Robyn Lee

7 Strategies You Can Use To Make Him Fall In Love…Even If He Has Started To Pull Away!

So you are dating a man and things have been going well, but you haven’t really gotten him to the point where he has fallen head over heels in love with you like you have for him?

You want to move to the next step of commitment, be exclusive, and stop playing these games of cat and mouse, where one minute he is doing all the right things and the next it’s like he can care less whether you are with him or not.

I’m going to share with you 7 effective strategies to get your man to fall in love with you. If you are looking for quick tips to manipulate him into loving you, this is NOT the right place for you. But if you want to build sustaining love that stands the test of time, you have come to the right place. Be sure to read ALL 7 strategies as they work best together and you will be amazed at the wonderful results you get by using them.

How To Make Him Fall In Love

Getting a man to fall in love with you on his own accord is kind of like having a successful job interview. There are a lot of ingredients that can help you stand out from all the other candidates (other women).

Here’s the thing, a lot of women do things that cause a man to pull away instead of wanting to move towards commitment with her (I’ll discuss a few of them here), so when a man encounters a woman like you who knows the things that make him fall in love, he will be more than willing to make you his, exclusively. When it comes to attraction and making a man fall for you, it’s not all that difficult to do, if you are doing the right things.

You May Have To Unlearn Some Things

But I have to warn you, although these strategies are extremely effective and simple, you have to unlearn some things that you have thought to be effective in the past.

Once you start putting these strategies into use the correct way, you will find that not only the man who you want to fall in love with you react in a different way, but you will find you are building better relationships with other men too.

Strategy #1

This is actually the backbone of ALL the strategies, it’s like a prerequisite. If you don’t have it, you can’t use the other strategies effectively.

In fact, if you don’t possess this quality, you WILL NOT want to make him fall in love with you at all. This is because, you have probably attracted the WRONG man for you.

The first strategy is all about loving yourself. In order to use the following strategies you have to LOVE YOURSELF first. I’m not talking about the superficial type of love you see on Social Media, where people are posting a zillion selfies of themselves in different types of mirrors.

This is not what I call self love. Self love comes from a more authentic and organic place within you. It’s been ok with yourself and all your imperfections.

It’s really looking in the mirror and appreciating the person you were in the past, because you have learned so much, loving the person you are now, and being excited about your daily growth that is going to create an even better you each and everyday.

Part of loving yourself is taking care of yourself physically and mentally. You should have goals for your future that are beyond getting married and having millions of children with him. What do you want out of your life? What steps are you taking to move yourself towards that?

Are your goals authentic and truly yours? When creating these goals for yourself make sure that they are YOUR goals and not what someone else has projected upon you. What do YOU really want out of life? If you are stuck as to what you want, don’t get stressed or frustrated, you are in a great place. You should start by experimenting with different activities that catch your eye.

One way to give yourself a great mental boost is to write down your goals and write down just ONE activity you can do to move you toward that goal and start doing it now. It doesn’t take an entire month for you to get that mental boost, sometimes it just takes a day of loving yourself enough to work towards what you want.

Long Relationship Issues: How To Keep His Interest (Still)

A lot of times during attraction, you will find that a man will be initially attracted to you and show you genuine signs that he is into you and after a few weeks of dating it’s like he didn’t even share that initial interest.

What happened? You were having a good time and then everything stopped.

You may even consider talking to him about his “pulling away”, only to be given some half assed response about how he is busier these days or he’s had a lot on his mind.

But it doesn’t seem that this would cause a man to retreat like this. After all, you’ve been busy and have had a lot of things on your mind, but you made time for him.

This is super frustrating but there is a way to maintain the interest that you had when you first started to date him and even have him fall for you even more over the upcoming weeks.

In order to use this to your advantage you have to understand what makes a woman attractive to a man besides her looks.

A woman that has the ability to get commitment from a man almost always has these 2 qualities about her. This is how she maintains his interest.

Exclusivity – I talk more about this in my free attraction mini course, but basically the idea is that a woman who is “exclusive” will hold a man’s attention longer.

This doesn’t mean trying to be someone you aren’t, but it does mean valuing your time. Here’s what I mean, if you have planned to go out with a group of your friends on a Friday night, keeping your date with them will keep him more interested in you than flaking on your friends and instead going out with him because “he can’t wait to see you.”

What that communicates to a man is that you value your time and that you aren’t waiting around for him.

One way you can do this is to keep your schedule full and know what you are doing from day to day.

Ever had someone ask you what were you up to on Friday and you said “nothing”? That communicates to the other person that you are easily accessible and they don’t value you as much.

Even if you aren’t going out to a big event, your time should be precious. Maybe you just plan to catch up on some reading or organize your closet.

This isn’t about playing games or pretending that you are busy, but it is about not being so accessible. If it’s one thing that kills attraction, it’s constant availability and being a the other person’s beck and call.

Your time together is more exciting when he’s not seeing you every single day. I’ll show you exactly how to navigate through these scenarios while being yourself when you sign up for my free attraction mini course here.

Standards – The second thing that keeps his interest is your level of standards. Some women mistakenly believe that by allowing him to do anything he wants to do that his love will grow closer.

This can’t be farther from the truth. A lot of times you don’t even have to verbally express your standards, just by your actions you let him know that you are a high quality woman and he has to “work” to get you; but it will be “work” he enjoys.

These two reasons explain the phenomenon of why some women who weren’t even interested in their great guys at first end up marrying them.

Think about it, when you aren’t interested in someone, you are less likely to fall head over heels for them and start doing things you wouldn’t normally do to get more of their attention.

33 Signs That He Likes You…Even If He Hasn’t Said Much!

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20. His Body Language Will Mirror Yours.

Do you find when you fold your arms, he folds his too? This is a more involuntary movement on his part showing that he is engaged in the conversation.

Does he lean into you when you talk? This shows interest as well.

Don’t take this one as a full out profession of his love, but along with other signs this could show that he likes you.

21. He’s Respectful Of His Language Around You.

If you have shown yourself to be a respectable lady, even if he curses like a sailor in front of other people, he will be the perfect gentleman around you.

He won’t want to chance you being “turned off” by his nasty mouth.

22. He Will Assume You Are Taken But Hope That You Are Not.

When talking does he try to sneak a comment in about your “boyfriend”?

Ex: But your boyfriend wouldn’t approve of that would he?

This is his way of figuring out if you are attached. He doesn’t want to full out ask you if you have a boyfriend or not for fear that he will be shut down, but he tries to do it in a roundabout way so he can get the information he needs.

23. He Asks You If You Have A Boyfriend.

This is the more bold approach. He comes out and asks you if you are seeing anyone. If he doesn’t come up with a reason why he is asking for the information directly afterwards, he could have some deep interest.

Asking if you have a boyfriend, is him letting you know that he is open to a relationship if things go well with you two.

If you are bold enough, follow up his question with a question of your own, “Why do you ask that?” Then you will know where his intentions are.

24. He Wants To Do What You Want To Do.

He just enjoys being around you and it doesn’t matter what you are doing as long as he is around you he is happy.

You want to go to the grocery store to get a snack? Sure!
You want to find that old movie you watched when you were a kid at the video store? No problem.
You really want to go for a long walk along your favorite hiking trail? Why not?

When he has genuine interest, his main goal is to be around you, no matter what you are doing.

Be careful not to fall in love with him at this point. Many women enjoy the time spent together so much that they want even more of him, this is a mistake. Attraction needs some unpredictability to grow.

25. He Adheres To Your Needs.

Men that like you will listen to you and try to provide what you need. You mention you are thirsty and he is either asking you what you want to drink or has already pulled up to a convenience store to grab a bottle of water for you.

You mention you really want to go see a particular movie, he follows up with asking you what you are doing on Saturday.

A man that likes you will try to provide for you, in the little ways at first and then it will build up.

26. He Is Vulnerable With You And Shares His Feelings.

Men aren’t one to share their feelings or let their guard down easily. They are known as the “protectors” and how can they protect if they are seen as weak.

If he shares some sensitive information with you, it means that he trusts you and is willing to be open up around you. This shows a very deep interest, and should not be taken lightly.

27. He Tells You He Likes You.

This may seem like an obvious one, but sometimes after he has told you he liked you, he acts as if he never uttered those words.

But I assure you if he expressed initial interest and actually shared that he likes you, he was in fact into you.

28. He Always Looks And Smells Good Around You.

This one is a touch and go sign. If he always keeps up a good appearance, then this should be taken lightly, but if you find that he often looks and smells much better when you are around, he is trying to impress you.

This may even include him excessively cleaning his apartment or house, just to show you that he cares enough to make sure you are in a comfortable environment.

29. He Shares His Food With You.

There is no getting in between a man and his food, unless you are a woman that he has interest in.

Does he insist that you try his meal? Does he want to feed it to you? This is a definite sign that he is into you, especially if he attempts to feed it to you himself.

30. He Asks You To Move In With Him.

This is after you have been dating for some time. If a man asks you to share his domain with him, he is ready for commitment, assuming he just doesn’t need the extra roommate to pay the rent.

You want to be careful when analyzing this sign to see if he really wants to move things forward or if he is trying to be controlling or lower his living costs.

This step should be taken with caution. Be clear about what the goals are when you are living with each other. Does marriage follow? or does he just enjoy having your around?

Sometimes making the big plunge to move in together can be detrimental to your relationship moving forward, it’s best to have your own place where you both can retreat to.

Sometimes it can be the best thing that ever happened for your relationship, but you have to be clear on what you want and what the goals for the move are.

31. He Will Try To Impress You.

Has he tried his hand at the carnival game several times in order to win a prize for you? Trying to impress you with his skills of shooting a ball through a small basket or having the focus to squirt water on a small target is a sign that he is into you.

32. He Is Interested In Your Interests.

Do you find that he has an intense interest in things you like to do? Did you tell him you play volleyball and all of a sudden he invites you to a game at your Alma mater?

Does he DVR your favorite show to make sure you don’t miss it? He has some major interest in you.

33. He Will Be His Best Self.

Has he worked even harder since meeting you? Has his drive gotten stronger? Men will sometimes find themselves working harder towards their goals when they meet the right woman; they will want to be their best selves around them.

They want the woman to see that she’s going to be with a winner. If he has recently started doing things that show he has taken a renewed interest in his success, this could very well be a good sign that he is into you.

Now that you know that he likes you, find out how to keep his interest, even if he has started to pull away.

33 Signs That He Likes You…Even If He Hasn’t Said Much!

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10. He Brings You Flowers.

No man is going to purchase flowers for a woman unless there is genuine interest. Men are on the look-out for stalkers just as much as women.

He would not chance purchasing flowers or gifts for a woman he is not into. He wouldn’t want the aftermath of her googly eyes or her asking him “where the relationship is going?”

11. He Changes His Schedule To See You.

Does he have something that he loves doing? Maybe he works out a specific time everyday or him and his friends go bowling every week. If he is willing to re-arrange his “fun” time for you, he is really into you.

Enjoy this while it lasts though, once he gets what he wants, you, rarely will you find that he will change around his schedule to meet yours. This isn’t him being mean or harsh, it’s just him needing his free time to regroup and you’ll do better allowing him that time so when he comes back to you, he is even more interested in what you do together.

12. You Heard That He’s Been Asking About You.

This is one of those sure-fire signs. If you heard from a friend or someone else that he’s been asking about you and what you like, this means he is really into you.

If he’s been researching you by asking your friends about you, this is one of the signs that he wants to get to know you better and doesn’t want to mess up his first interaction with you by not knowing anything about you.

13. He Makes Breakfast For You.

Have you spent a long night together? Do you wake up in the morning and he’s cooking for you? Men don’t cook for women that they don’t want to see again.

If he’s cooking for you, he wants to make you feel “at home” and wants to communicate that you being with him for the night was not just a onetime occurrence; he likes having you around. What you do at this point is vital to whether the relationship grows or rather he starts to pull away.

It is not wise to take this gesture and run with it, what you do in the next few days will determine whether his attraction increases for you or he starts to retreat.

14. He Waits For You.

Men who have genuine interest in a long term relationship with you won’t want to rush you into being intimate with them.

They will give you time because they don’t want to seem like the type of guy that “only wants one thing from you”. He will enjoy spending time with you and although he may want to be intimate, he will be patient enough for it to happen naturally, because he sees this as more than a fling.

15. He Walks You Out To Your Car.

Is it really late or dark outside? Has he offered to walk you to your car? I know, I know, this is only the gentleman thing to do, but not all men will do this.

But if he insists on walking you to your car and making sure you get home safe, there may be some interest.

16. You Catch Him Staring At You.

Do you turn around and catch his eyes glued to you? This isn’t a sure-fire sign that he’s interested in a relationship. He could just be imagining how sex would be with you.

But if you find him on several attempts staring at you, this means he has at least some level of interest. If you like his advances, smile. Sometimes this will do the trick for him to approach you, since the barrier has been broken down and he knows there is a good chance that you will be receptive to his advances.

17. He Introduces You To His Family.

This is a good sign. If you are dating for a while and he introduces you to people that he cares about, he is into you. Men don’t automatically introduce women to their “inner circle”, especially their family, if they aren’t interested in the friendship or relationship developing into something further.

But if you’re only meeting his friends and people he “pows around with” don’t take this as an immediate sign of genuine interest. If you find that all you are meeting are his “player friends” or people he doesn’t give a hoot about, then this isn’t a good sign.

18. He’s Interested In Your Children.

If you have children, does he ask about them? If he is interested in more than “going to bed” with you, he will have some level of interest in your kids. He will want to know how they are doing and will comment on their antics.

If he doesn’t mention your kids at all or changes the subject when you mention them, his interest is merely in a quick fling and he doesn’t plan on staying long.

If he tells you he doesn’t want kids, this is even a bigger sign that things won’t work between you. You should take him at his word and RUN.

19. He’ll Be Your Date At Those Not So Fun Events.

Your grandmother having her 90th birthday party? Is he elated to be a part of it? He definitely has some major interest.

Events like these don’t automatically make someone want to jump at the chance at being your date, but if he is happy to accompany you, he has a lot of interest in you. And if he respects your family, he’s definitely worth a second thought.

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33 Signs That He Likes You…Even If He Hasn’t Said Much!

Do you feel like he’s giving you mixed signals as to whether he is interested in you or not? You may not know this, but this is very common behavior in men. He will give you strong signs that he is interested and then the next day it will be like he never expressed interest before.

I’m going to tell you 33 ways you will know he has genuine interest and then I’m going to tell you exactly how to keep his interest so you never have to worry about his confusing signals again. I’m also going to share with you how to tell the difference between someone who is genuinely interested in a relationship and someone that just wants to “bed” you. That way you can focus your attention on the men that want to be in a relationship and fall in love with you!

Ready?

1. He Asks About Your Life.

I’m not talking about, “how has your day been?” I’m referring to questions about your life goals, what you do on the weekends, and even if you see yourself having a big family or a small family.

Usually when a man is interested he wants to see where he will fit in your life if he decides to pursue a relationship. Men aren’t one for idle or small talk so if he is asking you these questions he has some level of interest in you.

You also want to examine the interaction in context. If he is a sales person at a car dealership and he is asking loaded questions, he could just be trying to build a business relationship with you to make a sale or determine if you will actually be able to afford a car.

2. He Offers To Help.

So how do you tell the difference between him being a gentleman and him having genuine interest? There are a lot of men out there that will be a help because it’s the right thing to do, think of these men as the ones who always open the door for you when you enter the gas station.

But, if he’s offering to help you with a large task like cleaning out your garage or helping you with a term paper, he definitely has some level of interest. Men aren’t short of exciting things they can do; many men have their time occupied with work, video games, or just chilling out doing absolutely nothing – they love that stuff.

So, if he has offered to help you with something that is less than appealing, you can count on the fact that he has some level of interest.

3. He Calls You.

This may seem simple, but a man that is interested in you will call you if he has your number. If he has your number and is interested, he is not going to be sitting on that information.

Men aren’t one for idle or small talk, but if he is doing that with you, chances are that he has a high level of interest. Men are goal focused so the how are you doing talk will be highly difficult for them to “fake” unless they are truly interested in getting to know you better.

4. He Creates A Cute Nickname For You.

Has he created a nickname for you? Not one that would make you feel self conscious or is ridiculing you in any way. I’m talking about a cute and clever nickname that he insists on calling you.

This is one of best ways you can tell that a man likes you. Men don’t want to build up a relationship any further with a woman they have no interest in. And they don’t want to give you the wrong impression that they like you when they really don’t. Creating a nickname for you is his way of having something that only you and him share.

5. He Asks You Out.

This is one of the best ways to determine whether he has genuine interest. Has he asked you out on a date? I don’t mean to an event where it would be awkward if he didn’t have a date, but something he has planned and really wants your company in particular.

If he took the time to plan something you would really like, chances are he has some feelings for you.

6. He Asks You Out Way Ahead Of Time.

If he is asking you to go out with him at least a week in advance he has some interest in you, because in his mind he wants to secure that spot before anyone else creeps in and takes it.

Men that have genuine interest and are enamored by you will assume that other men want to take you out as well, so he’ll be sure to put himself on your calendar early.

Men that ask you out at the last minute often don’t respect your time or somehow you have given him the indication that it is ok. His initial plans could have fell through or he’s letting you hold the spot until he finds someone better he would like to hang out with.

7. He Tries To Make You Laugh.

If he is making jokes when it is just you and him, chances are he wants to see you smile. Men that have interest in a woman want to see them happy and what better way than to make you laugh?

8. He Doesn’t Talk About Other Women In Front Of You.

A man who has genuine interest will not talk about other women he has dated in front of you because he won’t want to be seen as the “player” type.

Men know most women want to be in committed, exclusive relationships with a man, so he’s not going to ruin his chances by talking about other women that he is into or other girls that he has dated around you.

9. He Listens To You.

This may seem like a basic thing, but believe me, if he is actually listening to what you have to say, he may have some interest in you.

This is even more apparent if he can remember your likes and dislikes and uses that information to enhance his interactions with you. Maybe you mentioned to him a song that you really like and all of a sudden he’s turning up the volume on his radio when it comes on. You may have mentioned that you like gummy bears, and conveniently he purchases them as a snack when you go to the movies.

Help! I’m In Love With My Best Friend

I have been friends with a guy for over 6 years. Our families know each other and he has shared some of his deepest secrets with me. I care about him a lot but he doesn’t seem to know what’s standing right in front of him! I’m just trying to understand if I should pursue this relationship or just leave it alone. – In love with a friend

Dear In Love With a Friend,

Being in love with a friend can be difficult because you feel that you know your friend and what’s best for him, in this case you, but it seems like the friend has not realized it.

I always suggest dating other guys in these types of situations, because when your heart is solely focused on your friend, then you give off the “I would do anything for you” sort of feel to your friend and that only serves to push your friend further away.

This doesn’t mean that you have to give up on you and your friend being more than friends, it just means that you are seeing what else is out there so you won’t be putting so much pressure on your friend to be yours.

Sometimes him seeing you having fun with your life and dating is all it takes for him to see that, man, I might really miss out OR you may find that you find someone that is an even better match for you through dating.

I would suggest allowing him to see your true value by you just being yourself. If you want to bring up the prospect of being in a relationship with him without being too forward, I have a great tip that I learned from a friend.

Tell him that you had the weirdest or strangest dream. Tell him in the dream you saw you and him together. Then ask him, “Isn’t that crazy?” Then when he gives his answer, it’s going to let you know where his mindset is for a relationship.

No matter what, I wouldn’t put pressure on him to start a relationship with you. Sometimes you may believe that it is obvious that you should be together, but if you don’t allow him to pursue you and see that for himself, he will always be wondering whether he is in the relationship because you forced it or because he really wanted it. Remember, every woman deserves the feeling of being pursued and if your friend isn’t pursuing you, you will not have the true satisfaction of being wanted and desired by a man.

Sign up for my 5 lesson mini course on moving from dating to commitment here to learn how to navigate the dating to commitment process, attraction mini course.

Have you ever been in love with a friend? What has been your experience? Share below in the comments.

Robyn

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