Do you feel like he’s giving you mixed signals as to whether he is interested in you or not? You may not know this, but this is very common behavior in men. He will give you strong signs that he is interested and then the next day it will be like he never expressed interest before.
I’m going to tell you 33 ways you will know he has genuine interest and then I’m going to tell you exactly how to keep his interest so you never have to worry about his confusing signals again. I’m also going to share with you how to tell the difference between someone who is genuinely interested in a relationship and someone that just wants to “bed” you. That way you can focus your attention on the men that want to be in a relationship and fall in love with you!
1. He asks about your life.
I’m not talking about, “how has your day been?” I’m referring to questions about your life goals, what you do on the weekends, and even if you see yourself having a big family or a small family.
Usually when a man is interested he wants to see where he will fit in your life if he decides to pursue a relationship. Men aren’t one for idle or small talk so if he is asking you these questions he has some level of interest in you.
You also want to examine the interaction in context. If he is a sales person at a car dealership and he is asking loaded questions, he could just be trying to build a business relationship with you to make a sale or determine if you will actually be able to afford a car.
2. He offers to help.
So how do you tell the difference between him being a gentleman and him having genuine interest? There are a lot of men out there that will be a help because it’s the right thing to do, think of these men as the ones who always open the door for you when you enter the gas station.
But, if he’s offering to help you with a large task like cleaning out your garage or helping you with a term paper, he definitely has some level of interest. Men aren’t short of exciting things they can do; many men have their time occupied with work, video games, or just chilling out doing absolutely nothing – they love that stuff.
So, if he has offered to help you with something that is less than appealing, you can count on the fact that he has some level of interest.
3. He calls you.
This may seem simple, but a man that is interested in you will call you if he has your number. If he has your number and is interested, he is not going to be sitting on that information.
Men aren’t one for idle or small talk, but if he is doing that with you, chances are that he has a high level of interest. Men are goal focused so the how are you doing talk will be highly difficult for them to “fake” unless they are truly interested in getting to know you better.
4. He creates a cute nickname for you.
Has he created a nickname for you? Not one that would make you feel self conscious or is ridiculing you in any way. I’m talking about a cute and clever nickname that he insists on calling you.
This is one of best ways you can tell that a man likes you. Men don’t want to build up a relationship any further with a woman they have no interest in. And they don’t want to give you the wrong impression that they like you when they really don’t. Creating a nickname for you is his way of having something that only you and him share.
5. He asks you out.
This is one of the best ways to determine whether he has genuine interest. Has he asked you out on a date? I don’t mean to an event where it would be awkward if he didn’t have a date, but something he has planned and really wants your company in particular.
If he took the time to plan something you would really like, chances are he has some feelings for you.
6. He asks you out way ahead of time.
If he is asking you to go out with him at least a week in advance he has some interest in you, because in his mind he wants to secure that spot before anyone else creeps in and takes it.
Men that have genuine interest and are enamored by you will assume that other men want to take you out as well, so he’ll be sure to put himself on your calendar early.
Men that ask you out at the last minute often don’t respect your time or somehow you have given him the indication that it is ok. His initial plans could have fell through or he’s letting you hold the spot until he finds someone better he would like to hang out with.
7. He tries to make you laugh.
If he is making jokes when it is just you and him, chances are he wants to see you smile. Men that have interest in a woman want to see them happy and what better way than to make you laugh?
8. He doesn’t talk about other women in front of you.
A man who has genuine interest will not talk about other women he has dated in front of you because he won’t want to be seen as the “player” type.
Men know most women want to be in committed, exclusive relationships with a man, so he’s not going to ruin his chances by talking about other women that he is into or other girls that he has dated around you.
9. He listens to you.
This may seem like a basic thing, but believe me, if he is actually listening to what you have to say, he may have some interest in you.
This is even more apparent if he can remember your likes and dislikes and uses that information to enhance his interactions with you. Maybe you mentioned to him a song that you really like and all of a sudden he’s turning up the volume on his radio when it comes on. You may have mentioned that you like gummy bears, and conveniently he purchases them as a snack when you go to the movies.