I Like Him But…He Doesn’t Work With Me Anymore!

I like a man I met 5 months ago. I want him to know I like him and I also want to know if he likes me too. We are not in constant communication since he no longer works at my office. What should I do?

Yes, it can be a horrible feeling if you like someone and they are no longer accessible to you anymore. The best way to have handled this situation is prevention. A lot of times as women we are scared to make the “first move” but often times we will have to make that “secret” first move for a man to notice us, if he hasn’t already and for him to ask us out.

Now if you read any of my lessons in my 10 Lesson Mini Course, you know that I am not a proponent of women chasing men. This is because through the chase the man’s attraction grows. But, making the first move doesn’t have to be a chase. A simple warm smile will let him know that you are approachable, at least in a work situation. So if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future, make sure you are letting your interest be known, but in a non aggressive sort of way.

But, you are probably wondering what you can do NOW since he no longer works with you. Well, the first thing you can do is contact him and ask him for his advice on something, assuming you have his contact information. This should only be done if you have contacted him previously or if you guys had small conversations before. You should not be looking up men’s numbers in the phone book or on Facebook.

After he has given you some advice, thank him and let him know that he has helped greatly. Then you will want to mention getting together for some coffee or something, it should be something light, where it doesn’t seem like a “date”. After you have met, smile and  thank him for a good time. If he is interested, he will be the one that schedules the next meeting.  Don’t ask him out again.