I mean honestly, if you can uncover the answer to this question, you can really make some awesome changes in your dating life and in relationships.
If you don’t understand why men pull away and how to reel him back in, you can miss out on some great relationships.
Here’s the easy thing to do:
You could just call him a “jerk” or a “loser” and move on with your life. But this really doesn’t get to the real issue of why he’s pulling away. You can only go through so many “jerks” and “losers” before you decide you are going to get to the root of the issue.
Yeah, it does really suck when it seems you haven’t done anything wrong with a man and he starts to lose interest when he had so much at first.
Was he playing a game?
Did he even really like you in the first place?
I’m going to go over a few reasons why your man may be pulling away and what you can do to reel him back in.
First, let’s uncover the top reasons why men pull away.
1. You changed it up
What does this mean? This means that you became the pursuer instead of the one being pursued. Here’s how the switch happens. He’s doing all these great things for you and now you feel that you should reciprocate so he will know how much you care about him too.
This is one of the most common mistakes women make. It’s the match game. You feel that since he is doing things for you, the only way you can show you interest is to do something equally nice for him.
In a place called woman land this absolutely works. If you want to build your relationships closer to your female friends, this is a great technique. Your female friendships will be even stronger.
But we’re trying to get a man here right? So the technique is a little different. You show your appreciation not by giving, you show your appreciation by appreciating him.
What the heck are you talking about?
I’m talking about focusing on what he has provided. For example, if he has taken you to the movies and you really enjoyed your time, it will be much more effective to tell him how great the movie was instead of trying to figure out where you are going to take him on the next date.
When you take away the pursuit from the man, it’s less exciting for him. He becomes less attracted to you and moves on to a woman that offers a challenge.
2. It’s Natural
Men also pull away because it’s natural. It has nothing to do with you. This can happen when you first start dating. He is still trying to figure out his feelings for you and during this time he may pull away. This may also happen if you are already in a relationship.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make during this time is to ask him questions about the relationship or get angry at him for not contacting you, calling you, or communicating with you.
This is where most women lose it and instead of using this as an opportunity to bring him closer, make all the wrong mistakes to make men say nay instead of yay.
3. He’s losing interest in you
Often times when this happens, it has to do with the Paleolithic Principle (more on this in this video). It’s an interesting concept that explains why men in relationships pull away.
The Number One Step In Reeling Him Back In
The first step to reeling him back in is to allow him the time to pull away. It may seem counterintuitive to do this. You may think if you give him the time, he’ll find someone else or he’ll pull away even more.
Allowing men this time may be difficult for you because it requires a lot of patience. But if you are able to give a man his time, it is highly effective. Use this time to refocus on yourself and enjoy your life. Sometimes, this is all it takes to bring him back.
Make sure that you watch this video on Why Men Pull Away while it’s still online also.
It teaches you some amazing things about how the male mind works, and how to be thought of as a desirable woman who truly ‘gets him’