“How am I supposed to get a guy’s attention without talking to him?” It’s a good question and it’s not easy to answer by any means. However, I want you to think of getting a guy’s attention without talking to him as an initial step towards getting what you want in this situation. Before you talk to any guy, you will have to get his attention somehow to get him interested in talking to you as well.
Don’t panic. This process is way easier than it sounds. Gone are the days when your only form of communicating with someone is walking up to them and talking to them. In the age of technology, social media, and 1001 dating apps, the options you have as to how to attract a guy without talking to him are bountiful. Do you have to put yourself out there in ways you may never have before? Of course. But it could be fun and even a little exciting. But that’s up to you decide, so read on, and see what you think.
Dress Up
Have you ever heard the saying, “when you feel good, when you look good?”. It is so true! Whether you go out to the mall and buy a new outfit for yourself, or put together a new outfit using some “vintage” items from your closet, wearing something different can make you feel brand new and super confident!
Apply some fancy makeup (it doesn’t have to be a lot), throw some curls in your hair, and spray some perfume. By no means should you change your entire appearance, because you are absolutely gorgeous as you are, but if you put in a little extra effort he will definitely take notice. More than that, you will feel good about yourself, which is always the priority. If this guy sees you are feeling yourself, that is automatically an attractive quality.
This will only work for you if you don’t have your sights set on a specific guy. But, dating apps can open up your mind to a whole new world of possibilities. Not only that, but you can easily get a guy’s attention without saying a word (well, maybea text, but that doesn’t count!).
Sign Up For A Dating App (Or Two)
A dating app can be easy way as to how to get a guy’s attention without talking to him, and this can be fun for you in the process. Here are some popular dating apps for you to check out if you’re interested in taking this route:
- Bumble
- Tinder
- The League
- Hinge
Be Active On Social Media
Does he follow you on Instagram? Snapchat? Facebook? All of the above?
It’s time to find some good lighting and do a “just because” photoshoot with friends and maybe throw some very flattering selfies in there. In other words: FEEL YOURSELF.
Don’t be overactive and post every second on every social media account you have, because then he won’t look forward to your pictures. Instead, try posting once every couple of days to keep it interesting and keep a lookout for the likes from him.
If you’re friends on Snapchat, let’s take a second to applaud you:
*applause, applause, applause*
In case you’re wondering why I’m so excited about this, it is a known fact that Snapchat is a step above Instagram in terms of “follower” status.
Nowadays, Snapchat shows a much more realistic picture of your everyday life, and it’s easier to get to know people through their “Snap Stories”. Most people will put on anything on their Snap stories, whereas on Instagram, it is much more thought out and calculated. You also have the opportunity to “text” through Snapchat and comment on each other’s stories. This kind of interaction provides great conversation starters for the future. You may not want to mention that you remember the type of shirt he was wearing in his snap from last Thursday at 3:43 p.m., but bringing up the hilarious video of his dog that he shared might be a good idea!
Don’t be afraid to slide into those DMs if you see he is liking your pictures, or “snaps you often. Odds are, if he’s doing this, he probably wants you to anyway!
For more advice on getting a guy’s attention by using social media:
Recruit A Reliable Friend To Talk To Him
This is the oldest trick in the book. While it may seem a little immature to have your friend talk to a guy for you, sometimes it is the easiest way to break the ice, especially if you are all in the same friend group or your friend happens to know this person as well.
Who knows? This guy you are interested in may be unsure of your feelings and whether or not you like him, and therefore doesn’t want to put himself out there. Yes, you read right; he might be just as nervous and intimidated as you are.
This could also be true in the reverse situation and can save you from any potential embarrassment or awkward encounter. Having a reliable middleman in this situation relieves that worry and you can sit back and relax, as much as possible, in the process.
The most important keyword in this situation is reliable. Make sure your the friend you choose to go talk to this guy on your behalf doesn’t say anything super embarrassing and make sure she has your back.
Show Off Your Fun Side
Yes, that’s right. I don’t even know you, and I know that you have a fun side, because everyone does if they relax and let themselves enjoy life.
Are you hanging out in a big group? Playing a game? Out dancing? Show him that you can have fun and that you can be the life of the party. Guys will love it when you show that you can liven up any room and can have fun no matter what. Why?
It shows them that they can do their own thing and not have to worry about you doing yours. It is also a great indication of how fun you would bring to the relationship, should it come to that.
Use Body Language To Your Advantage
Body language, such as a quick wink, smile, or wave is an effective way to get a guy’s attention without talking to him. It is not as meaningful as a conversation, but it is definitely a way to capture initial interest.
This guy will see that you noticed him, and that you are taking the initiative to “say” that you are attracted to him and might want to learn more about him. It will also give him incentive to approach you, in case he wasn’t sure of your interest beforehand. Here are some key body language signals to send to the guy from whom you want this attention:
- Purposeful eye contact
- Wink
- Smile
- Flirty/little wave
- Bite your lip
- Look away flirtatiously
- Play with your hair
- Keep a tall, confident posture
- Walk closely so your bodies/hands brush against each other
- Avoid crossing your arms
- Raise your eyebrows flirtatiously
Check out this hilarious yet helpful YouTube video with some additional tips as to how to tell a guy you like him without talking to him.
What it comes down to is confidence – having it and showing it. You may choose to try one or all of the suggested tips above, but in all honesty, none of them will work in your favor if you don’t gather up all of the courage you have and have some confidence in yourself as you are doing them. Not only will guys notice this about you, but you will feel extremely empowered in the process.
Another important thing to remember in these situations is that, if you have to try too hard to get a guy’s attention without talking to him, the best thing to do may be to strike up a genuine conversation. Every guy is different and some don’t pick up on non-verbal cues like those listed. There is nothing necessarily wrong with this, it just means that you’re going to have to put in some extra effort.
How do you do that? Check out this article to get some inspiration for a great start.
Similarly, if you have to try too hard to get a guy’s attention, it may not be worth it. If you’re doing the best you can applying the tips above, and he still isn’t showing interest, it is time to move on to the next guy.
Bottom line: you can do this. As uncomfortable as it may seem to put yourself out there in this way, sometimes non-verbal communication can be more effective than walking right up to someone to start a conversation. It shows initial interest and is super flirty and sexy at the same time. So get out there, girl! Show (not tell) him what you’ve got!
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