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Is He Moving Too Slowly For You?

Dear Claire,

I’ve been in a relationship for 6 months, but he seems to move really slowly. He told me that he noticed me 4 years back (we work at the same firm), and that when I started here he always looked out for me (not in a stalking way). He told me that he just had to take charge to say hi and officially meet me, and we have been together since then.

Just to give you an idea on him, he’s been with the same firm for 20 years. He is happy in his job, yes he did move up in the ranks and did make a name for himself. He told me he likes routine a lot and does not make hasty decisions.

I one time asked him why he holds back so much and he replied that he wants to make sure of what he wants…because he ‘s been hurt before. I also got hurt before, but I am not holding back…

Your program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever” started me thinking on do I want to commit to this guy, if he’s like this in our relationship now how will this be if he ever asks me to get married?

What I would like to know… am I wasting my time with this guy or is he just really slow?

Thanks, Marie

Hi, Marie —

You’re dating a quiet, slower man, and they have their own advantages and disadvantages, and depending on what YOU want out of a relationship I think they can make pretty awesome partners.

Here’s why…

The big advantages:

A quiet, slow man is usually very stable, not just emotionally, but also (very frequently) financially. For some people, this is a huge benefit. In other words, you get to be the dynamic, whirlwind person and he provides the grounding for that. You won’t be competing with him for attention, either.

Also, a man with a slow, deliberate approach can be quite a pleasure in the bedroom 🙂 He’ll take the time to get you where you want to go.

The potential problem:

The reason some women don’t like the slower-paced guys is because it just takes them forever to make a move! You might get frustrated at having to wait on him all the time. And if you’re hoping to commit within a short time-frame, you might have to pass this guy on by.

But not necessarily! Men secretly yearn for commitment and marriage and in Capture His Heart And Make Him Love You Forever, I teach you how to turn that yearning into a truly primal need.

Slow-paced guys are usually pretty happy for you to lead on making moves, for one thing. So be SURE to communicate openly and clearly with him on the important stuff. This means you have to know what you want, of course, so if you’re not clear, GET clear.

And when it comes to commitment, the key to working with a man like this is to let him know your timeframe. If you hope to get married within a year after starting to date someone, you need to be able to let him know this in a non-threatening way.

Best to you, Marie!

xoxxo

Claire

33 Signs That He Likes You…Even If He Hasn’t Said Much!

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20. His Body Language Will Mirror Yours.

Do you find when you fold your arms, he folds his too? This is a more involuntary movement on his part showing that he is engaged in the conversation.

Does he lean into you when you talk? This shows interest as well.

Don’t take this one as a full out profession of his love, but along with other signs this could show that he likes you.

21. He’s Respectful Of His Language Around You.

If you have shown yourself to be a respectable lady, even if he curses like a sailor in front of other people, he will be the perfect gentleman around you.

He won’t want to chance you being “turned off” by his nasty mouth.

22. He Will Assume You Are Taken But Hope That You Are Not.

When talking does he try to sneak a comment in about your “boyfriend”?

Ex: But your boyfriend wouldn’t approve of that would he?

This is his way of figuring out if you are attached. He doesn’t want to full out ask you if you have a boyfriend or not for fear that he will be shut down, but he tries to do it in a roundabout way so he can get the information he needs.

23. He Asks You If You Have A Boyfriend.

This is the more bold approach. He comes out and asks you if you are seeing anyone. If he doesn’t come up with a reason why he is asking for the information directly afterwards, he could have some deep interest.

Asking if you have a boyfriend, is him letting you know that he is open to a relationship if things go well with you two.

If you are bold enough, follow up his question with a question of your own, “Why do you ask that?” Then you will know where his intentions are.

24. He Wants To Do What You Want To Do.

He just enjoys being around you and it doesn’t matter what you are doing as long as he is around you he is happy.

You want to go to the grocery store to get a snack? Sure!
You want to find that old movie you watched when you were a kid at the video store? No problem.
You really want to go for a long walk along your favorite hiking trail? Why not?

When he has genuine interest, his main goal is to be around you, no matter what you are doing.

Be careful not to fall in love with him at this point. Many women enjoy the time spent together so much that they want even more of him, this is a mistake. Attraction needs some unpredictability to grow.

25. He Adheres To Your Needs.

Men that like you will listen to you and try to provide what you need. You mention you are thirsty and he is either asking you what you want to drink or has already pulled up to a convenience store to grab a bottle of water for you.

You mention you really want to go see a particular movie, he follows up with asking you what you are doing on Saturday.

A man that likes you will try to provide for you, in the little ways at first and then it will build up.

26. He Is Vulnerable With You And Shares His Feelings.

Men aren’t one to share their feelings or let their guard down easily. They are known as the “protectors” and how can they protect if they are seen as weak.

If he shares some sensitive information with you, it means that he trusts you and is willing to be open up around you. This shows a very deep interest, and should not be taken lightly.

27. He Tells You He Likes You.

This may seem like an obvious one, but sometimes after he has told you he liked you, he acts as if he never uttered those words.

But I assure you if he expressed initial interest and actually shared that he likes you, he was in fact into you.

28. He Always Looks And Smells Good Around You.

This one is a touch and go sign. If he always keeps up a good appearance, then this should be taken lightly, but if you find that he often looks and smells much better when you are around, he is trying to impress you.

This may even include him excessively cleaning his apartment or house, just to show you that he cares enough to make sure you are in a comfortable environment.

29. He Shares His Food With You.

There is no getting in between a man and his food, unless you are a woman that he has interest in.

Does he insist that you try his meal? Does he want to feed it to you? This is a definite sign that he is into you, especially if he attempts to feed it to you himself.

30. He Asks You To Move In With Him.

This is after you have been dating for some time. If a man asks you to share his domain with him, he is ready for commitment, assuming he just doesn’t need the extra roommate to pay the rent.

You want to be careful when analyzing this sign to see if he really wants to move things forward or if he is trying to be controlling or lower his living costs.

This step should be taken with caution. Be clear about what the goals are when you are living with each other. Does marriage follow? or does he just enjoy having your around?

Sometimes making the big plunge to move in together can be detrimental to your relationship moving forward, it’s best to have your own place where you both can retreat to.

Sometimes it can be the best thing that ever happened for your relationship, but you have to be clear on what you want and what the goals for the move are.

31. He Will Try To Impress You.

Has he tried his hand at the carnival game several times in order to win a prize for you? Trying to impress you with his skills of shooting a ball through a small basket or having the focus to squirt water on a small target is a sign that he is into you.

32. He Is Interested In Your Interests.

Do you find that he has an intense interest in things you like to do? Did you tell him you play volleyball and all of a sudden he invites you to a game at your Alma mater?

Does he DVR your favorite show to make sure you don’t miss it? He has some major interest in you.

33. He Will Be His Best Self.

Has he worked even harder since meeting you? Has his drive gotten stronger? Men will sometimes find themselves working harder towards their goals when they meet the right woman; they will want to be their best selves around them.

They want the woman to see that she’s going to be with a winner. If he has recently started doing things that show he has taken a renewed interest in his success, this could very well be a good sign that he is into you.

Now that you know that he likes you, find out how to keep his interest, even if he has started to pull away.

33 Signs That He Likes You…Even If He Hasn’t Said Much!

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10. He Brings You Flowers.

No man is going to purchase flowers for a woman unless there is genuine interest. Men are on the look-out for stalkers just as much as women.

He would not chance purchasing flowers or gifts for a woman he is not into. He wouldn’t want the aftermath of her googly eyes or her asking him “where the relationship is going?”

11. He Changes His Schedule To See You.

Does he have something that he loves doing? Maybe he works out a specific time everyday or him and his friends go bowling every week. If he is willing to re-arrange his “fun” time for you, he is really into you.

Enjoy this while it lasts though, once he gets what he wants, you, rarely will you find that he will change around his schedule to meet yours. This isn’t him being mean or harsh, it’s just him needing his free time to regroup and you’ll do better allowing him that time so when he comes back to you, he is even more interested in what you do together.

12. You Heard That He’s Been Asking About You.

This is one of those sure-fire signs. If you heard from a friend or someone else that he’s been asking about you and what you like, this means he is really into you.

If he’s been researching you by asking your friends about you, this is one of the signs that he wants to get to know you better and doesn’t want to mess up his first interaction with you by not knowing anything about you.

13. He Makes Breakfast For You.

Have you spent a long night together? Do you wake up in the morning and he’s cooking for you? Men don’t cook for women that they don’t want to see again.

If he’s cooking for you, he wants to make you feel “at home” and wants to communicate that you being with him for the night was not just a onetime occurrence; he likes having you around. What you do at this point is vital to whether the relationship grows or rather he starts to pull away.

It is not wise to take this gesture and run with it, what you do in the next few days will determine whether his attraction increases for you or he starts to retreat.

14. He Waits For You.

Men who have genuine interest in a long term relationship with you won’t want to rush you into being intimate with them.

They will give you time because they don’t want to seem like the type of guy that “only wants one thing from you”. He will enjoy spending time with you and although he may want to be intimate, he will be patient enough for it to happen naturally, because he sees this as more than a fling.

15. He Walks You Out To Your Car.

Is it really late or dark outside? Has he offered to walk you to your car? I know, I know, this is only the gentleman thing to do, but not all men will do this.

But if he insists on walking you to your car and making sure you get home safe, there may be some interest.

16. You Catch Him Staring At You.

Do you turn around and catch his eyes glued to you? This isn’t a sure-fire sign that he’s interested in a relationship. He could just be imagining how sex would be with you.

But if you find him on several attempts staring at you, this means he has at least some level of interest. If you like his advances, smile. Sometimes this will do the trick for him to approach you, since the barrier has been broken down and he knows there is a good chance that you will be receptive to his advances.

17. He Introduces You To His Family.

This is a good sign. If you are dating for a while and he introduces you to people that he cares about, he is into you. Men don’t automatically introduce women to their “inner circle”, especially their family, if they aren’t interested in the friendship or relationship developing into something further.

But if you’re only meeting his friends and people he “pows around with” don’t take this as an immediate sign of genuine interest. If you find that all you are meeting are his “player friends” or people he doesn’t give a hoot about, then this isn’t a good sign.

18. He’s Interested In Your Children.

If you have children, does he ask about them? If he is interested in more than “going to bed” with you, he will have some level of interest in your kids. He will want to know how they are doing and will comment on their antics.

If he doesn’t mention your kids at all or changes the subject when you mention them, his interest is merely in a quick fling and he doesn’t plan on staying long.

If he tells you he doesn’t want kids, this is even a bigger sign that things won’t work between you. You should take him at his word and RUN.

19. He’ll Be Your Date At Those Not So Fun Events.

Your grandmother having her 90th birthday party? Is he elated to be a part of it? He definitely has some major interest.

Events like these don’t automatically make someone want to jump at the chance at being your date, but if he is happy to accompany you, he has a lot of interest in you. And if he respects your family, he’s definitely worth a second thought.

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What Attracts Men To Women

Why Sexy Women End Up Getting Their Heart Broken

Few women actually know what attracts men to women.

You may falsely believe that being sexy or attractive is what gets a man to want to be in a relationship with you, but this is not the case. Being attractive plays a part in enticing a man, but men choose which woman they want to spend more time with based on other factors.

Note: Want to also learn how to be irresistible to him? Check out my post on how to be irresistible to men, 5 techniques.

I’m going to share with you 3 qualities that actually attract men to women. You’ll learn the truth about attraction – things you would never knew about men that give you a competitive edge when attracting him. This is because few women understand what men really look for in women.

A lot goes on in a good man’s head before he approaches you. And I’m not including the men that honk their horn at you or the men in the club or bar that grab your arm to get your attention. These men most likely honk and grab at anything that walks. When attracting a good man you’ll want to keep the following attraction truths in mind.

The Truth About Attraction: 3 Things He Wants

1. Are you comfortable in your own skin?

Before you attempt to attract any man you have to make sure you like yourself.

Duh, of course I like myself, what does that mean?

I mean you truly have to love yourself and what’s going on in your life right now, even if you feel your life is stressful, overwhelming, or pretty much just sucks right now. You have to have the attitude that “things might suck right now, but I’m going to get through and I’m still pretty darn awesome!”

You have to surround yourself with people who are motivators and will uplift you instead of people who are draining and bring you down. Feeling good about yourself is underrated; it truly is the magnet that attracts good men. I’m not saying that you can’t attract a man if you aren’t completely comfortable in your own skin, but believe me you won’t want to.

Here’s why:

Attracting a man into your life because you feel he will make you happier, rarely if ever works. Dressing up, flirting, and having men ask you out when you aren’t happy with who you are is like a gazelle fattening up…only for the lion to ravish it.

In case you didn’t know, men do take advantage of those women who have low self esteem because these women tend to be very easy.If you are already feeling pretty good about yourself that is great. But you’ll need more to seal the deal.

2. Are you effective at giving the green light?

You have to be an effective flirter. It scares most men to death to approach a woman they may be interested in….unless he does the task very often, then you really don’t want that type of man anyway. You have to give him a little something to go on, whether it’s a smile or a little eye contact.

A good flirting technique is to catch his eye and give an inviting smile, keep the glance for about 2-3 seconds and then look away. Look back at him and smile again. This way he knows that if he approaches you he most likely won’t risk rejection.

3. Can you do this for him?

Lastly, the woman who is able to attract a man for long term has the ability to make a man feel good about himself. The woman who makes a man feel good about himself will always win. You will want to learn how to effectively make a man feel good about himself.

This is not about giving fake compliments are acting overly into him. It’s about allowing him to do certain things for you. Let him pay for the first date and allow him to open your door.

Let him know by accepting his good deeds that you appreciate what he is doing. A man gets his pleasure in the relationship from making you happy. So if he feels that he will be effective in making you happy he will be more attracted to you because that will be what will make him feel good about himself.

Don’t trust my word for it, go out there are use this stuff, the results are amazing. If you want more amazing results, check out the The Guy Magnet website to learn how to be the woman that a man desires and wants to spend the rest of his life with.

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Signs He Likes Me

Top 9 Ways He Will Secretly Let You Know He’s NOT Interested

Are you trying to figure out if he is into you? Is he giving you mixed signals that he likes you? You are not alone. At some point, all women have wondered the extent of a man’s affection and I’m going to share with you the 9 ways you can tell if he is into you.

Please note: This is part 2 of a 2 part post, make sure you read the first part of signs that he likes you.

When trying to get a man to fall for you or in love with you, you need to be strategic about the way you do things once you find out that he is into you.

The most effective thing you can do is avoid giving him too much once you find out he likes you. What you do in the beginning affects the course of your relationship and you don’t want to make mistakes that are hard to undo later on. Check out the Guy Magnet video for some tips on how to start your relationship off right.

9 Clear Signs That He Isn’t All That Into You

The following signals are a pretty good indication that he is probably not as attracted to you (if at all) as you might like them to be:

1. Where does he look?

He averts his eyes when talking to you. This is body language and if he is doing this he probably would rather be somewhere else.

2. Has he done this?

He has asked for your phone number, but then didn’t call. Or, if he gave you his number and expects you to give him a call. Don’t fall into this trap. Often times when men give their number to women, they want the woman to chase them or they want to see just how desperate a woman is. He needs to ask for your number AND call you.

3. Broken Promises?

He says he is going to call and then he doesn’t. Ok, there could be a good excuse for this (and it had better be a good one!), however we all know it only takes two seconds to make a quick call or even send a text message! Or if you call him and he says he will call right back and he never gets around to it.

4. Disrespect?

Does he flirt with other women while he is around you? Not a good sign at all.

5. Is everything one-sided?

You call him 90% of the time. If he rarely, if ever calls you then chances are they aren’t as interested in you as you are in them. The best thing to do in this situation is to take some time off from calling you to see if he starts to pursue. If not, it’s best to move on.

6. Excuses?

He always makes up excuses as to why he can’t meet your friends or family. Why wouldn’t he want to meet your friends and family if he is really attracted to you and wants things to last?

7. Has he said this?

They told you they weren’t attracted to you (ok, that’s pretty obvious!) It’s hard to believe but for some women this isn’t enough. Believe me, if he’s said he’s not attracted or interested he isn’t. Even the most shy guys find a way to let you know of their interest.

8. Important dates?

He forgot your birthday – again. If he forgets important dates or events in your life, then he doesn’t place much importance on these dates in your life. You deserve better.

9. Avoidance?

He only answers his phone when he doesn’t know it is you calling. This person is too scared to tell you they’re not interested, so will avoid talking to you for as long as possible in hope that you will give up and move on.

DATER BEWARE: Sometimes it is difficult to tell if he is attracted to you or not if he is a genuinely nice person and does not want to hurt you. Or you could be confused by a person who is just simply a good conversationalist. Sometimes people just enjoy talking to other people and you should not mistake this as an attraction sign.

MEGA TIP: If he really likes you he will find a way to approach you. Even if he’s shy, he will find an excuse to see you or call you.

Missed the first part of this post? Find it here.

Wondering What Men Want? The One Thing They All Need

In our last lesson we talked about relaxing and enjoying the dating process. When men sense that you are desperate or are on a mission to find “the one” no matter how hard you try to hide it, they will sniff you out and start their getaway.

In this lesson I am going to share with you a very powerful tip that will put you way ahead of the game.

Whether you are dating someone, you have a huge crush (never too old for those), or if you are in a relationship, the following information will mean a huge shift in your relationships with men.

The most important thing to a man

A lot of women get this wrong, they believe that men want a pretty woman by their side or a new game console or a lot of money.

Although most men if you ask will agree that those things are very nice, if you know the reason or the root to why they are interested in these things it will put you way ahead of the game.

Men NEED to feel successful

Every man’s primary goal is to be successful. When a woman does a good job at this, a man will LOVE being around her.

There are a few ways a woman can achieve making a man feel successful. I’m going to share one with you in this lesson.

If You Are Dating or Even If You Aren’t:

I love love love this technique. It has always worked for me and it is really easy to implement and fun.
This technique actually will work with someone you are dating or have been with for a while. You can also use it on crushes, when applicable.

You can use this technique if you want to draw him closer to you. Make sure you are genuine when using this technique because it’s really easy to tell if you are faking it.

One way you can draw him closer to you is by giving him a compliment. I know this seems very simple and not even worth calling it a secret but the way you give your compliment will make the difference between drawing him closer to you or pushing him further away.

A compliment like “I really really had a good time with you” might sound great to you and you would probably love hearing this from a man but I’m going to challenge you to change the way you give compliments.

Instead of focusing on him, focus on what he provided. Sometimes when you put the focus on him, he gets scared and feels you are trying to pressure him into being with you.

Here’s a much better compliment.

Say that he has taken you to the movies and the movie was great. After the movie, talk about how great the movie was.

Say “I really loved that movie”, “I had such a good time”. “That was the best movie I’ve seen in a while”.
This is an easier way for you to make a compliment because you don’t have to worry about waiting for him to say something nice back to you.

And he will be smiling on the inside and most likely on the outside too, because HE has provided you with that experience and he has become SUCCESSFUL in making you happy.

Next Action: This week, whether you are dating or you have a crush or you are in a long term relationship, try this technique out. You can actually use it on any man to make them fell really good. If your dad buys you lunch, focus on how great the meal is. If you go out to a concert with a guy, talk about how much fun you had. If you are working on a project with him, talk about how well written his portion was.

For example if you’re working on a project with him, instead of “You are the best writer and researcher” say “Wow, this section is really good. It’s so well put.”

In our next lesson, we’ll be talking about why some guys don’t call back, even if you had a great date, and what you can do to get him pursuing you again.

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