Should You Reach Out to a Former Coworker You Still Like?

I like a man I met 5 months ago. I want him to know I like him and I also want to know if he likes me too. We are not in constant communication since he no longer works at my office. What should I do?

Yes, it can be a horrible feeling when you really like someone and suddenly they’re no longer part of your everyday life.

But I wouldn’t beat yourself up for not doing something sooner.

If there’s something to take from this experience, it’s that you don’t always have to wait for a man to make every first move.

That doesn’t mean chasing him. It means giving your interest somewhere to go.

Sometimes that really can be as simple as making eye contact, smiling, starting a conversation, or showing a little more warmth than you would with someone you weren’t interested in. You’re not trying to convince him to like you. You’re simply making it easier for the two of you to discover whether there might be something there.

But what about now that he no longer works with you?

If you already have his contact information because the two of you exchanged it previously, I think it’s perfectly okay to reach out.

And you don’t necessarily need to invent a reason.

You could simply say that you enjoyed talking to him when you worked together and ask how he’s doing. If the conversation flows naturally, you can even suggest grabbing coffee sometime.

Then pay attention to what happens next.

Does he seem genuinely happy to hear from you? Does he keep the conversation going? Does he agree to meet? Does he initiate contact afterward or make an effort to see you again?

Those things will tell you much more than trying to analyze everything that happened when you worked together.

The important thing is that you don’t keep pushing something forward by yourself.

You can open the door. You just don't have to drag him through it.

If you reach out and he doesn’t respond, seems uninterested, or makes no effort to continue the connection, let that be information.

Because the goal isn’t simply to get the man you like.

It’s to find out whether the man you like is interested in choosing you too..