Top 3 Strategies To Maintain His Interest

rblackbook - cat staring at fishMen lose interest all the time. It’s a fact. One day they are completely into you and the next day you’re wondering what you did wrong to make him become so distant. It’s natural for men to pull away a little, whether you are first dating or even if you have been in a relationship for a while.

You want to avoid taking this and micro analyzing your relationship, which can cause even further distance between you. Instead, use these 3 targeted strategies to bring him back where he should be, with you.

Used effectively, these strategies will serve the purpose of not only getting him to become interested again, but will have him wanting you even more, because you will be operating differently than most women he has ever dated.

Before I get into 3 things you can do to keep your man interested, I want to share with you one of the biggest mistakes women make when their man starts to lose interest and become more distant.

When he starts calling, texting, and contacting you less, one of the biggest mistakes you can make is to start a campaign proving to him that you are still interested in him. This means calling him more, sending sweet texts about how much you miss him, or any other number of things you may do to show him that you are still interested.

Don’t do this, this will most definitely cause him to pull away even further and maybe even stop all contact with you all together.

One strategy to move him towards stronger interest is the complete opposite of this method.

1. Give Him Some Space

The best thing to do when he starts to pull back a little is to allow him his space. Trust me, I know this is tough but it this strategy works so well and I still use it with my husband to direct his attention back to me.

Allowing a man his space actually helps him to draw closer to you.

If you can’t seem to get him off your mind during this time, plan time with your family and friends or do something you enjoy doing to keep your mind off him.
Implemented correctly, this strategy is extremely effective.

The next strategy is more of a warning flag of what not to do. If you are doing this, eliminating this type of talk about yourself will help draw him closer to you.

2. Eliminate the Negative Self Talk

Sometimes you may get in the habit of putting yourself down. For instance, you might share with your boyfriend that you think that your thighs are huge or that you can’t believe that you said something so stupid. Putting yourself down does not benefit anyone, it makes you look less self confident and your boyfriend feel really uncomfortable.

If you need to vent, call up one of your girlfriends for a quick pick me up. Excessively talking about your perceived defects makes him start to believe you.

One of the things that attracts us to other human beings is their confidence in themselves. No one wants to be on a losing team or a team that doesn’t believe they can win.

The last strategy involves diversifying your life, so he maintains his strong level of interest.

3. Diversify Your Life

This is most important, if you want to keep your man interested, be sure not to depend on him solely for your happiness. This can be difficult if you find that you enjoy spending time with him.

You don’t want to become needy, depending on him for all your enjoyment. So you have to work hard at developing other areas of your life to maintain some balance.

When you are needy you put a lot of unwanted pressure on him. So have fun with your friends, go out with your family. Don’t make it a habit of canceling dates with friends or family because your man wants to see you. Make him work around your schedule, he will be happy that you have more on your plate than just him.

A woman with other things going on in her life besides her man is sexy.

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1 Comment

  • kelly

    Reply Reply September 18, 2014

    love this….so insightful

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