Chances are if you are wondering whether he has feelings for you or not, he has given you mixed signals as to his interest. It’s not fair when his signals get you all excited and then you are unsure from one day to the next whether he has genuine interest.
Maybe you talk to him hours upon hours and he still hasn’t asked you out. Maybe he smiles at you often and offers to do things for you but he has given no indication that he wants to pursue anything further. Or maybe you feel that he’s shy and doesn’t want to come right out and say that he has interest.
At any rate, you will definitely know if the guy you are eying likes you by the end of this post.
Have you done this before?
I’ve had women tell me of embarrassing situations where they have poured their hearts out to a man only to figure out that he wasn’t interested at all! I even have my share of embarrassing stories where I have gone out on a limb thinking that certain actions from a man meant that he “liked me” only to find out that he wasn’t into me in that way at all.
And on the contrary, I’ve had several experiences where men have expressed to me that they had a “crush” and I was completely clueless.
It’s best to find out early on whether he has interest or not because the truth is that you can be attracted to a man for a very long time if you are assuming that he has interest where there is no interest at all. You can also run the risk of him losing interest if you don’t do the right things to let him know that you are interested in him.
What Signals Is He Giving You?
1. Types of Body Language He Gives To Show He’s Interested
You will want to pay attention to a man’s body language. You don’t want to be obvious when doing this so just take note. Body language is very telling because most of the time it’s unintentional.
You can always avoid saying things to someone, but most of the time you can not control your body language unless you are consciously trying too, and even then it’s hard.
If he is mirroring your movements, meaning that once you move your body in a certain way (example: putting your chin in your hand or brushing back your hair), he does the same or if his feet are pointed towards you, this is a good sign. It means that he is at least engaged in the conversation.
Feet are actually a very telling sign. Which way are his feet pointed? It never fails with me, I always know when I want to go because one of my feet is usually pointed towards the door, even though I am consciously smiling and listening to the other person talk. — This happened a lot at work when someone wanted to start a conversation just as I was about to leave.
But don’t take body language as the ONLY sign. A lot of times a man will mirror your body language if he is really enjoying the conversation. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he likes you in a romantic sort of way, it can just mean that you are interesting and he enjoys talking to you.
2. Who Has He Been Talking To?
This is a very good sign if you have gone out a couple of times but he hasn’t asked you to be his “girlfriend”. If he is introducing you to people close to him there is a good chance that he wants to keep you around. This is actually very telling and shows that he could see you as a woman he wants to commit to.
You should also pay close attention to when he is talking to you. You want to look for instances where he says he has mentioned you to a family member or a close friend.
Men rarely mention “friends” or women that they want to be friends with to other people in their circle. So if you meet someone close to your “crush” and they already know about you, there is a good chance that he likes you.
3. Has he ever flirted with you?
This is something that goes two fold. Sometimes in order to get a man to flirt with you, you have to give him a positive signal that you are going to be receptive to it. If you always go around pouting OR you have low self confidence and never smile at men, it will be difficult for him to know that you are “available” or approachable.
Many men don’t approach women or give them more positive signs that they actually like them because they don’t want to be rejected. So it is up to you to give him those positive signals so he will come over a approach you. In my get the relationship you want mini course I share how to use flirting techniques that don’t make you seem desperate or that you are trying too hard.
4. What types of questions does he ask?
Most men are goal focused. So this is a very telling sign. Often times men won’t ask a lot of personal questions about you or your life. So if you notice that a man is trying to get to know you better, pay attention. Is he asking you what you like or dislike? Is he trying to see what you do on the weekends? Does he show a genuine interest in you? Does he ask you your feelings about certain subjects?
5. Does he try to make you happy?
This is simple but it is HUGE. If he is trying to make you happy, this most likely means he has taken an interest in you. But be sure you know the difference between a man that is very flirtatious with most women and one who is truly interested in you. I would suggest observing how he interacts with other women. A man who is nice to other women shows that he is a gentleman, but a man who is “beyond nice” could be a flirter or even a man who just wants to see how many fish he can catch! Beware!
6. Has he asked for your number?
This is a very good sign, but still not the absolute best sign. If he genuinely needs your number for a project at work or for a group project at school, this is not what I am referring to.
But if there is really no reason for him to have your number but simply to call you sometime, this is a very good sign. Allow him to call you. But don’t take it hard if he doesn’t, some men take pride in just collecting numbers just to see how many women will bite.
7. Has he asked you out?
There is no better sign than this, if he has asked you out, he likes you. This is the only way you will know for sure, unless he just comes out and tells you that he likes you. I’m not talking about to a school dance or a work event where it would be awkward if you didn’t have a date, I’m referring to dinner or a movie.
Don’t Make This Mistake When You Like A Guy
Here’s a quick story about one of my friends, who made a major mistake when she liked a guy. It’s a pretty common mistake, actually, as crazy as it sounds.
My friend Melissa is usually a pretty smart girl. In fact she’s going to school to get her Phd.
She would probably kill me if she knew I was telling this story to you, but I’m going to risk it because the lesson here is going to help you tremendously. She’s since
If she finds out, I’ll probably have to pull it off this site, so read it while you can:)
When we were in undergrad, Melissa had this huge crush on a guy in one of our classes. He had given her some signals that he liked her, so she thought.
He would smile at her and even accepted a lunch date with her. (her first mistake)
After a while she felt things weren’t going as fast as they should so she researched (stalked) him and found out where he lived.
She was already planning on going on a road trip but decided to change her route so she would pass by his hometown. (2nd mistake)
She casually called him (actually it was pretty planned) and told him that she had a small gift for him, but it was nothing huge. (3rd mistake)
He agreed to meet her to pick it up.
But when she got there…..He didn’t show up!
Here’s Why I’m Telling You This Story…
If you like a guy, you’ve probably done some pretty crazy things to get him to notice you. This is because there is probably a lot of emotion there and you can envision yourself being with him or you being the perfect girl for him. That’s ok, but you have to direct that emotion in the right direction to get results.
Avoid Doing This
First of all, you should RARELY if ever ask a guy out when you are first getting to know each other. I discuss why this is an unfavorable act in my free mini course.
Secondly, I’m pretty sure being a stalker is not attractive…you’re not tricking him with your “accidental meetings”.
No Gifts (for now)
Lastly, many women make mistakes when giving gifts to guys, it’s not so much the giving but what type of gift it is and when in the relationship it is given.
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