nothing to do with how you look, the first thing that should be done is to fill his appreciation tank (I know, it’s quite dorky – I’m a daughter of two teachers).

But that is what you will need to do, speak life into your man. Let him know that he is successful at making you happy. Be amazed by some of the things he does. In the next lesson in this series we will discuss some warning signals that he is straying.

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Road To Commitment E Course: This course is for women who find themselves not moving towards commitment with their partners. The goal of this course is to show you tested strategies to cause your man to want to move to the next level of commitment.

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Also, I’ve put together a new article about how a man falls in love (these are the 3 things that I did unknowingly to make it easy for my husband to fall in love with me).

I also share an embarrassing story of how I tried to make a guy fall in love with me. You may even squeal when you read it because if you knew me back then, you would have surely stopped me!

The post includes:

3 Crucial Steps That Cause Men To Fall In Love With You
How to Get Him To Notice You, Even If He Doesn’t Know Your Name
3 Things That Cause Men to Lose Interest EVEN If He Was Interested At First

I can honestly say that if you miss any of these three steps in causing a man to fall in love, you are building your relationship or marriage on shaky ground.

But if you do use these three steps, you can almost ensure that you have built a solid relationship/marriage – and even if he begins to pull away, it will be temporary and you will ALWAYS be able to bring him back.

==> 3 Crucial Steps To Cause A Man To Fall In Love

We’ll talk soon,

Robyn Lee

Should I Date Him? 5 Obvious Signs That You Shouldn’t

How do you know if you should continue dating someone?

If you aren’t feeling good about the relationship and you’ve only been on one or two dates, it can be difficult to determine whether you should continue dating someone or if you should cut your loses.

And even if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s never too late to end something that does not serve you in a positive way.

On one hand, you want to give the guy a fair shot and on the other hand, you know you aren’t getting everything you want and you may even be making compromises to date him.

It can even feel like you’re forcing it because you want it to work, because you don’t want to make the mistake of losing a great guy or you just like the company of another human being on the weekends (hey, it happens :-)).

Let’s discuss for a moment the power of women’s intuition. Often times that little voice in our head that tells us that something isn’t quite right, is what we should listen to in order to avoid relationship disaster. But we have to be careful not to let that voice run awry, because leaving your guard up could cause you to lose a great man.

So to help you, I’ve put together five signs that signal that you should cut your losses early and stop dating him:

1. Your Intuition Tells You That Something Is Wrong.

You want to find him charming, and you want to move forward, but your intuition is telling you no. Most of the time women tend to have good intuition, so follow your instincts.

Although you may want commitment, you shouldn’t have to force it or ignore possible warning signs. Even if he looks good on paper, chances are that if your gut says that he’s not a good candidate, then your hunch is probably right.

But you want to also be careful that you aren’t confusing your good hunch with preconceived notions or impossible to meet high standards.

2. Something Seems “Off” About Him, Though You Can’t Put Your Finger On It.

You were set up with him by a good friend. He is everything that you are looking for in a man; he truly seems like Prince Charming in theory. In practice though, you get a weird suspicion about him and wonder what it’s all about.

This ties into intuition and your feelings often being a good indicator. You want to believe that you can move things forward, but something just seems off about him.

He may have a criminal background that you don’t know about. It may be something much simpler, such as he has a fear of commitment. If something about him just doesn’t add up or if it strikes you as odd, then move away from the situation.

Especially if you catch him lying about something that there is no reason to lie about like him telling you he is best friends with a member of your favorite music group. Or lying about important info, such as him being married or having kids.

There may be some exaggeration during the first dates to impress, but habitual liars should not be trusted.

3. You Aren’t Feeling The Chemistry Or Even A Spark.

Some will say that chemistry can grow in time. If,however, you feel absolutely no romantic connection at the beginning, then that can be a warning sign.

You may feel as though you can grow to love him or to feel attracted to him, but is that realistic?

Do you want to force yourself to feel something that should just come naturally?

There should be some connection, some chemistry or some sort of spark that comes about without trying. If you feel absolutely nothing, then perhaps he is just not a good match for you.

And even if you don’t feel that spark at first, during the first couple of dates, through conversation, that should change very quickly.

But if after speaking with him, you get even more disgusted. Let it go. You deserve to be with someone you are attracted to.

4. You Want Different Things.

Within minutes of a first date, you can tell a lot about somebody. You may even be able to tell some fundamental personality traits that are key to his identity.

If he states that he doesn’t want children, for example,and you do, then this is not a good match. But be careful not to mistake his not wanting kids at this moment for him not wanting kids at all.

If he doesn’t seem close to his family or understands why people are, then you may feel the urge to stop dating him, if you are really close to your family. You will want to date someone who values family too because it’s important during family gatherings that he gives your family respect.

If you can see that fundamentally you are very different or that you want different things out of life or your future, then keep away from future dates.

Remember, you never really change somebody!

Don’t confuse this with different interests. You can still have a loving and healthy relationship with someone who enjoys different things than you do.

5. His Personality Or Characteristics Are Less Than You Want; Never Settle.

Some women want a relationship and commitment so bad that they will do anything to get it. Don’t be the woman who settles or compromises what you want, you will always question yourself and him and this will ultimately lead to strife in the relationship.

Sure, you have to have a realistic view of the man that you want to be with, but you also have to be honest with yourself as well.

If you feel like you are trying to convince yourself too much or that he is missing something important to you,then it’s just not meant to be.

His Personality Or Characteristics Are Less Than You Want; Never Settle.

Be strong enough to stand up for what you believe in and never settle for anything less than you deserve or want!

You want to be sure you are creating the right foundation when starting a relationship, otherwise dating could end in a disaster or worse, a horrible relationship that is difficult to get out of.

The key is to date confidently. Shyness and especially fear can rear it’s ugly head and ruin what could be a great relationship. Shyness and fear show up in not so apparent ways.

It may be that you continue dating a guy that is not right for you, avoid talking about topics that really matter to you because you are afraid of losing you, or you may feel a lack of confidence that makes it difficult for him to do things for you because you give off an “undeserving” vibe.

Wondering What Men Want? The One Thing They All Need

In our last lesson we talked about relaxing and enjoying the dating process. When men sense that you are desperate or are on a mission to find “the one” no matter how hard you try to hide it, they will sniff you out and start their getaway.

In this lesson I am going to share with you a very powerful tip that will put you way ahead of the game.

Whether you are dating someone, you have a huge crush (never too old for those), or if you are in a relationship, the following information will mean a huge shift in your relationships with men.

The most important thing to a man

A lot of women get this wrong, they believe that men want a pretty woman by their side or a new game console or a lot of money.

Although most men if you ask will agree that those things are very nice, if you know the reason or the root to why they are interested in these things it will put you way ahead of the game.

Men NEED to feel successful

Every man’s primary goal is to be successful. When a woman does a good job at this, a man will LOVE being around her.

There are a few ways a woman can achieve making a man feel successful. I’m going to share one with you in this lesson.

If You Are Dating or Even If You Aren’t:

I love love love this technique. It has always worked for me and it is really easy to implement and fun.
This technique actually will work with someone you are dating or have been with for a while. You can also use it on crushes, when applicable.

You can use this technique if you want to draw him closer to you. Make sure you are genuine when using this technique because it’s really easy to tell if you are faking it.

One way you can draw him closer to you is by giving him a compliment. I know this seems very simple and not even worth calling it a secret but the way you give your compliment will make the difference between drawing him closer to you or pushing him further away.

A compliment like “I really really had a good time with you” might sound great to you and you would probably love hearing this from a man but I’m going to challenge you to change the way you give compliments.

Instead of focusing on him, focus on what he provided. Sometimes when you put the focus on him, he gets scared and feels you are trying to pressure him into being with you.

Here’s a much better compliment.

Say that he has taken you to the movies and the movie was great. After the movie, talk about how great the movie was.

Say “I really loved that movie”, “I had such a good time”. “That was the best movie I’ve seen in a while”.
This is an easier way for you to make a compliment because you don’t have to worry about waiting for him to say something nice back to you.

And he will be smiling on the inside and most likely on the outside too, because HE has provided you with that experience and he has become SUCCESSFUL in making you happy.

Next Action: This week, whether you are dating or you have a crush or you are in a long term relationship, try this technique out. You can actually use it on any man to make them fell really good. If your dad buys you lunch, focus on how great the meal is. If you go out to a concert with a guy, talk about how much fun you had. If you are working on a project with him, talk about how well written his portion was.

For example if you’re working on a project with him, instead of “You are the best writer and researcher” say “Wow, this section is really good. It’s so well put.”

In our next lesson, we’ll be talking about why some guys don’t call back, even if you had a great date, and what you can do to get him pursuing you again.

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